Meeting new people and making friends is hard. However, with a little effort and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, you can easily make friends. You can start by going out and going to places to hang out like clubs or volunteer organizations. When you start meeting new people, take the time to get to know them better and travel with them. You also have to give up time and energy to maintain this friendship.
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Method 1 of 3: Finding a Place to Make New Friends
Step 1. Take some time
If you want to start a friendship, you're going to have to go out and meet other people. If you're just sitting on your chin alone, it's impossible for people to come over. For example, if you're still in school, try sitting with other people. You don't have to sit at a table surrounded by people. There were only 2 people there was enough.
- Remember, friends may not just come if you are just engrossed in sitting in front of the computer at home.
- If you have time to go out and meet people, do it! For example, try attending a social event at school or work. If someone invites you to a party, come!
Step 2. Join an organization or club to meet new people
This method is perfect for those of you who want to meet people with similar interests. You don't have to have many common interests to befriend them. Even 2 people who have little in common can still make good friends. However, if you like a particular topic, you can look for places where you can meet people with similar interests.
- For example, you could join a science club at school, a marching band, a knitting group, or another group.
- If you can play an instrument or sing, join a band or choir. For those of you with an athletic body who like to try new and challenging things, you are more suited to joining a sports team.
- If you are a religious person, a church, mosque, temple, temple, or other place of worship is the right place because there you will meet people who share the same beliefs.
Tips:
There are many online media that can help you find groups with similar interests. Try searching for local groups on Meetup.com or search for groups and events in your area on Facebook.
Step 3. Participate in volunteer activities
Volunteering can be a great way to meet people of all ages. Through this kind of activity, you can build relationships with other people. You will meet people who also want to change something; people who have the same reason.
- For example, you might find time to help out at a nursing home, hospital, animal shelter, or nonprofit organization.
- Search the internet or contact your nearest charity to find volunteer activities near where you live.
Step 4. Try to reconnect with people you already know
Maybe you've known some people who have the potential to be good friends. Try to get to know your coworkers, classmates, or friends on social media better.
For example, for those of you who have a son, you may know the parents of your son's friend. Planning playtime together for the kids can be a great way to get to know some new friends
Method 2 of 3: Taking the First Step
Step 1. Look for opportunities to chat with other people
You can join a club, go to school, or go to a place of worship, but without engaging in conversation with other people, you'll still have a hard time making friends. That way, you don't really need to join an organization just to get along. In fact, every time you talk to other people, you already have the opportunity to make friends. Don't worry, you don't have to go into specifics-just start the conversation by saying something friendly (like "It's a beautiful day!" or "You've got a great t-shirt!") and see what happens next.
- You can talk to anyone: the salesperson at a store, the person sitting next to you on public transport, or the person in line in front of you at lunch. Don't be picky when it comes to trying to make friends.
- Being polite will go a long way in your efforts to make friends. You can start the conversation by saying "Good morning, how are you?" when meeting someone. Showing good manners by greeting people makes you appear more friendly and so people are more likely to respond in kind. This is a good way to start communicating with other people.
Step 2. Make eye contact and smile.
If you show an unfriendly attitude, other people may be reluctant to be friends with you. Look the other person in the eye when he (or you) is talking and smile a friendly smile.
Don't squint, look bored, surly, or flat-faced. Try to avoid closed body language, such as folding your arms or being alone in a corner
Do you know?
Reading other people's body language is a great way to build a relationship with them. When talking to other people, try to subtly imitate their expressions and movements. For example, if they smile or lean forward while talking to you, do the same.
Step 3. Start a conversation
When you find an interesting person to befriend, you need to start a conversation with that person. That way, you can connect with this person and form a friendship. There are a few ways that are worth trying. For example:
- Try making comments about your surroundings. Usually the weather becomes a common topic: "It's not bad, today it's not raining like last week."
- Ask for help: “If you have time, can you help me carry these boxes?” or “Will you help me choose a gift for my mother?” Or you can also offer to help. For example, “Hey, do you need hand sanitizer?”
- Give compliments, such as, "Wow, your car is great," or "I love your shoes." Avoid giving personal compliments as this can make the person feel uncomfortable.
- Respond quickly with questions related to the statement he just made. For example, “Where did you buy those shoes? I'm also looking for shoes like that."
Step 4. Keep the conversation flowing with small talk
If the other person seems interested in continuing the conversation, try to keep the conversation flowing by asking questions and providing some information about yourself. This information doesn't have to be anything too personal. The main goal is that you both listen to each other and are interested in each other's ongoing conversation.
- People usually like to talk about themselves. This means that the more you listen, the more likely you will come off as a nice friend.
- Show that you are listening carefully by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and responding to their story with questions or comments.
- For example, if the other person is talking about their work, you might say something like, “Oh, that's great! How can you carry out such a heavy task, anyway?”
Step 5. Introduce yourself at the end of the conversation
You can say "Oh, by the way, my name is…" When you introduce yourself, other people will usually do the same.
- Otherwise, you can start the conversation by introducing yourself. For example, you could greet a new coworker at work by saying “Hi, I'm Sasti. We don't look like we're officially acquainted yet, but my room is just down there."
- Remember the name. If you show that you remember previous conversations, he'll feel that you care and take an interest in him.
Step 6. Invite them to lunch or coffee
This gives you the opportunity to chat and get to know each other better. Take him out for coffee every now and then and give him your email address or phone number. This will give him the opportunity to contact you. He or she may return an email address or phone number, but that may or may not be the case. However, that's no big deal!
- A great way to show your sincerity: “Okay, I have to go now. Anyway, if you want to chat again after lunch or coffee or whatever, I'll give you my number or email address."
- Others will be more likely to meet if you provide a specific location and time. For example, you could say, “Hey, this chat was fun! Would you like to meet at Kopi Klotok tomorrow Saturday for coffee?”
- If it feels awkward to ask him out alone, consider taking him to a busy event, such as a party or a movie.
Step 7. Find out more about your shared areas of interest
If you feel the other person has similar interests, ask more about it. Or, if it's polite, you can also ask if he's friends with other people who share the same interests (such as in a club). If he says yes, this is a good opportunity to express his intention to join. If you show a clear interest (when? where? can I join in?), he may ask you.
If you join a club, band, place of worship, or any other group he seems to like too, take this opportunity to give him your number or email address and invite him to join
Method 3 of 3: Keeping Friends
Step 1. Show your loyalty to friends
You've probably heard the term "seasonal friends." Seasonal friends are people who share your joy when you're happy, but disappear when you need them the most. By being a loyal friend, you can attract people who value loyalty. This is a great way to prove that you're not making promises, but that you can prove your words with actions.
- One of the tasks of a friend is to be prepared to sacrifice time and energy to help your friend.
- If your friend is having a hard time or needs a shoulder to cry on, try to be there for them.
Tips:
Being loyal doesn't mean you have to please your friends or allow them to just take advantage of you. It's important that you set healthy boundaries and have the courage to say "no" if you think it's necessary for your personal good.
Step 2. Make every effort to maintain the friendship
Making good friends takes hard work. If your friends are always asking how you're doing, taking the initiative to meet up, remembering your birthday, and asking for lunch, it's important that you do the same as much as possible.
- Do some introspection every now and then and think about whether you've become a good friend.
- On the other hand, also reflect on whether your friend has done his or her part. If not, maybe you need to have a heart-to-heart talk (but don't accuse or blame your friend if your friendship doesn't work out as expected).
Step 3. Be someone you can rely on
When you say you want to do something, do it. Be a reliable person. If you display this trait when treating others, it will attract the attention of those who value dependability.
- If you and your friends make an appointment to meet somewhere, don't be late and don't break it either.
- If you arrive late, call your friend as soon as possible. Apologize and offer to reschedule.
- Don't let your friends wait without news. Apart from being rude, this attitude is definitely not good.
Step 4. Be a good listener
Many people think that in order to be a “good” friend, they have to look good. However, more important than looking attractive is the ability to show that you are interested in other people. Listen carefully to what other people have to say, remember important things about them (their names, likes, and things they hate), ask questions about their interests, and take the time to learn more about them.
- Don't be the person who always has a more interesting story or suddenly changes the topic of conversation and is reluctant to continue the previous topic of conversation.
- If you're listening, focus on what the other person is saying instead of thinking about what you're going to say. Don't interrupt and don't give advice unless it's asked.
Step 5. Be someone you can trust
One of the advantages of having friends is that you have someone you can talk to about many things, even if it's a secret. Before someone feels comfortable opening up with you, you need to build their trust first.
- The key to being a good friend is to be able to keep secrets. It is very clear that if you should not tell others about something that is told in secret.
- Don't talk about your friends behind their backs. Don't let down a friend who has already depended on you. You can also earn his trust by speaking honestly and responsibly.
Step 6. Highlight your good qualities
Show your goodness and uniqueness. Show others the things that make you stand out from the rest. Talk about your interests and hobbies. Tell a new friend about your background. Everyone has an interesting story to tell-don't be afraid to tell yours. If you are a unique person, show it.
- A little joke will make the conversation more relaxed and fun. People enjoy being around people who can make them laugh.
- Friendships work well when you and your friends feel like you're being yourself. Keep your good nature and highlight it when you are with friends. However, never try to be someone else to please your friend.
Step 7. Keep in touch with your friends
Many people lose touch with friends because they are too busy or don't value their friendship. When you lose touch with friends, friendships that have been established may fail. Then, if you try to contact him again, it may be difficult to mend this friendship again.
- Even if you don't have time to chat or go out alone, text your friend to let them know that you're still thinking about them.
- Maintaining friendships takes hard work. Take some time and share your life with your friends. Respect his decision and share your decision with him. Try to stay in touch with him at all times.
Step 8. Choose your friends wisely
When you make friends with a lot of people, you may feel more familiar with some of them than others. Even if you have to give everyone a chance to be friends with you, at some point you will feel that some friendships are unhealthy. Usually, this kind of friendship occurs when your friend is too dependent and controlling, constantly criticizing, and even endangering or threatening your life. If this happens, end your friendship with dignity.
- Be grateful for the presence of friends who have a positive impact on your life and do your best to make a positive impact on their lives.
- Ending a friendship is not easy even if the relationship is not healthy. If you have to end it, take time to grieve over the loss of a friend.
Tips
- Think about what you are going to say before saying it. Your friend may be offended or offended by what you say.
- You don't have to be popular to come across as a good friend. Try to be a positive and friendly person so that people will feel comfortable around you.
- Get to know your friends and family of friends. Thus, you will have more friends in your social circle of friends.
- Always show a good attitude and don't judge people just by their appearance or just because they are different. You will lose many beautiful friendships if you don't give other people a chance.
- Believe in yourself! People tend to be attracted to confident people. You will be easy to approach other people if you succeed in removing self-doubt.
Warning
- If you know someone very well, at some point there will be trouble between the two of you. If you have a fight with a friend, don't blame or attack them. Take some distance and apologize for your mistake in your argument.
- Don't leave old friends for new ones. Good friendships are precious and hard to come by. So, stay on good terms with old friends even if you have met new ones.
- Follow your instincts. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, there is often good reason for you to trust your instincts. Don't try to maintain friendships with people who make you feel uncomfortable.
