As social beings who live in the midst of differences, everyone wants to be treated well and wants to be good friends with everyone. Maintaining a good relationship does not mean just being close friends or having the same hobby, but we also have to respect and pay attention to other people, even if their interests or opinions differ.
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Method 1 of 3: Good Friends with Everyone
Step 1. Be a good listener
Get in the habit of listening before you speak, especially when you're in a group. If you like to chat, do not immediately spit words when you enter the middle of a group that is discussing. First of all, observe the situation while listening to the topic being discussed. After that, say something substantial, rather than just joking. Make sure first what is being discussed before you enter into the conversation.
Step 2. Don't try to change other people
You don't have to and don't have the right to change other people because everyone is free to live their life the way they want. Instead of expecting people to change, it's best if you change the way you interact with them. For example: when dealing with someone who behaves in an unpleasant manner, you can reduce your interaction with them. Meanwhile, as long as you spend time with him, you can still be nice so that your relationship also improves.
Step 3. Be humorous
Instead of triggering tension because of a gloomy face, be someone who likes to laugh and smile. Laugh with people who make jokes with you. When you see other people frown, invite them to smile. A happy and optimistic face makes other people happy to meet you. So, be aware of your facial expressions.
Step 4. Say that you want to be good friends
Many people don't understand sign language or body language, so you need to put on a happy face and use your voice, for example by saying: "I want us to be good friends by helping and supporting each other."
Step 5. Spread the positivity
The positive feelings you project will affect others you interact with and have a profound impact on those around you. Therefore, try to control yourself and be tactful when interacting with them. Never share negative emotions with anyone.
Step 6. Give sincere compliments
Almost everyone likes to be praised, especially sincere compliments. Don't feel great if you never congratulate someone else's brilliant idea and success. People who like to seek attention or sycophants will be shunned, but people who are arrogant are also disliked.
You can simply give one compliment during the conversation
Step 7. Help others
Being a good person means that you give yourself gifts, for example by giving food or helping others in need. Do this to show concern so that other people feel good about your presence.
Method 2 of 3: Be Nice
Step 1. Remember that you can be good friends with anyone if you are nice and polite
Think of your attitude as a painting that showcases your personality. A kind and friendly demeanor will make a great first impression when you meet someone.
Step 2. Look into your eyes and smile at the person you are talking to
This attitude shows your interest in what he has to say, as well as your comfort in his presence. At the first meeting, introduce yourself by shaking hands while looking him in the eye.
Step 3. Get into the habit of smiling so you don't sound too serious and difficult to make friends with
Step 4. Be polite and humble
People will avoid you if you are rude and arrogant.
Step 5. Treat the other person the way he wants to
The golden rule is still an important guide in making friends. Think about what kind of treatment other people expect of you. If you make the other person feel loved and appreciated, they will treat you the same way.
Step 6. Never discuss things that you wouldn't say directly to someone
Gossip is very easy to spread. Friendships will be damaged if someone secretly talks negatively about you. If you can't address a particular issue directly, don't discuss it with anyone.
Step 7. Speak clearly and confidently
Be a confident person, but don't make it up just to be liked. Speak in a loud enough voice, clear articulation, and the right tempo. Don't mumble, shout, or talk too fast. Say each word calmly and clearly.
Step 8. Remember that everyone can make mistakes
Apologizing is polite and can strengthen friendships. Judging other people for their mistakes is not fair because you yourself want to be forgiven if you do wrong. Forgive the person who wronged you and try to understand their perspective by asking yourself whether or not he meant to hurt your feelings on purpose.
Show that you are a good and fair person through humility to forgive and be forgiven
Method 3 of 3: Be Good Friends With People With Disagreements
Step 1. Have discussions and negotiations with people with different opinions
Do not shy away if there is a difference of opinion. When discussing, you don't have to shout, judge, or challenge other people's opinions. In any case, there will always be people who disagree with you. So, learn to argue or argue in a dignified way.
Step 2. Provide assistance to people experiencing difficulties
If you're having trouble, someone you've worked with might help you.
Step 3. Don't attack the personal aspect
For example: when discussing politics, saying the other party is “stupid” because of different views will certainly damage the relationship.
Remember that everyone has different opinions, but you can still be good friends
Step 4. Look for common ground
Even if you both support different presidential candidates, be good friends by discussing fun topics of discussion or common hobbies. Instead of focusing on the things that cause conflict, do fun activities together.
Step 5. Express your agreement with his opinion, if so
When it comes to serious religious or political topics, chances are there are things you agree on. Don't be afraid to agree if the other person gives you a good opinion because this will make the conversation run smoothly.
