Spoons are objects that can be stacked in a perfect fit position. Similarly, the "spooning" cuddle position maximizes intimacy and comfort, so you and your partner can stick together in a perfect fit, like two spoons in a kitchen drawer. If you want to enjoy closer intimacy with your partner, there's no better way to cuddle than this spooning technique.
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Part 1 of 2: Mastering the “Spooning” Technique
Step 1. Determine the size of the “spoon”
In most spooning positions, you need to determine who is the “big spoon” and who is the “little spoon”:
- “Small spoon”: This is usually the party that is physically smaller in size. This position is often a position that seems more “weak” and “protected”, so it is usually the position of the woman.
- “Big spoon”: This is usually the dominant side. In general, this is the position of the physically taller side and the male side.
- A quick test to find out who should be the “big spoon”: the party hugging their partner while making out should be the “big spoon”. This role is not fixed, and sometimes the "big spoon" may also feel comfortable playing the role of the "little spoon".
Step 2. Do the classic spooning technique
In this technique, the "big spoon" lies on his side and the "little spoon" puts his back on the stomach of the "big spoon" in the same side-lying position. There are indeed many variations in the position of the "big spoon" arm that is on the "bottom" side in this position, but what is important in the view of spooning fans is that the "big spoon" arm that is on the "top" side must be embraced around the waist of the "little spoon".
See the “Avoiding Discomfort” section below to learn what the “big spoon” can do with its “bottom” arm
Step 3. Perform the “ball” spooning technique
In this technique, the "big spoon" lies on his side and the "little spoon" puts his back on the stomach of the "big spoon" in the same side-lying position. The "little spoon" then curled up like a fetus in its mother's womb. The "big spoon" then spreads his arms that are on the "bottom" side in a cross, with the arm on the "top" side embracing the "small spoon".
Step 4. Practice the “baby” spooning technique
In this technique, the "big spoon" lies on its side and the "little spoon" curls up like a fetus in its mother's womb, facing the stomach of the "big spoon". The "big spoon" then hugged the "small spoon" with both arms.
Step 5. Practice the “in the drawer” spooning technique
In this technique, the "big spoon" lies on his back. The "small spoon" then lay on his stomach on the stomach of the "big spoon". To create a stronger intimacy, try hugging each other in this position.
Step 6. Perform the “spoon-fork” spooning technique
Basically, this technique is similar to the classic spooning technique, but now try to interlock the legs, so that the "big spoon"'s other leg is attached to the bed, then the "small spoon"'s other leg is on top of it, while the "big spoon"'s leg is the other side is above it, and on the very top of the leg of the other “little spoon”.
Step 7. Perform the “reverse Y” spooning technique
To do this technique properly, both the "big spoon" and the "little spoon" must push each other across the back. This will create a more comfortable private space and fresh air, but still provide a warm and intimate atmosphere with your partner.
Step 8. Combine different techniques
Who says the guy has to always be the “big spoon”? Have fun and mix different techniques, and swap positions between the “big spoon” and the “little spoon”. Although sometimes the “big spoon” is 20-30 cm shorter than the “little spoon”, this variation will make for a fun and intimate cuddle experience. If you and your partner are already very comfortable making out, there's no need to follow the rules of roles and spooning techniques!
Part 2 of 2: Avoiding Discomfort
Step 1. Position the arms correctly
This is the most important part of a spooning hug that lasts a long time. The responsibility usually lies with the “big spoon” because it is his arm that will suffer the consequences. Improper arm placement can result in numbness of the arm and immobility when the spooning hug shifts or ends. Here are some arm positions that you should always avoid:
- T-Rex Arm, which occurs when two people are spooning by lying on their sides and the "big spoon" arm that is on the "bottom" side is stuck behind the "little spoon"'s back so that it resembles the arm of a T-Rex (an ancient short-sleeved dinosaur) because elbows are folded and there is no room to straighten the arms back.
- Army Arm, which occurs when two people are spooning by lying on their sides and the arms of the “big spoon” that are on the “bottom” sides are stuck straight next to their own bodies. This is often uncomfortable and creates a barrier between the front side of the "big spoon" and the "little spoon" back, reducing intimacy.
- Super Hero Arm, which occurs when two people are spooning on their sides and the “big spoon” arm on the “bottom” side is stuck straight up like a superhero flying through the sky. While this position allows the "big spoon" to tuck his arm under the "little spoon"'s neck and thereby enhances intimacy, this subsequent position usually immediately numbs the "big spoon"'s arm and becomes stuck in that position without being able to move. -where.
- Arms Hug, which occurs when two people are spooning by lying on their sides and the arms of the “big spoon” that are on the “bottom” side of the “small spoon” wrap around the waist of the “small spoon”. This position carries the worst possible risk: the “big spoon” arm is numb while the “little spoon” is too comfortable to wake up to free the “big spoon” arm. In the worst case scenario, the only way to get rid of your partner is if you amputate the trapped arm. If not, try to wake your partner up while explaining why you woke him up without sounding selfish. However, know that usually you will still make your partner feel annoyed because of it.
Step 2. Leave the cuddle position if possible
If you can't stand this position anymore, let go of the hug without offending your partner. Leaving the hugging position will break or end the moment of intimacy. Therefore, this should be done in the most subtle way possible. We all need some personal space from time to time, and this is a completely natural need. Here are a few ways to slowly end the hug as smoothly as possible:
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Pretend to sleep, so that your partner is not offended.
Pretend to yawn or snore gently, so it's as if you're letting go of your "sleeping" hug. This will make your partner think that you are asleep instead of letting go of the hug because he or she is not spooning well. This way, your partner won't be offended and the two of you won't be fighting. When making "sleep" noises, make sure you make them before and after you let go. This strengthens your acting and makes things seem more convincing.
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Free yourself.
The goal of this section is to roll out of the hug position. This means that you need an exit that is as easy as possible. Remember, you let go of the hug "in a state of sleep". First, free your arms or legs by:
- Slowly, move your arm or leg without waking your partner. To do this without your partner knowing, your movements must be direct, slow, and methodical. This whole movement should be done with your eyes closed. If your partner catches your movement, remember, pretend to be asleep.
- Create an uncomfortable situation for your partner, so that he himself shifts your arm or leg. If you're stuck and can't move an arm or leg at all, especially if it's the arm or leg that's on the "bottom" side of the spoon, it's best to make your partner feel as uncomfortable as possible. So, when he moves and thus shifts your arm or leg, you are not to blame yourself.
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Roll away quickly.
Move to an empty space on the mattress by pulling your arm or leg back as close to your body as possible and then rolling in one swift motion toward the empty space. This is a commitment. Once you start rolling, you can't stop until you're done. It's a sure sign that you're awake, so it's clear to your partner that the two previous steps were deliberately trying to end the moment of intimacy that you both were actually enjoying in the spooning position.
Tips
- Make sure that your body smells good. You certainly don't want your partner to "suffocate" because of the unpleasant odor from your body.
- Try not to gasp for breath. Spooning cuddles while feeling his breath catch in your ears is something that's not very sexy.
- Try to caress or massage the areas of the body that are in contact with your body.
- If you're trying to build intimacy and make out with your spooning partner, try kissing the top of their neck.
- If you're a woman, make sure to tie your hair up if it's a “little spoon”, because the “big spoon” doesn't want your face covered or your mouth eaten by your hair!
- The "big spoon" can put his arm in the gap under the "little spoon"'s neck. Use a pillow to make this position feel more comfortable.
