Hugging a woman is both exciting and scary. If you're like most people, you'll likely feel pressured to hug properly until he understands that you care about him, rather than making him feel awkward or disgusted. Hugging can be natural and intimate or forced and uncomfortable. While hugging can have a big impact on who does it, it can be beneficial for you if you do it with the right etiquette.
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Method 1 of 2: Hugging the Girl You Like
Step 1. Wait for the right moment
When you hug a woman, it is very important how you do it, so do it safely by choosing the right time. The three best times are:
- When you just met him. It's always nice to be greeted by a friend with a little “friendship” hug (even if you want to be more than friends).
- At an emotional time. Whether you're both cheering on the same team that just won a big game, or when he's having a tough day, a hug can be a great way to reinforce the sign that you're there for him.
- When you and him part. Similar to hugging when greeting, saying goodbye with a hug is a pleasant and friendly gesture.
Step 2. Try to find out if he likes being cuddled or not
A woman shows her body language clearly when she is open about physical contact. By the way he stands or greets you, you can tell if he would be comfortable if you hugged him.
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Signs that he's interested:
- Make eye contact with you.
- Playing her hair in front of you.
- His hips or feet are pointing toward you.
- His tone is vibrant and bright when he talks to you.
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Signs that he's not interested:
- Not looking at you.
- His body language is “closed” (legs crossed, arms folded, body turned).
- His tone is flat when he is talking to you.
Step 3. Approach him slowly
Resist the urge to hug him quickly. Instead, take a deep breath and move forward slowly until he can decide whether he wants to hug you or not. Look into his eyes, slowly move closer to him, then raise your hand, and hug him.
- If you misread his "signs" and find that he doesn't want to cuddle, make sure you give him some time to back off before hugging him. Otherwise, he will feel forced and the situation will become awkward.
- On the plus side, slower motion is usually considered more romantic. So if he wants you to hug him, a gentle, slow approach will make your hug more intimate.
Step 4. Decide how long you will hold her
How long you hold him will determine how much the hug means to you. Here are the basic instructions for you to follow:
- The longer you hug, the more intimate your hug will be. Hugs longer than a few seconds are reserved for a special person or close family member.
- Short hugs are usually more relaxing. A hug to say hello or goodbye usually only lasts a second or two.
Step 5. Release
Step back from the hugging position in one smooth motion. In particular, you need to step back from the hug before he backs off. Ending the hug a few seconds sooner than it should make the hug less awkward.
If he starts to let go or you feel his arms start to weaken, it's best if you let go quickly. The only exception is if you're hugging her in an "intimate" way (for example: she's sad and crying or you just kissed her). In this condition, slowly release the hug
Step 6. Finish in an adorable way
How you end it should depend on the situation at hand. If you really like this woman, you should say something she will remember at the end of your hug. Try the following:
- For a simple hug or goodbye, say "It's nice to meet you!" or “See you later!”
- For a hug for an accomplishment that results, such as winning an award, doing a good job, a wedding, or an important moment in life, generally say "Congratulations!" is a good word to say.
- For a comforting hug, whatever the situation, things like "Everything's going to be okay," or "I'm here for you," are good words to say.
- For a friendly hug, say whatever pops into your head when you just hugged him. “You're amazing,” or “We're really good at Flying Saucers, right?” would be nice to say.
- If you have an intimate hug, we will let you choose your own words to say. Make sure the sentence is meaningful!
Step 7. Learn different hugging positions
If you're still feeling tense, read the following different hugging positions and imagine what hugs you might use well in certain situations:
- Slow-dancing: The girl's arms are wrapped around your neck and your arms are under them. You can place your arms around her waist or the top of her back. The lower your hands on the back of his body, the more the hug indicates something that is obscene. This hug can be a very intimate hug – hug it wisely.
- Big bear and little bear: The girl's arms are under your arms and yours are around her back, while her arms are around your waist. This is a more friendly hug and can allow you to pull him closer to you with his head resting against your chest.
- One-arm swing: This is a less romantic type of hug – like a hug between two best friends. The trick is for you to stand next to him and “hug” his shoulder or neck with one arm, like a simple friendly embrace.
- T-Rex: Your arms and his are around your waist and back respectively. This hug can make you both rest your head on each other's shoulders. This kind of hug can result in a more friendly and less suspicious hug.
- Crossed: One arm is pointing up and one arm is pointing down in an “x” shape with both of your arms. A hug like this can result in the perfect “pull and kiss” position, while still hugging each other and having enough room to kiss.
- From behind: This is a hug you can give a woman you know well, unless she likes a scary surprise. Let him know that you want to hug him this way. This hug is a very intimate hug, which can produce something very intimate as well.
Method 2 of 2: Hugging Friends
Step 1. Follow where the current flows
In general, people greet each other by shaking hands when they are just getting to know each other. However, nowadays, many people hug each other when they just met without thinking.
- This is common among groups of friends when one of your friends introduces you to another.
- Use your instincts. However, the general rule is, if he wants to hug you back.
Step 2. Make physical contact
Remember to maintain quick, light physical contact when you hug a friend. If you make it last too long, your hug can be mistaken for something romantic.
- Lean back and bend over from your back. The point here is not to have full body contact which can lead to a more intimate and personal hug.
- Place your arm around his arm and place your hand under your first hand.
- Place one arm around hers, and place your hand between the girl's shoulder blades.
Step 3. Grasp quickly and release
Two seconds is the ideal time for a hug between friends. Release him after two seconds have passed, then continue the conversation as usual.
Tips
- Pay attention to his body language. If he wants a hug, he will raise his hand when needed. If he crosses his arms, you better not try to hug him.
- Don't hug him too tightly. He's not a toy to squeeze so don't treat him like a toy. Hug him with enough strength to make him feel comfortable, but leave a little room for him.
- You should be clean, unless you just finished playing ultimate Frisbee (or some other hard game). If you smell bad and your breath smells bad, he may have unpleasant memories of the hug.
- If the woman you like comes up to you from behind and wraps her arms around your neck and rests her head on your shoulder from behind, it means that she is comfortable with you and is showing her affection. If you feel comfortable too, rest your head on his neck and talk to him.
- If you make a mistake, try to justify it simply and don't worry. Use humor to reduce awkwardness.
- If you know this woman well enough, she may be flattered if you pick her up and turn her around. However, you need to be careful. Some women don't like that and she might get mad at you!
- When he feels disappointed with himself, make his day better by hugging him. Place one arm near the girl's shoulder and your other arm at the top of her buttocks.
Warning
- Be careful when you put your arm in the hug; lest you accidentally touch it inappropriately.
- Do not press or hold it too suddenly.
- If he doesn't want to be hugged, then don't do it. A hug that is too forced can be unpleasant.
- If you're doing a friendly hug, don't hold it for more than three seconds.
