It's normal to have a crush on a celebrity, and to get rid of it, you need to follow the same steps as when you kill a crush on someone else (who isn't a celebrity)
Everyone usually has a celebrity that they like more than other celebrities. However, sometimes this liking distracts you from your busy life or daily life. By getting rid of that liking, you can get back in control of your life and even develop new, more fulfilling and happy relationships! To get over these feelings, you must realize your independence and self-worth, and learn to see celebrities as individuals, regardless of their status.
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Part 1 of 3: Thinking About It in a Healthy Way
Step 1. Ask if you know her well enough to “deserve” her
A person's career and lifestyle may be interesting and alluring, but they do not necessarily make a person a good potential partner. Your favorite celebrity may appear polite and funny on camera, but he or she may actually be boring, arrogant, greedy, or rude to people who are less fortunate in real life. You can't know for sure so chances are that outside of work, your celebrity crush is just like everyone else, with their own flaws. No one is perfect, celebrities included!
Step 2. Consider the possibility that you might meet your celebrity crush in person and develop a relationship with him or her
There's a good chance you'll never see him because he's busy and has a lot of fans. Even if you get to meet him, there's a good chance he won't be attracted to you right away. This may be hard to accept, but celebrities are still human beings who get to choose who they want to date, just like you.
Step 3. Prioritize real, reciprocal relationships
Even if the people you know in real life aren't as attractive or famous as your celebrity crush, that doesn't mean they don't deserve (or deserve) a date. Real relationships are formed by trust in your partner, the ability to communicate openly, and common interests. Of course, you can't be in a relationship like with someone you've never met in real life or spoken to in person.
Part 2 of 3: Taking Steps to Get Rid of Likes
Step 1. Get rid of things that remind you of him
Remove all posters featuring him and don't watch his new movie or listen to his new song. Don't talk about him with friends or family, and don't find out about his life on the internet. Everyone deserves privacy, including famous people.
- You can do this gradually over a few days, or forget about it like you would when removing a bandage from a wound. Whatever steps you take, make sure all the things that remind you of him can eventually be removed from life!
- Try not to feel jealous when he finds out that he's dating someone else or happy when he broke up with his partner. These emotions won't bring you closer to them, and will only make it harder for you to forget them.
Step 2. Replace wishful thinking about it with all the ideals you have
Real goals that focus on the bigger picture of life (eg a desire to improve yourself or do something good for others) will help you significantly more than the unclear possibilities. Make sure you have reasonable and achievable goals.
- Think about how to study harder and get an "A" on the next exam.
- If you're learning a new move in karate class, imagine yourself doing it perfectly, then practice the move while you're at home.
- Help people in need by volunteering for a particular organization or doing a small favor (eg giving a seat to an elderly person on the bus).
Step 3. Do something you enjoy
If you think about it too much, find a calming activity to keep you busy to distract yourself from daydreaming about it.
- Complete a poem, book, painting, or other project you are working on.
- Go for a walk and see all the beautiful trees, houses, and people in front of you.
- Prepare a coloring book or print out a coloring pattern with unique details (eg mandala details) and colored pencils. Try to color the image as you like and try not to color it out of line.
- Try exercising by asking if your other friends want to play soccer or frisbee. You can also try running on your own if you want.
Part 3 of 3: Rise of Love
Step 1. Try dating someone in your life
It might be better if you fill the void left by your celebrity crush by dating someone else. Relationships with real people are much more satisfying and happy than relationships with imaginary ones. You too can find happiness through a complete friendship!
Don't rush into a relationship to replace the celebrity idol. Take life slowly and realize that real relationships are usually more complicated (but also happier) than imaginary ones
Step 2. Date a new person
Start a conversation with someone you find adorable, and keep the conversation going by showing a positive attitude. Use body language to show your interest (eg by standing closer and making eye contact). When you want to ask her out, suggest an activity she's likely to enjoy, like buying ice cream (or coffee) or watching a sports game.
Step 3. Live life as a single person for a while
It's okay if you don't want to date and want to achieve your life goals for now. By spending some “alone” time (while still surrounded by friends and family), you can gain perspective on what is needed for the next relationship.
Tips
- Getting over your crush on a celebrity may take longer than a day. Be patient with yourself and keep a positive mind.
- Don't compare your partner to a celebrity as this can lead to problems in the relationship. Keep in mind that you don't actually know the celebrity you're in love with. However, you certainly know your current partner. There must be a reason you want to date him! Think back to all the things that made you appreciate him and realize that the celebrity crush may not be as good as your partner.
