anonymous letters or anonymous letters can be offensive and sometimes destructive. The writer of this letter usually knows that he can write anything in his letter, which makes the writer overly confident and critical. If you receive anonymous letters, there are steps you can take to resolve them.
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Method 1 of 2: Handling Canned Mail Yourself
Step 1. Ignore the letter
The best way to deal with anonymous letters is to ignore them. Many people will not pay attention to criticism conveyed through anonymous media. Instead of thinking about it, it's better to keep the letter out of your mind.
Getting upset over the content in anonymous letters can give the author power. If you receive anonymous hate mail, don't post about it on social media and try to challenge it. Don't call their office, or send emails to people you suspect are the culprits. This can make the sender happy because he realizes that he managed to upset you. This will also cause the writer to send more anonymous letters if he knows you're going to be angry
Step 2. Discard the letter
Throw away the anonymous letter instead of keeping it for a long time. Cut it far, tear it up, burn it-whatever needs to be done. If you receive an anonymous email or message on social media, delete the message. Keeping anonymous letters can make them dominate your mind. If you throw it away, you also throw the letter out of your mind.
If the letter contains misinformation and could slander you, consider destroying the letter by tearing, tearing, or burning it. Don't let the letter fall into the wrong hands and make other people think it's okay. Be careful when throwing it somewhere. Who knows, someone saw the letter in the trash and took it
Step 3. Meditate on the contents of the anonymous letter
If you can't stop thinking about the contents of the letter, take some time to examine the letter. Ask yourself. “Why would someone send me a letter like this?”
If the letter criticizes your personality, appearance, or work habits, counter the criticism. Is that criticism worth thinking about? Is there something you can learn from this anonymous letter and change yourself? Can you take this letter as a slap to wake you up?
Step 4. Try to find out who the sender is
If you really want to find out what's wrong with the anonymous letter, try to find out who sent it. Minimize those you suspect from the subject of the letter-if it's about work, it's likely that it was sent by a coworker. If it's about your dog who is always barking, the letter may be from a neighbor who lives near your house.
- If the subject is more general, try to determine who you have a problem with. Have you recently had an argument or argument with someone? Do you have a high position in a company, community, or other organization that makes you a target for criticism?
- Sometimes, clues to a person's identity can be found in the anonymous letter itself. Pay attention to grammar and the way it is written. Analyze the use of the language; sometimes this action can help you determine whether the person writing it is older or younger than you, even determine the profession of the writer. Are there specific words in the letter that can guide you to the author? Did he sign the letter with the words, “A friend”, “Annoyed neighbor”, or “Angry mother”? Maybe these ways can still fail in finding someone's identity, but this method can be a good start.
- Often, anonymous senders are people close to you, such as friends, family members, co-workers, neighbors, and people in the same organization.
Step 5. Determine the seriousness of the letter
Evaluate whether the letter is hateful or unimportant, or contains serious slander that requires action. This is very important especially if you receive anonymous letters related to your office. Determine if the letter contains something serious enough to warrant action.
- Think about the specifics of the letter. Does the letter mention the time, date, and other specific details? This may be used to help you find the author, however, this information can also be falsified.
- Is there a reason why this information was sent via anonymous mail instead of face-to-face? Would the sender risk being hurt, made fun of, or negative consequences if he confronted you head-on?
- Is the language used harsh, hateful, or excessively negative and critical? If so, it's just a hateful and angry letter that shouldn't be taken seriously.
Step 6. Face the problem
In some instances, anonymous letters may accuse someone of something you can't forget. You have two choices in this scenario: forget what you read or confront the person. Make sure you listen carefully and are open to what he has to say without being prejudiced based on the content of the letter. However, look for inconsistencies in his behavior or signals that suggest he is avoiding reality.
For example, if you receive a letter accusing your partner of cheating, talk to your partner. Be open with the letter, or even let your partner read it. He may not understand what you are saying. He may have reasons, such as someone attacking him or trying to hurt him. If you trust your partner, ignore the letter. If your partner becomes defensive or has weak reasons, you may need to investigate the letter further
Method 2 of 2: Getting Help Handling Canned Mail
Step 1. Talk to a trusted friend
If you receive anonymous letters that bother you, tell someone you trust. This person can help you understand the contents of the letter. If the letter contains hateful criticism and words directed at you, he or she can help you evaluate the letter objectively if the criticism is legitimate. If the anonymous letter accuses someone, it can help you determine if the letter is serious enough to warrant action. If the letter asks you to do something, he can also help you evaluate it.
Step 2. Ask the authorities for help
If you receive anonymous letters that make you anxious, or you keep receiving anonymous letters, it's best to ask the authorities for help. Call the police station in your area if you feel threatened by the letter.
- If you involve the police, you must keep the letter as evidence. Some countries have laws for anonymous threats that can help you.
- If you experience anonymous threats at work, contact your supervisor or supervisor immediately. They can help figure out what action to take.
- If you are a young person receiving anonymous cyberbullying, talk to a parent, teacher, police officer, or other trusted adult. Schools can help with bullying, and if that doesn't work, try contacting one of the cyberbullying help websites, such as Delete Cyberbullying, Cyberbully Help, or Stop Bullying.
Step 3. Get the author's location
Sometimes, physical and electronic letters contain clues to the location of the author. If the letter was sent by post office, see if there is a postal code in the letter. If the mail was sent electronically, try to locate the IP address of the email. If the letter goes straight to the mailbox, the person probably lives in your area.
To see this information in emails, turn on advanced headers. This setting can be found by opening the email, then clicking the feature to " show original," " view full header," or " view message source ". After that, type in the location of the IP address in Google and use several available services to get the location
Step 4. Block the sender
If you receive anonymous letters via email or social media, block the sender. Social media like Facebook and Twitter have a block feature so you can block the user. Most email providers allow users to block email addresses from receiving emails, or have the option to mark certain email addresses as spam so that they can be filtered out.
