If you're reading this page, you've probably just been hurt by a guy. Here are some strategies to help you move on with your life and prove to him that you're not only better off without him, but happier than you've ever felt before.
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Method 1 of 3: Avoid Him
Step 1. Don't call him, and don't answer when he calls you
If you keep texting or chatting, you'll inevitably be sucked back into the cycle of drama. Do not do it. Cut off as many contacts as you can, at least temporarily. That way he won't think that you're still languishing because of him, and you'll have the space you need to move on.
Step 2. Remove him from friendship on social media
It's tempting to stay friends so you can show her how great your life is without her, but it's actually a trap! Chances are you'll just be spying on his profile and obsessing over his latest news. It's best to unfriend him and block him and any friends you know, at least temporarily. When you're fully recovered, you can think about adding her again or texting her asking how she's doing.
Step 3. Get rid of things that remind you of him
If he left things at your house, send them back. If you have a lot of memories from your time together, put them out of your sight. You don't have to throw it all away, but maybe just put it in a box. Clean your room and make a fresh start.
Step 4. Don't ignore him if you bump into him
Be friendly, but curt, as if he's not someone you know very well. Avoiding him directly will only let him know that you are angry. If he believes you're still thinking about him, he may make it more difficult for you to get over him. Make sure you go first.
Step 5. Make him try to get your attention if he wants
Do not respond and respond to anything other than a respectful attitude. If he wants you to give him time, he has to be friendly, kind, and respectful of your feelings. But don't exaggerate this, take it easy and try not to hurt anyone, even if he deserves to be hurt.
Method 2 of 3: Be Tactful
Step 1. Know that he really doesn't deserve you
If he makes you feel bad about yourself, then you're better off without him in your life. Don't blame yourself for what happened. Remember that you deserve people who will respect and treat you with respect. Rejection hurts, but you'll be much happier when you're in a relationship with people who really want to be with you.
Step 2. Talk to your friends
They may always be there, so often that they cannot be counted. It may be a cliché, but you can rent a girl's movie, buy a gallon of ice cream or a bottle of wine, and hang out with your friends in front of the TV all night long. Laugh at yourself, yell at the TV that guys aren't really like that, talk about what you want from the next guy that comes into your life. Enjoy your time. Good friends will remind you that you are beautiful and fun, you will not feel alone.
Step 3. Try not to be jealous
When there's a new girl, remember that it's not her fault that your ex chose her. That doesn't make this new girl any better than you. Don't react like he or your ex is showing off their new relationship in your face. Show a classy attitude in this matter and everyone (including your ex) will respect you for it.
Step 4. Don't rush into a new relationship
Enjoy life alone for some time. The escape may be fun, but in the end it will only remind you of what you've been missing. You're better off having fun with everything you love that used to be neglected because you're focused on your love life.
Method 3 of 3: Indulge
Step 1. Rewind your social life
Don't sit and wail, go out and have fun. When you only think about him alone, you can be locked in a small world with that guy, and your social life will be neglected. This is the perfect time to explore the social opportunities you let wither. Meet new people, go to parties, organize activities with friends, join a club or volunteer for an organization. All of this will remind you that you don't need the guy to have fun, and will put you on the path to meeting someone better in no time.
Step 2. Dress up pretty wherever you go
Treat yourself to a new dress or makeover. Put a smile on your face and head out of the house in the nicest of clothes. Your confidence may drop a bit, especially if the guy leaves you for a better offer. Looking good will help you feel better about yourself and remind you that you're a good catch. Your fresh look will attract potential new lovers and maybe even make your ex come to his senses and see what he has left behind.
Step 3. Take a vacation
There's nothing like travel to clear your mind and remind you of the big and beautiful world you live in, whether there's a guy who likes you or not. Go exploring an exotic place, take a car trip with old friends, or just sunbathe at a resort for a few days. Take lots of photos, so if he does notice you on social media he'll see that you're having fun.
