Confessing your love to a man is likely to change the shape of your closeness with him. Even if you are ready, he may not be. Check first how you feel and value his actions to see if he loves you too. If you both have feelings for them, your declaration of love won't frighten her.
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Method 1 of 3: Mentally Prepare
Step 1. Determine whether you are truly in love or just simply in awe
Before expressing love, first understand your own feelings. Are you suddenly engulfed in passion or do your feelings develop over time? Usually, feelings of admiration come quickly, while love grows with time.
- You have to get to know him well first. If you've been close for at least 3 months and have been arguing, you'll understand better who he is.
- If you've only been dating for a few weeks and everything seems perfect, then maybe you're just admiring him, not loving him.
- It's best to keep your feelings until you're sure that you really love him.
- Saying love too early can scare a guy off if he doesn't feel the same way.
Step 2. Check if he loves you too
He may have felt the same way, but hadn't expressed it yet. Even if they are not expressed, their feelings may be expressed through actions. Men usually tend to express their feelings through actions, not words. Think about your relationship with him so far to see if he's sending any signs. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Does he make you a priority?
- Does he mention you when talking about his future plans and goals?
- Have you met important people in your life (such as family, friends, co-workers)?
- If his actions express concern, he may not be frightened by your strong feelings for him.
- Does he often speak using “we” instead of “I”?
- Does he always notice you and make you smile?
- Is he affectionate? Does he want to hug, kiss and hold your hand?
- If he acts like a loving person, maybe he won't be afraid to hear your expressions of love. If his actions don't imply love, you'd better wait.
Step 3. Decide why you want to say “I love you”
The word love should only be expressed if it is serious. Don't say it just to make the relationship stronger or to get him to say the same. Never use the word love to manipulate a man, to keep him with you, or to correct a wrong you did.
- The best reason to say "I love you" is because you can no longer keep it to yourself, and want him to know how you feel.
- The words "I love you" can change a relationship. Make sure you're ready.
Step 4. Prepare yourself for the possibility that he doesn't say “I love you too”
Even though you are ready, he may not be. That doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or will never love you. Not reciprocating the expression of love only meant that he didn't feel the same way now. Think about what you would do if he didn't return your love words.
- If he doesn't feel the same way, you may feel rejected or unsure about the relationship.
- If you feel like you're going to break down if your feelings aren't reciprocated, you may need to hold off on expressing them.
Method 2 of 3: Talking To Him
Step 1. Find the right time
Choose a time when he is relaxed, unstressed, and cheerful. Make sure you are both in a private place that allows uninterrupted chat. You certainly don't want anyone to come in or hear.
- Don't express love after a moment of physical or psychological closeness (before or after making out) because she may say love back because of an adrenaline rush or a supportive emotional environment.
- In addition, also avoid conditions when he or both of you are drunk or sleepy. He may not remember what you said.
- If you're discussing plans for a future relationship or feelings, that's the ideal time to say you love him.
Step 2. Reveal
Say love as naturally as possible. Look her in the eye and say, "I love you." Don't be dramatic or awkward, just speak from the heart.
- You can choose the ideal situation, but don't think too much about it. If you are alone and in a good mood, choose that time. Follow your heart when expressing love.
- Avoid the words “You are my true love.” Those words elicit comparisons between you and his past relationship. He may love you, but doesn't consider you his true love for now. If you say such words, you are less likely to get the response you want.
Step 3. Give him space
Tell him that he doesn't need to return your love if he doesn't feel the same way. Don't make him feel pressured.
- You can say, “I love you. I understand if you're not ready or you don't feel the same way. I just want you to know how I feel."
- Remember that love grows at a different pace in everyone. Even if he doesn't return your love now, it doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you.
- Patience is the best way to make his love grow if it doesn't exist right now.
- If he doesn't say "I love you too," take the opportunity to ask what he expects from his relationship with you.
Method 3 of 3: Choosing a Method
Step 1. Find out how he responds to intimacy
If you love him, you may have already expressed certain feelings and shared personal information. Based on your experience, what is the best situation for conveying this information? Is it by phone or SMS? Is it a romantic date? Do you two prefer casual and natural chats?
- There is no right or wrong way to express love.
- He probably won't be afraid if you use a method he can accept.
Step 2. Express your love through letters or cards
If you're nervous about speaking in person, consider expressing your love through a card or letter. He will have time to digest what you say and think about his own feelings. If you're nervous or worried about falling silent suddenly, try written speech.
- Cards are very helpful if you don't know what to say. You can also opt for a witty card to keep your love confession light, but delivered.
- You can also search for poems or songs that match your heart, and write them yourself.
Step 3. Tell him directly
Expression of direct love is the most romantic way, but also stressful. Verbal declarations of love leave your position vulnerable. However, he may become more interested when you're not afraid to express your feelings and be yourself.
- If you choose this method, practice saying "I love you" in front of a mirror.
- You can also record videos to give them. That way, you can reveal everything without the risk of being nervous. If the first video is messed up, just make another video.
Step 4. Show your love through actions
Love is more than just a feeling. Your words and actions must match. So, before expressing your love through words, make sure your actions can convey it.
- Do something that makes her happy, like cook her favorite meal or surprise her with tickets to a movie she wants to see.
- Accompany him in good and bad. It's easy to support him in his happy times, but love will show when you stay by his side when he's down. When he's having trouble at work or is facing a family crisis, lean on him and show that you're there for him 24/7.
- Support his interests and dreams. You have to be a cheerleader for his dreams, whether he wants to get a master's degree or conquer mountains. Find out what his hobbies and goals are, and share your knowledge to help them.
Tips
- Usually, the man who expresses love first, but there is nothing wrong if the woman wants to express love first.
- Reciprocated or not, you will feel relieved after expressing love.
