What to do if you like someone, but don't get along? How to deal with a lover who responds to your attention in a nonchalant manner? One-sided love is common, but this experience is very painful and hard to forget. Whether it's because your crush doesn't like you or your boyfriend doesn't reciprocate your attention, overcoming a broken heart isn't easy and takes a lot of time. This article explains how to free yourself from feelings of sadness and disappointment by changing your perspective and motivating yourself.
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Method 1 of 11: Try to accept how you are feeling
Step 1. This tip is the first step you need to take to calm yourself down
Share your experiences with a close friend or share your feelings by journaling. Regardless of how serious the two of you are in your relationship, this step plays an important role in the process of overcoming the sadness and disappointment of a broken heart.
Don't pretend you're okay or act like you're okay. As psychologists suggest, you can overcome a broken heart if you accept reality and acknowledge what you're feeling
Method 2 of 11: Don't beat yourself up
Step 1. Things will get worse if you blame yourself
While reflecting, you may find yourself at fault, but remember, there is nothing wrong in this situation. If the guy doesn't care about you, it means you two aren't the perfect match.
Say affirmations, such as "I deserve love" or "It's not my fault" as a reminder that you don't have to blame yourself
Method 3 of 11: Appreciate your independence
Step 1. Do activities that you enjoy alone for fun
Use your free time to enjoy ice cream, take a car ride around town, or take a walk in the park. Working alone can be a fun moment. This means, you can still enjoy life even if no one is with you.
Think about things you can do alone and aspects of life that don't require the support of others. For example, are you financially independent? What do you do to make yourself happy?
Method 4 of 11: Write down the positive aspects of your personality
Step 1. Take time to admire yourself
Get a pen and paper ready, then write down 10 things that are your strengths, such as being patient, fashionable, kind, gregarious, or a great chef. Read this note when you're feeling down to get excited again.
- Rejection can make you feel inferior. This step serves as an exercise to remind yourself how valuable you are.
- Ask for input from good friends because sometimes, we can't see our own strengths.
Method 5 of 11: Give yourself some time
Step 1. Time is the best medicine for a broken heart
Don't beat yourself up even if you're frustrated when you find out that the recovery period after a broken heart is quite long. Things get worse if you act as if nothing is wrong.
Even though you haven't been in a relationship yet, you've lost the man you love. Therefore, you need to spend a lot of time recovering without expecting you to become his girlfriend one day
Method 6 of 11: Reduce interaction with him
Step 1. Don't remember bitter experiences
It's a good idea to reduce your interactions with her, but don't shy away or cut off the relationship. Do various tips that make you feel better.
If the two of you have been hanging out with friends together in a certain place, visit a new location or invite other friends to chat to fill your spare time. It's a good idea to block his account on social media and his cellphone number
Method 7 of 11: Delete photos that remind you of them
Step 1. This step is very effective in dealing with the loss even though it is painful
You don't need to delete all the photos (such as good memories with him from hanging out with friends), but if your phone's memory is almost full of photos of the two of you, this is a good time to empty it. Also, you can transfer photos to a flash drive, then store them in a drawer.
Do the same way if you display the photo at home. If you still want to keep the photos, arrange them neatly, then put them in a cardboard or bookcase drawer
Method 8 of 11: Set aside time for exercise
Step 1. Know that the release of endorphins makes you feel good
Even if you don't exercise when you're feeling down, research shows that exercise can reduce depression and boost self-confidence. So, set aside time for exercise every day, such as running, swimming, biking, or practicing yoga.
Exercising regularly makes you feel empowered to control your emotions and deal with problems. To keep you motivated to exercise, imagine that you are taking care of your mental and emotional health by taking care of your physical health to make everyday life enjoyable
Method 9 of 11: Ask for support from others
Step 1. Interact with people who really care about you
If you are reluctant to travel, invite some friends to chat or watch a movie at home while enjoying a hot coffee. You'll be even more depressed if you isolate yourself. So, rely on supportive people to lighten the load.
Ask for support from family members or a supportive person. Tell your parents, siblings, or close friends what happened to you, then listen to the advice and suggestions given. If the situation does not allow for activities outside the home, for example due to the Covid-19 pandemic, use the internet to socialize or interact with other people
Method 10 of 11: Do new things while having fun
Step 1. Release your mind by seeking new experiences
Nowadays, you can have fun alone, such as eating at a restaurant, watching a movie at the cinema, visiting tourist sites, or treating yourself at a spa. Start doing hobby activities that have been delayed, either alone or with friends.
If you can't get over it, take 1 or 2 people with you. It's easy to get distracted when you're with other people, so you can have fun
Method 11 of 11: Consult a mental health professional
Step 1. He can help you deal with emotional disturbances in the right way
Mental health professionals have the competence to help people overcome grief so they can live normal lives and build healthy relationships in the future.
If you're depressed and have trouble getting over people who don't care about you, a mental health professional can help you by recommending solutions, such as going to therapy, holding a support group meeting, or giving you medication to calm you down
Warning
- Do not do things that harm yourself, such as taking drugs, drinking alcohol, and free sex. It doesn't help you get over the person who rejected you and makes the problem worse.
- If you are depressed or have thoughts of suicide, seek help immediately so that you feel calm. Contact Halo Kemkes by calling (area code) 500567.
