Have you ever wondered whether the woman of your dreams is tugging at your feelings or is she really not interested in a romantic relationship with you? Measuring a woman's attractiveness is often as difficult as moving mountains. However, don't worry. While two women may express their attraction in different ways, there are some common rejection signals that you can interpret as "the time is right to get over it and move on."
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Method 1 of 3: Observing His Behavior
Step 1. Try reading his body language while the two of you are interacting
Generally, a person will control his facial expressions while speaking, but will not really pay attention to his body language. In fact, a person's body language often sends nonverbal messages that are very firm. Therefore, observe his position and body language to gauge his attraction to you.
- If he's positioning himself away from you, he's likely less comfortable around you.
- If he always puts a "barrier" between the two of you (like a chair, table, or even a bag as a shield), chances are he's not interested in you either.
- If he turns away when he sees you coming or seems to be avoiding you, he probably isn't interested in you. If that's the case, never follow it!
Step 2. Observe if he is constantly avoiding eye contact with you
In fact, eye contact is one of the most intimate body language. That is why, most women tend to be reluctant to look into the eyes of their ideal man because they are too shy. However, if you notice that his eyes are always running around in all directions (like he's looking for someone) when the two of you are chatting, chances are he's not enjoying the conversation. This is the right time for you to say goodbye to him.
Always remember that one conversation doesn't define everything. In other words, just because he seems annoyed or reluctant to look at you at one point in the conversation, that doesn't mean he's definitely not interested in you. However, if the situation occurs all the time, it's likely that you should try to forget about it
Step 3. Observe if he treats you differently when the two of you are alone
If he's flirting with the two of you sitting next to each other in the office but seems to ignore you while you're both out with the rest of the office, chances are he's just trying to make fun of you and isn't really flirting with you.
- Maybe he's just too shy to greet you in front of his friends. Do his friends seem to keep stealing glances at you even though he's not? If so, chances are he has already told his friends about you.
- Take the initiative to take the first step and observe the reaction. For example, don't hesitate to say hello when you meet him in public. If he seems shy, indifferent, or even rude to you, chances are he isn't really interested in you.
Step 4. Observe his reaction when he hears your joke
Even if your jokes aren't all that funny, most women who like you will still laugh. However, always remember that even a woman who only thinks of you as a friend can do it. So what if he never laughs at your jokes, even the funniest? More than likely, that means you should forget about it and find another woman who is more capable of appreciating your sense of humor.
If he's not laughing at your jokes, it's possible that your jokes aren't funny or that he's having a bad day. However, if your jokes never get a response, maybe it's time to move on without them
Step 5. Observe if your dating activities always end up being a group activity
If you take her to a movie at the theater and she shows up with three of her friends, chances are positive that she misunderstood your point. However, if the same situation occurs over and over again, it's more than likely his way of making it clear that he only sees you as a friend.
Remember, some women are not allowed to date until they reach a certain age. If that's the case with him too, chances are he'll ask a friend or parent to accompany him on a trip with you. However, he should have conveyed these conditions long ago to you
Method 2 of 3: Listening to it
Step 1. Beware that he only calls you when he needs something
If he only calls you when he needs help or a ride, but never has time to chat or travel casually with you, chances are he's just manipulating you and isn't really harboring any genuine interest.
All relationships go both ways. Make sure you're not the one who always gives but doesn't receive what you deserve
Step 2. Be happy if he treats you like his brother
While this confession shows that the two of you are very close and that he has positive feelings for you, he likely doesn't see you as more than just a friend. In other words, the confession has essentially eliminated any romantic possibilities from your relationship.
Even if he doesn't necessarily like you romantically, that kind of description shows that he appreciates having you in his life
Step 3. Pay attention to how often he asks you questions
Also pay attention to how often he talks about himself. If you often don't get a chance to talk because he's always busy sharing his weekend activities, his vacation plans, and the latest gossip about his friends, chances are he's not so interested in your life that he shouldn't bother asking.
- If you know all the details about his life but he's acting the exact opposite, chances are he's not interested in you. Plus, he's probably not a good friend to you either.
- If he doesn't ask a lot of questions about you but seems to know quite a bit about you, chances are he really likes you. Information about you is likely to be obtained from your friends or based on personal experiences. Try telling a surprising thing about yourself and watch the reaction!
Method 3 of 3: Dealing with Rejection
Step 1. Consider whether you are willing to be his friend
If he claims he just wants to be friends with you, think about whether you too can just think of him as a friend in the future. If staying friends with him, seeing him date other men, and perhaps becoming a dumpster for his romantic relationship risks hurting you even more, don't hesitate to turn down his offer to be friends. However, if you feel like you can give him equal treatment and put your romantic feelings aside, be grateful that he still wants you in his life and do your best to be a good friend to him.
- Don't stick around him all the time hoping he'll change his mind. Don't treat him well just because you want him to change his mind. Trust me, it's very unfair to both parties. After all, cheating on him will only make you suffer even more in the future.
- Don't spend all your time and energy trying to convince him that you're the right match for him. Be careful, you will actually miss the existence of other women who really like you.
Step 2. Give it the distance it needs
No matter how big your pain is, try not to force him to explain if he's not ready to do it. Don't blame him or ask his friends for help to bring the two of you back closer. Instead, pause for a moment. If he doesn't have an interest in you, doing these things will only make him even more upset or scared.
There was no need to completely ignore him or be cruel to him. Just take a few steps back and treat him like a normal friend
Step 3. Accept the decision and move on with your life
Just as you can't force yourself to stop liking him, he can't force himself to like you either. Even though it hurts, understand that rejection is not the end of your world. Of course you can feel upset and sad. However, understand that she's not the only woman out there and sooner or later, you're bound to find a more suitable person.
