Want to forget the man you like, for example because he has different beliefs, your love is not reciprocated, he already has a partner, or because his family does not approve? If you want to forget him, you have to carry on with your life as usual. Spend time with friends, try new things, and try to let go of your thoughts. In the process, you may even find a more fitting tether!
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Method 1 of 3: Confess Feelings
Step 1. Accept that you like him, then let go of those feelings
Accept sadness, hurt, loneliness, regret, anxiety, fear, and other negative emotions when they strike. Allow yourself to feel sad, and allow yourself to heal. The fastest way to forget someone is to be true to yourself.
Step 2. Share your feelings with friends, family, or a counselor
Don't keep your feelings to yourself. Ask the people closest to you for help, then find out what went wrong. If you don't know what to do, the people closest to you may be able to help you.
- Talk to your parents, older siblings, uncles, aunts, grandmothers, or anyone you think can be enlightening. If you feel more comfortable talking to a teacher or community elder, go for it!
- Be careful about trusting. If the person you like is also a friend of the person you're talking to, make sure the person you're talking to doesn't divulge your secret. If the gossip has already spread, you may find it increasingly difficult to forget him.
Step 3. Remember that he is only one man in a sea of other men
There are thousands, if not millions, of people who could be your next target. He may seem perfect, but he's not everything, and that certainly doesn't mean you can't find someone like him.
Step 4. Learn from experience
Think about why your love can't be realized. Your love may be one sided. He may already have a partner or a crush. He may be offended by what you say, or he may do something you consider dangerous. Whatever the reason, the rice was already mush. You can only take lessons from the experience, and learn from mistakes.
- Think, what should you do? By knowing what's wrong with liking him, your next love may be successful.
- Think about the kind of people you like. He may not be the right fit for you, even if you are attracted to him. Consider the things you attract, and the things you don't like about a guy.
Method 2 of 3: Letting go
Step 1. Avoid the him for some time
If you know where he eats lunch, avoid that place and find a new path, instead of the one he frequents. If you see him, or walk near him, you may think of him even more. If you want to forget it, you have to try.
- If you and your partner have mutual friends, try to avoid the group until you completely forget about your crush on them. If you don't want to lose friends, try focusing on other friends in the group.
- If you are committed to the person (eg class, work, group, team, etc.), you may find it difficult to avoid him. Again, try to focus on the other members of the group, or try interacting with the other person without any love.
Step 2. Avoid talking to him for a while
If he invites you to talk, do not let you be lulled. Try to avoid the conversation, for example by giving a short answer, or running away from it. You don't need to avoid it in an unkind way, but cutting back on contact may help you forget about it. But remember, if you have friends or mutual obligations, you may have to learn to interact with them without the frills of love.
Step 3. Don't go to their social media profiles to find updates
If he keeps popping up in your mind, it will be very difficult to forget him, and seeing his profile on Facebook will keep you in mind. Unfortunately, he won't remember you anyway, and thinking about things you can't reach isn't going to change things. You need discipline to stop being curious about the profile of the him, but the long-term effect is very good.
- If you're friends with the person on Facebook but don't want to remove them from your friends list, consider turning off notifications for posts from them so their posts don't appear in your Facebook feed.
- Practice not imagining him. When you read an update from the other person's account, ignore the update, then scroll through your feed. In the end, you will be able to forget your love for him.
Step 4. Get rid of things that remind you of him, such as a photo of the two of you, a gift CD from him, or a pen you lent him
If the object belongs to him, return it, and if the object is yours, give it to another friend, or donate the object. Getting rid of things that remind you of him will make it easier for you to move on with life.
Method 3 of 3: Moving On
Step 1. Focus on the important things in life
If you're constantly thinking about what the other person did, you'll have a hard time forgetting it. Instead, think about things that should be your focus right now, such as final exams, a trip to Malang, or the Persib game next Sunday night, to take your mind off the him. Live up to your hobbies, interests, and obligations, and think about your current problems.
If nothing big is happening in your life right now, try to focus on looking at tomorrow. Think about how lucky you are to have lunch with your friends every day, how happy you are after practicing music, or how happy you are when your workout is slowly paying off
Step 2. For now, focus on yourself, don't look for another guy just yet
If you're having a hard time getting over your crush, you may want to take a few weeks to balance yourself out. Focus on school, sports, friendships, or whatever else you enjoy. Try to pursue the things you want to achieve, beyond the affairs of the heart.
- When you start liking a guy, ask yourself if you're ready. Falling in love is indeed a million tastes, but are you ready to feel the various emotions associated with these feelings?
- Be careful, lest you seek escape to another man. Be honest with yourself, are you just shifting your feelings for the new guy without completely forgetting him? If the answer is yes, try to be patient.
- Some people use escape as a strategy. They are looking for a new guy who is physically attractive, but doesn't really take him seriously. You have to decide on the best strategy to get over the person, but don't play with other people's feelings to heal the wound.
Step 3. Learn to interact with him without frills feelings
Once you've completely forgotten about him, you can talk to him as usual, without feeling nervous. Try to think of him as a friend. Maybe the two of you don't make a good match as a couple, but you make a great friend! If you're already friends with the person, and you don't want to break your friendship, learn how to interact with them without any feelings.
