Are you often detained, taken into custody every weekend, or fighting with your peers? If that explains your condition, then it's time to do something about it and get away from the problem before the situation gets worse. Don't worry, take note: no matter how bad your condition, if you make an effort to find good influences in your life, and live what you love, you can get back on track. To learn how to stay out of trouble, see start at step 1 to do it.
Part 1 of 3: Keeping yourself busy and being active
Step 1. Join a sports team, whether at your school or in your neighborhood, this is a good way to stay out of trouble
Playing football, basketball, or baseball are great ways to meet interesting, athletic, and nice people and allow you to find something more worth working on than looking for trouble. You don't have to be as good as LeBron to join a basketball team and make good relationships with other people.
- You can even focus on being a team leader to use your energy properly.
- Joining a sports team will also give you regular exercise time each week, which can help you stay calm and not use your energy in the wrong way.
Step 2. Join a club
If sports aren't your forte, you can still join a club, whether it's a school club, church, or other community organization. You can join a fine arts club, chess club, French club, cooking club, debate club, or any other club that can help you focus on something unrelated to distracting the teacher or neglecting your homework.
You can join several clubs to find what really interests you
Step 3. Be a volunteer
Volunteering is a great way to stay out of trouble and broaden your perspective. You probably won't be tempted to wreak havoc at school or in the neighborhood after you've spent time with people who need you. If you're not old enough, go with your parents to volunteer events, to help people read, clean up the local park, or work in soup kitchens. Find something meaningful to you and do it at least once a week.
While your schedule doesn't necessarily keep you out of trouble, doing a few things that keep you busy each week can help you focus on what's important
Step 4. Be an active student
You don't have to be serious about this – but it doesn't hurt. Being an active student means showing up often, not skipping classes, raising your hand when asked, and doing work quickly to get collected. If you focus on being a good student, then you can stop thinking about ways to annoy your teachers or parents.
- Find some things that you really like and keep yourself busy with them. You don't have to find anything particularly appealing, but pick up at least one or two things that can make a difference in you.
- Set targets to increase your score. You don't have to get a perfect score on every test, but you can aim for an average of at least B to B+ in Maths, for example.
Step 5. Read as much as you can
Reading can help you enrich your vocabulary and reading skills, become more knowledgeable and intelligent, and enable you to see the world from a different perspective. Besides, if you read, then you won't get in trouble. Immersing yourself in the story can make you lose track of time and move to another world – a world where you are just a researcher. Start by reading for 20 minutes at bedtime to help develop the habit of reading for a long period of time.
Read a wide variety of books, from science fiction to fantasy, to find out which genre you like best
Step 6. Make something
Being creative is another great way that you can keep yourself out of trouble. You can write plays and play them with your friends, write stories, draw things, make ceramic vases, decorate rooms like a forest, and do many other creative things. Using your mind to create something completely new and original will drain your energy and keep you out of trouble.
You can also enroll in an after-school art class, or ask your art teacher about a project you might be able to work on
Part 2 of 3: Getting Good Influence
Step 1. Follow your instincts
You may have gotten into trouble for ignoring your instincts. If your instincts tell you that something is bad, or that someone doesn't deserve to be your friend, then you have to believe it and start walking away. Don't be afraid if your instincts tell you to run hundreds of kilometers in another direction. If you feel like something is wrong, without even knowing why, then you may be right.
In general, if a friend suggests you do something and you doubt it, then it's time to back off
Step 2. Spend time with your family
As long as your family is a place where you feel safe and loved, you should spend as much time as possible with them so you can be a good influence. Of course, it's not cool going to the movies with mom or dad or helping your sister with her science project, but family will always be there for you, and it's important to build the relationship with them as strong as possible.
- When you're with your family, you don't have a chance to get into trouble, do you? It's true that free time is an extension of the devil's arm, and the more time you spend with your family, the less you'll be looking for and getting into trouble.
- Make a routine every week. Get together with family every weekend, do homework every week, and help your sibling at least once a week.
Step 3. Avoid the wrong people
The person who can get you into trouble may be your best friend. If this is the case, then it's time to find another good friend. Sure, it might be difficult for you, but if you really want to stay out of trouble, then you can't hang out with people who often bring you trouble. Of course, if you and your friend agreed to stay out of trouble together, that would be great, but how often does that happen? This is the time to slowly step back from the lives of those who are ruining your reputation.
You might think you can stay out of trouble while still befriending troublemakers, but sadly, you'll stay connected to them, and are less likely to get into trouble for what they do, even if you're innocent. That is certainly not fair
Step 4. Befriend people who have a positive influence
If you make friends with good students, have clear goals, and live a positive life, then you will feel embarrassed. If you are only friends with troublemakers, then you will become one of them. While it may be difficult to find good friends quickly at school, look to your classmates or around the school environment and you'll find people who seem nice, friendly, and willing to make friends. You'll soon be out of trouble when you've been doing fun things with smart new people.
You can find such friends in clubs or sports teams (more on that later) or by participating in various activities and activities
Step 5. Develop positive relationships with your teachers
Another way to stay out of trouble is to develop a strong bond with your teachers, or at least some of them. This doesn't mean you have to curry favor with them, but it does mean that you have to be a good student, show up for class on time, come to help, and ask useful questions during class to show you care. If you've ever had a problem with one of your teachers, know that you can win their favor with hard work and effort, even if it takes a long time.
Being close to the teacher is a good way to stay out of trouble. If they like you, they are less likely to punish or find fault with you
Step 6. Find a role model
Having a role model that you really like can help you succeed and make the right decisions. Your role model could be your father or mother, an older sibling, a teacher at school, the family of a friend in your neighborhood, a club or church leader, an elder, or anyone else who makes you want to live a better life. You can go to this person and ask for advice not only on how to avoid trouble, but also how to do something useful in life.
A role model you can meet often can be one of the biggest and strongest influences in your life. It's very important to find someone you adore for their way of life. This doesn't mean he has to be perfect – if he makes trouble along the way and he learns from it, that's even better
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Conflict
Step 1. Don't gossip
One way to avoid conflict is to not gossip, whether it's about your teachers, classmates, neighbors, or even your cousins. Gossiping on other people will make a bad impression, and it will turn on you. You have to keep saying positive things about other people, even if nothing positive, if you want to stay out of trouble.
If you say bad things about people, it will turn on you. And if that's the case, then you're in big trouble
Step 2. Don't try to argue with stubborn people
One thing that can get you into trouble is that you need to defend yourself or explain your point to someone who won't listen. If you and the other kids in gym class or in the house next door don't get along, then stay away. Resist the urge to explain their bad behavior, or to occupy yourself with things that are none of your business. It's better to keep your distance as far as possible and avoid annoying people as far as possible, then you will tend to stay out of trouble.
Arguing with people who won't listen is a waste of time. It will only waste your time and energy
Step 3. Avoid fights
Obviously, if you're the kind of person who's always fighting, then this is pretty hard to do. But if you really want to stay out of trouble, then you have to know how to stay out of a fight. If someone provokes you, taunts you, or insults you face to face, learn to take a deep breath, walk away, and stay calm. Serving people like that, getting hurt, and being scolded by a teacher is certainly no fun, so next time you're about to get into a fight, keep that in mind, even if hitting someone feels good for a moment, it will cause long-term problems.
Go. If someone challenges you, raise your hand and go. It doesn't make you a coward – it makes you smart
Step 4. Don't argue with your teacher
You will not be well known by your teachers, no matter how hard you try, and there will always be a teacher or two that you don't like. Even if you strongly disagree with what your teacher says, you should remain polite, do the best you can, and avoid any possible arguments. If your teacher asks you to do something, do it (unless it really doesn't make sense). This is not the time to be tough or express what's on your mind.
While you are at school, it is a time to be friendly and continue your education. As you grow up and start your career, you will start to take on responsibilities and the world will open up a bit more for you, but to begin with, you have to be good first
Step 5. Be polite to everyone
Being kind and polite can keep you out of trouble for a long time. Say "please" and "thank you" and be polite to everyone, from the neighbors who pass by every morning in front of the house. Developing polite habits and good social skills will help you in life, and it's a good way to keep yourself out of trouble. If you are mean or rude to other people, you will have a bad reputation, and will not be there to help when you are in trouble.
This means that you should also be kind to your family members. Don't think they know you're a good person without being polite to them
Step 6. Take good care of yourself
You might think that not getting enough rest, eating a nutritious diet and getting regular exercise has nothing to do with keeping yourself out of trouble, but you'd be wrong. Taking care of yourself means that you care about your mind, and if your body and mind are healthy, you will act more calmly; For example, if you're hungry or tired from playing video games all night, you're more likely to say something rude to your parents without being offensive.
Besides, if you focus on your own good, then you won't have time to cause trouble
- Be a good person
- Avoid blaming/harming others at school. Master will not side with you if something happens.
- Even if your friend is being bullied or something happens don't act rashly, call the teacher. If things happen that involve a physical fight, immediately call the teacher. But don't judge yourself!
- Don't start trouble.
- Don't start a fight by blaming each other. In the end it won't be good.