Are you trying to get your crush to hold your hand? Or are you trying to figure out the best way to start holding the hand of your crush? Whatever your reasons, there are several steps you can follow to get started on this crucial first step in love.
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Part 1 of 2: Getting Your Hands Gripped
Step 1. Make eye contact
If you want to get your boyfriend to hold your hand, start by making eye contact with him with a slight smile. This will let him know that you are attracted to him and make you more open and welcoming to physical contact.
You can try walking near him while you are out for a walk. Body distance coupled with eye contact will make you look interested and welcome his presence
Step 2. Touch it first
Opening up the possibility for physical contact is important. Let your fingers touch hers while eating dinner or walking out of the car. If you are walking side by side, hold her hand or gently wrap your arm around her. This form of gentle physical contact will let your boyfriend know that you are open to touch.
You can do a hand grip test by holding your boyfriend's hand and taking him somewhere, then releasing your grip when you arrive. This way, you'll hold hands for a while but won't be as tense as holding hands should be
Step 3. Give hidden cues
Your boyfriend may need some hints that indicate that you want to hold hands. Try giving him small cues that you want to hold hands. Your boyfriend may just be feeling tense, so encouraging him to hold hands can help.
- If you're at the cinema, put your arms and hands on the edge of the chair with your palms open to invite him. You can also let your hands droop down the sides of the chair. Your boyfriend needs to be sensitive and understand your cues that you want him to hold your hand.
- Say that your hands feel cold. Say that your hands feel cold and ask your boyfriend to feel them. Hopefully your boyfriend will try to warm it up. This is a sweet and romantic way to get your boyfriend to hold your hand.
- Ask to match hand sizes. Raise your hand and when your boyfriend raises his hand, gently bring your hands together to compare the sizes. This is a way to keep your boyfriend's hand close to yours, and a subtle way to let him know that you want to hold his hand.
Step 4. Be brave
If your boyfriend still doesn't know you want to hold hands, take the initiative to make physical contact yourself. Hold her hand and squeeze gently. This will let your boyfriend know that you care about him. If you're feeling nervous, there's a good chance your boyfriend feels the same way. This can relax both of you.
Self-confidence and initiative are attractive qualities, so by holding your boyfriend's hand first, you're letting him know that you're attracted to him and that you want to get to know him better
Step 5. Intensify your grip
When you and your boyfriend are comfortable holding hands, try to take the initiative to hold them first and use a different, more intimate method of holding hands. If you're both holding each other's hands, spread your fingers apart and move them until your fingers are level with your boyfriend's fingers. Spread your fingers slightly apart and place them between his fingers until your fingers are intertwined.
Part 2 of 2: Reaching Out Hand
Step 1. Measure her level of interest
If you're on a date, look for hidden signs that he's ready to hold hands. If your boyfriend has been ignoring you all night, it's a sign that he's not interested. However, if he is already walking close to you and seems comfortable, this is a good sign to start holding hands.
If your boyfriend gradually begins to make physical contact, like shoving you in a joke or grabbing your arm, his hands are wide open for you to hold
Step 2. Examine your hands
You might feel a little nervous, so check your hands to make sure they aren't sweaty or sticky. If you feel sweaty, gently wipe your palms or put your hands in your pants pockets for a few moments to dry them. Your boyfriend may also be nervous, but sweaty hands are very unattractive.
Also make sure your hands are clean and damp. Hands that are too dry or smell more unpleasant than sweaty hands
Step 3. Wait for the right time and place
If you're in the middle of dinner or doing an activity that requires a lot of movement, holding hands will not feel comfortable. Don't hold hands when the two of you are in a large group of friends or at family gatherings. The two of you don't have to be alone to hold hands, but make sure the place you choose is a private place where you can both feel comfortable.
- Try taking a walk on the beach, climbing a mountain, or taking a walk on the sidewalk. There will be lots of people around you, but strangers are less likely to notice the two of you so you have the privacy you need to hold hands.
- The cinema is a great place to start holding hands. Since you are sitting next to each other, your position is very conducive to holding hands. A dark cinema adds extra privacy and will help if your boyfriend is shy.
Step 4. Take her hand
When you find the right time and place and you feel ready, approach your boyfriend and gently take his hand. Remember to be gentle and don't rush. Make an effort to be unobtrusive and remember to keep talking or walking to make sure it's natural and you're both comfortable.
- Make sure you don't jump ahead and scare your boyfriend by trying to hold his hand. Do not let you give the wrong impression in the initial phase of this romantic relationship.
- You can also try rubbing your hand on your boyfriend's arm before wrapping your arm around his. This way, he will feel ready before you hold his hand, and it will also provide a more intimate touch to start holding hands.
- If your lover stays away, don't force your will. Maybe he's not interested, or maybe he's shy and not ready to hold hands. Don't take it too seriously and try to make him feel comfortable in the situation. Sooner or later, you will be able to hold his hand.
Step 5. Start simple
Use a simple hand gripping technique at first. As you grip his hand, place your palm in the middle of his hand, and make an X pattern with your hand. Then, gently close your hands until your thumbs and fingers wrap around the edges of your boyfriend's hand.
- For a more intimate moment, consider rubbing your thumb on the back of her hand. This can add affection to your grip and let him know that you enjoy holding hands without having to say it. If he returns your cue, you've held hands correctly.
- Try not to grip too tightly. This can make holding hands uncomfortable and both of your hands will start to sweat.
