How could this happen? You're not fifty and still very fit, ready to live the life that awaits you, then suddenly a little baby will grow up and call you "Grandpa." Of course you are the most omniscient grandpa, but if you want to do well in this role, start learning to bathe your grandchildren with love and affection while knowing what the limits are.
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Part 1 of 3: Spending Time With Your Grandkids
Step 1. Give your grandchildren lots of love
As a grandparent, one of the most important things you can do is give them love. Hug them and give them a kiss, let them know how much they mean to you. Tell them how beautiful, smart, and funny they are, and show them that not a day goes by that you don't think about them. Being a loving and caring person is the most important thing you can do.
- Be a loving person by giving lots of hugs, kisses, and affection.
- As a grandfather who feels proud of his grandson, realize that besides you, there are other people who will also take care of your newborn grandson, namely his parents and grandmother. Be patient, there will be opportunities to show your affection for him.
Step 2. Pamper your grandchildren a little
Grandparents are usually known as people who love to pamper their grandchildren the most. While you certainly don't want to disrupt their diet by simply giving them biscuits, you should indulge them a little by breaking the rules to some extent so they can feel happy and cheerful when you're with you. Let them feel special and occasionally give them a small treat or gift to let them know how much they mean to you.
While you don't have to pamper them with expensive gifts they've forgotten in a week, do give them a treasured memento that they'll always remember
Step 3. Tell us about your family tree
As a grandfather, one of your duties is to tell your grandchildren what life was like at that time. Even if they may seem disinterested or indifferent at first, you should tell them who and what your parents and grandparents' lives were like so that they can better understand and appreciate the life they are currently living, whose conditions are very different from yours. Even if they don't appreciate what you have to say, someday they will be very grateful.
- Invite them to look through your photo album with you and tell the life stories of everyone in their family by bringing these stories to life.
- Drawing a family tree is a fun activity you can do with them.
Step 4. Always be present at important moments
As a grandparent, you should try to be present at important moments in each of your grandchildren's lives, for example when they start learning to walk and talk, as well as after they get a little older, on their first day of school or even when they graduate. primary school. As they look back on these important moments in their lives, his grandfather was always there to accompany them every step of the way.
Support and encourage them when this moment comes. They will need you at these crucial moments
Step 5. Don't be picky
If you are lucky enough to have more than one grandchild, you must learn to love them fairly, even if your favorite little granddaughter is always telling you she loves you very much, while your grandson likes to throw his food in your face. If you show favoritism, they will understand, and there is a grandson who will feel sad. Just like being a parent, you must love all your grandchildren fairly so that they can grow up in the light of your love.
Learn to appreciate what makes each of your grandchildren different from each other, and try to keep them from behaving like their naughty siblings, in addition to modeling good behavior
Step 6. Listen to them
Another way to give your grandchildren the love they deserve is to take time to sit down with them and listen to them wholeheartedly. As a grandparent, you may be more used to talking than listening, but if you really want to show that you care, let them see that what they have to say is important. Lay them on your lap or invite them to sit across from you at dinner, make eye contact with them, and let them tell you what they've been through during the day, what they're looking forward to the weekend, or what they're thinking. The situation will be very different if you can really listen to them.
Put down your newspaper first, turn off the television, and keep away anything else that can distract. Give them your full attention
Step 7. Invite them to do outdoor activities and be prepared for it
In general, children spend too much time in front of the television, computers, or even their cell phones. As their grandpa, who is expected to be less dependent on technology than they are, your job is to get them involved in outdoor activities. Maybe by helping you tidy up the yard, accompanying you for a walk around the house, or even practicing catching a ball with you. The main goal is for them to love and appreciate the outdoors, and they have you to thank, even if they are grumbling at first.
- Keep them active. In addition to inviting your grandchildren to do outdoor activities, provide motivation so that they want to be more active. This can be done by holding a get-together event. If you go to the beach, take them to play Frisbee or teach them to swim.
- If you're taking a walk in the park, accompany them to a running race or other fun game. Many children do not get enough exercise, and encourage them to be more active and stay motivated.
Part 2 of 3: Helping Your Grandchildren Build Character
Step 1. Don't let them break too many rules
While grandparents have the right to pamper their grandchildren a little, don't do this to the point that you don't care at all about your grandchild's parental rules and create conflict. Don't ignore their sleep schedule, their dietary restrictions, or how long they can watch television each day. While it may feel fine at first to let them break the rules, this can create confusion in their household, and you should make sure your grandchildren understand that rules are made to be done.
- Instead, help your grandchildren understand why their parents' rules are important.
- If there's a rule you don't agree with, try to talk about it (though you shouldn't give advice) but don't tell your grandchildren that it's the wrong rule.
Step 2. Teach your grandchildren about life
As a grandfather, you can also tell them what living conditions were like when you were a child. Let them see that their lives are going to change rapidly and shouldn't just believe in anything. If you have extensive knowledge of history, politics, music, or otherwise, you should share this knowledge with as many of them as you can because this will make them rich adults with knowledge.
- Take time to read the paper with them and answer if they have any questions.
- If they're taking history, try to find what you can share from your own experience.
Step 3. Ask them to teach you something
While you may think that you are a grandfather with the highest wisdom you can share with your grandchildren, do not look down on them. They live in a different world than yours, and they may be able to teach you a few things, from how to send messages to getting to know who Justin Beiber really is. Let them see themselves as true teachers who have a lot to share, and this will develop a sense of worth within them.
Ask them to help and don't be shy about it. They will feel proud because they have something to show grandpa
Step 4. Help your grandchildren to be good citizens
As a grandfather, another thing you can do is teach them the importance of being a good citizen of the world. You can teach how to recycle, be kind to your neighbors and respect others in your everyday life. Remember that you are a role model to them, so if you are a good citizen yourself, they will follow your example.
- Help them to behave well, be polite, and learn to respect the privacy of others.
- Teach also the most basic tasks such as returning the shopping cart or holding the door for others so that they become good citizens.
Step 5. If grandma is still around, try to support each other
If you and your wife are caring for grandchildren together, you must apply the same rules and regulations. This way your home life can go well and your grandchildren will treat their grandparents the same way, and not assume that either of you is a “good cop” who wants to break the rules. Treat your wife with love and kindness too, and make your relationship an example of a loving and caring attitude that will one day inspire your grandchildren.
Show affection for your wife in front of your grandchildren to teach a good example in relationship building
Step 6. Don't criticize them
Of course you can rebuke your grandchildren if they behave badly, but don't criticize them too much. You have no right to make them feel bad about themselves. You should praise them as often as possible and criticize them only if there is a lesson that you think is important to convey and will be very beneficial for their character development. They should also be able to feel love and guidance from you, not words to discourage them.
Control yourself if you feel like criticizing. Give only constructive criticism, don't criticize if it will only make them feel disappointed in themselves
Step 7. Be kind to your granddaughter's parents
If you want your grandchildren to be strong people by building their character, don't criticize your granddaughter's parents in front of them. Even if their parents owe you money or burden you with excessive responsibilities, if they hear you criticize their parents, they will think it's okay to do this and will form bad habits in them.
When you have to talk to a grandchild's parents, of course you have to treat them with kindness and respect, and don't fight in front of their children
Part 3 of 3: Adjusting to Your New Role
Step 1. Help the grandson's parents as much as you can
As a new grandparent, you can help as much as you can while recognizing your limitations. Help by looking after your grandchildren, occasionally buying their necessities, or helping with household chores if you can. Your presence is needed at a time when they have to adjust to a new life by providing love, support, and help. After the baby is born, you will have to spend more time with them than usual.
If your homes are far apart, plan a trip for some time to hang out with them and bond with your newborn grandchildren
Step 2. Don't let yourself be overwhelmed with this new responsibility
Even if you need to help them, don't let the responsibilities of being a grandpa take up so much of your life that you feel overwhelmed or don't have time to do what you love. It's okay to feel physically unable to help if you've helped enough and you deserve to be proud to say so.
While you may love spending time with your newborn grandson, you need to be open and honest with your parents about how much work you can do
Step 3. Pay attention to your own life
While you'd love to be and really love being a grandpa, especially if you're living it alone, make sure you take care of your own life regardless of your new assignments. Make it a habit to keep in touch with your friends, make time for cooking, fishing, walking, or whatever you usually do, and read a book that can relieve you of tension. Make sure you can still live your own life so you don't get too attached to your newborn grandson's new life.
- Make time to hang out with friends and your wife, do your favorite activities that you used to do before your grandson was born, such as playing golf, reading paper, or tending plants.
- Keep in mind that there will be other grandparents who will want to share the work with you so you can't expect to be with the new-born grandson all the time.
Step 4. Don't give advice on parenting
Even if you have tons of ideas on how to raise children and you've raised 10 healthy and happy children, don't give advice on this unless asked. Remember that you are the grandfather, not the parent and accepting the role of grandfather for your grandchildren is not the same as being the parent.
If your advice is needed, give it without criticism. Keep in mind that things have been a bit different since you raised your children, so consider this as well when giving advice
Step 5. Provide opportunities for your granddaughter's parents to be closer to each other
Even if you enjoy being with the whole family, as a grandparent, you need to give them time so they can be alone without their kids. Time to be alone is necessary so that they can maintain closeness, even if they have to feel lost because they can't meet their children. You have to give them time to calm down and understand their need to be alone for a while.
Let them go alone at least once or twice a month. They may insist that they don't need time away from their children but you have to provide support for them to do so
Tips
- Do not give too much because you will run out of money yourself.
- It is impossible to be a perfect person, try to do your best.
- Don't support your grandchildren if they start fighting. This is not a film about brats who like to fight.
Warning
- Listening to songs with swearing is NOT a good idea.
- Giving influence that brings bad behavior to the grandchildren will cause problems for the parents.
- The habit of swearing is completely unnecessary unless you have lost consciousness.
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Smoking habits will teach your grandchildren to smoke, so Stop smoking!
