Being a strong woman requires confidence and not pretending. You can learn to make positive changes in your life to become the person you want to be and let the confidence you have influence how others perceive you. Try to amplify the true version of yourself. Be a tough person.
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Part 1 of 3: Gaining Confidence
Step 1. Create a solid vision for yourself and your future
In your world, what does it mean to be tough? What parts of yourself do you think should be made tough? Imagine yourself as a desirable tough person. How does it differ from the way you are behaving, acting, or dressing right now?
- Imagine the tough figure you want from yourself. What's the change like? Are you talking more or less? Is the way you dress different or is it the same? Where do you live? What do you do? Who do you associate yourself with?
- Think of a tough person you want to emulate. Are you more like Joan Jett or Madonna? Joni Mitchell or Janis Joplin? Angelina Jolie or Judi Dench? There are many strong women who are good role models.
Step 2. Tether your action
Once you have a solid vision of yourself, the first and best thing to make small changes is to anchor your actions to this vision. It may sound stupid, but try to act, act and even think like this tough vision of yourself. Start small and slowly make more significant changes.
- Resilient people exude confidence in everything they do. Tie your vision to that confidence. Try walking like yourself. And now, try walking again but this time it's like a tough vision of yourself. Make the changes you want.
- If it helps, pick a role model, it could be Angelina or Janis, and pretend to walk like that person. Try to dress like the style of clothing you think, according to your wardrobe. Say what you think he's used to, depending on the situation you're in.
Step 3. Develop your passion
What do you want from your life? What goals do you have? The tough figure is not pessimistic. They have control over their lives, and strive to get what they want. If you don't know what you want, or how to get it, this makes it very difficult.
If the concept of "desire" seems too complicated, think about interests. What do you like to do? How do you think you will be in five years, ten years, thirty years?
Step 4. Stop waiting for permission
Strong women don't wait to find out if they can do what they want to do. As a tough woman, you have to take action based on intelligence and impulse, going after what you want without worrying about what other people think.
- The attitude of wanting to please others is not a reflection of a strong woman. Act for yourself, without being selfish, just because you believe in yourself.
- Of course, if you are still in school or are a minor, there are rules to follow and you must follow them to avoid trouble. Try to learn to negotiate these rules while still maintaining your assertiveness, although this can be challenging.
Step 5. Get out of your mind
Being tough means you're reflective and a thinker, but that doesn't mean you're stuck in your own head. It's important to remember that you have to live in the outside world, and let the light from within you shine through. Think about your tough charms and plan for this, but make sure you show it in real life, instead of living in fantasy.
- Don't be afraid to say what's on your mind. If you have something to say, a tough woman will always say it.
- Create a narrative for your life with yourself as a tough female character in the lead role. Try to see yourself as both the main character and the narrator of your own biography.
Step 6. Try to relax
Strong women feel comfortable in the world they live in. Don't be afraid, don't be afraid and try to be calm. One thing that can make you look tough is being calm under pressure and not caring what people say. You're not interested in trends, what's going on or following a group. You move according to your heart.
However, the tough woman is not a cold and emotionless robot. Try to get excited when the situation is right. Try to reflect back on what you get from this world. If everyone in the group looks so excited, try to calm down. If everyone seems too cold, try to be warm. Be the opposite
Part 2 of 3: Becoming a Strong Woman
Step 1. Be the first to speak in the conversation, but be the least
The first to speak achieves many things. This lets you build and control conversations, bringing them into the territory you want. You make the rules and be the first to play them. Talking the least impresses you more than the rest. Don't bother with arguing.
- Once you've got the conversation under control and made the rules, try to relax and appear calm. Let other people talk. Listen carefully and try to be genuinely interested in what the other person has to say, but don't get too carried away with it.
- If you must interrupt, do so quietly but firmly. Say something like, "I have something to say," and then say nothing for five or ten seconds. People will also pay close attention to you.
Step 2. Rely on yourself
There is no strong woman who keeps asking others for help. It definitely depends a lot on where you are and what you do, but it's important to be independent and rely on yourself as much as possible. You are not a helpless woman but a strong woman who takes care of herself.
If you need help, just relax. Don't make a fuss because you can't do something on your own. You should still feel proud that you were able to achieve something with something you contributed
Step 3. Help other women
Don't be tough on yourself. Someone who is unselfish and willing to help others who need help will stand out as mature, attractive and worthy of admiration. Don't be mean to other girls. Try to make a lot of friends with girls and be nice to them.
If you're still in school, protect younger students and try to make friends with kids who may not have many friends. New kid in class? Accompany them. Students who don't really speak your language well? Try talking to them. That's just the name of a strong woman
Step 4. Take calculated risks
Willing to do something that might fail? That's called tough. Tough women don't settle for a world of security and comfort, they are willing to take risks that open the door to tremendous rewards to stand out from the rest. Don't be afraid to argue with your teacher if the topic they are discussing is up for debate. Tell the bully in class to keep his mouth shut when he's bothering a younger friend. Try applying for a scholarship that you may not get. Try registering yourself for the trial to join the school team. Be willing to fail.
"Calculated risk" does not mean "dangerous behavior." A calculated risk could be the courage to ask the barista when you're out of coffee and the courage to fail instead of drinking a lot of vodka and driving your dad's car. There is a big difference between tough and stupid
Step 5. Try to be real
Being a formidable figure is not an image. It's not a trick, a disguise, and it's not meant to be superior. A tough woman is a woman who becomes a version of her true self, not at all fake. If you want people to say, "He's so tough," it should be because you want to do things for the sake of those things, not for your reputation.
Part 3 of 3: Look Tough
Step 1. Choose your look
Strong women don't follow trends. Strong women look like that because they choose to look that way. A tough girl can dress like she just stepped out of the cowboy area in cowboy boots, or she can look fashionable in big sunglasses and tops like those found in Vogue magazine. Your appearance should define your personality, not change it.
- Match your style with your real life. If you're a working woman with rough hands and unkempt nails, so be it.
- Dress according to your vision of yourself. If you want to make positive changes in your life, your clothes can affect how you feel. Take a look at your wardrobe and decide what clothes Angelina Jolie, or whatever tough character you choose, will wear.
Step 2. Wear clothes that make you feel strong
Your clothes provide an opportunity to influence how you feel, and can define who you are. If your appearance doesn't align with the person you want you to be, you can make changes on the outside that can affect you on the inside. Try to be ambitious with your dress, if you so desire, and style the appearance in such a way as to feel a strong sense of comfort.
Take a look at your wardrobe and try them all on. What makes you really feel like the person you want to be? What makes you feel confident? Sexy? Strong? Tough? Put on those clothes
Step 3. Clean the wardrobe
Get rid of any clothes that don't make you feel tough. With the passage of time, we have so many collections of clothes and clothes at home that the worn out ones can easily be thrown away if they don't help you feel confident and resilient. If you only wear clothes that make you feel confident and tough, you will always feel tough and that will affect your attitude.
Step 4. Stop following the trend
Trends only make yourself look fashionable in the eyes of others, not yourself. You can spend time busy reading fashion magazines to find out the trends of the month ahead, or you can do the things that make you a tough woman. Trying to wear cool clothes before the trend isn't a tough attitude, but it's "fashionable."
If you're really into fashion and love to follow trends, go for it. But never feel like you have to do it in order to be accepted. It was not a tough attitude but being influenced by others
Step 5.
Make eye contact.
One of the best ways to look tough when you're with other people is to make eye contact. This will help you appear confident and powerful when interacting and people will notice you have a strong eye.
You don't have to be agreeing all the time, nodding and agreeing to what other people say. Try to appear skeptical so that you appear to really think about what the other person is saying, and try to appear as if you would disagree. It was a formidable way of getting the truth out of other people. Don't be the one to be intimidated, be the one to be intimidated
Tips
- Never change yourself.
- Never be rude.
- https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2014/08/19/7-science-backed-ways-to-get-out-of-your-head/
- https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-forbes-terry/2014/09/9-ways-to-be-a-more-badass-woman/
- https://www.highexistence.com/how-to-become-a-social-badass/
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