Although most people fall in love with partners who are the same age, some couples have a huge age difference. That's not bad as long as both of them, especially the younger ones, are mature enough to handle the situation. Sometimes the age difference makes a relationship seem impossible, especially when a younger man is attracted to an older woman. However, the process of attracting an older woman is actually quite easy, as long as you are willing to invest the time and commitment.
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Part 1 of 3: Dressing like a grown man
Step 1. Clean yourself
Make sure that you shower regularly every day. Bathing as meant here means you should use soap and warm water, and make sure that sweaty areas, such as the armpits, are also cleaned. Clean your hair with shampoo and conditioner to make your hair nice and soft. More mature women like men who take care of themselves, and seem to exude a positive aura in their lives.
- After showering, put on deodorant. Make sure that you are wearing enough deodorant. Don't let the traces produced by sweat spoil the impression of the woman you're talking to.
- You can apply lotion to your hands to keep them soft. If your hands are rough, women may not want to be touched by you.
Step 2. Decide on the look you want, be it beard or clean
If you want a beard style, that's not a problem. Just make sure that you have enough hair on your face to suit the beard style. Thin hair on the face is not attractive, especially for older women. Thin hair will make you look like a teenager going through puberty, not a grown man. Make sure that you trim your beard, sideburns, and mustaches so they don't fall apart. Use a razor or electric shaver to trim and enhance your appearance.
- A clean facial appearance is easier to maintain. Remember to shave your facial hair with a knife and a special cream every morning. Some women like light hair shadows, but you shouldn't let it go any longer than that. Older women like men who look clean.
- Do not forget to shave the hair that is on the other side of the face. Get rid of any wild growing chest hair, and trim your leg hair. That way, you show the women you want that you care about how you look in front of other people.
Step 3. Brush your teeth regularly
Older women like men who take good care of themselves, and also if the man wants to keep his breath smelling good and fresh. Brush your teeth (for two minutes) twice a day, in the morning and at night. Clean your teeth with special cleaning wires to clean food left between your teeth. Finish by gargling with a special liquid that functions to clean the whole mouth, and leaves a fresh smell.
Always have breath mints or mint gum on hand if you haven't brushed your teeth in a while. That way, at least you can cover up bad breath, and make your breath fresher
Step 4. Arrange and keep hair neat
After showering, style your hair so it doesn't fall apart. If you prefer, you can use over-the-counter products, such as styling gel, which will allow you to style your hair in a variety of styles. Make sure that you look clean and tidy, and also look mature.
Remember to cut your hair regularly every month. Hair that is long up to the neck and messy around the ears should be trimmed
Step 5. Spray cologne or body deodorizer
It is recommended that you squirt a little cologne on your "pulse points". Pulse points are where blood vessels are close to the skin. The blood vessels generate heat so that the fragrance from the colony will spread well. Areas included are under the arms, behind the knees, around the neckline, and wrists. However, it is important to remember not to overspray. Excessive colony can deprive a woman of interest.
Step 6. Choose clothes with a sophisticated sense of style
Many young men enjoy wearing soccer or baseball jerseys. However, most older women prefer to see men wearing clothes that match their outfits. If she wears shorts with a polo shirt, she may be more attracted to men who are more presentable and elegant. If she always wears jeans and a T-shirt, she may be more attracted to men who wear sporty, casual outfits.
- Make sure that all your clothes are ironed. It shows women that you care about how you look and who you are. Don't make yourself look like someone who just woke up.
- It's natural to have differing judgments about appropriate clothing. There is no "perfect" outfit. Try your best to give the best rating. Going occasionally to buy a new shirt or pants at the nearest store is not a bad thing, especially if your closet is still quite empty.
Part 2 of 3: Talking to Older Women
Step 1. Show a mature nature when you seduce him
If you are still in the early stages, you can simply seduce him with a smile. Tell her how beautiful she is today, or compliment her on the clothes she is wearing. Say something about him specifically, such as his laugh, his eyes, as well as any other unique aspects of him that you see. Don't touch it, especially in the early stages. Look him in the eye when you talk to show that you are completely on him.
Step 2. Show confidence when speaking
Stand up straight and don't bend over. Don't ever think that you can't date her. You have to think positively about your target. Older women can notice a person's confidence, and they are attracted to it. Speak slowly and clearly, not rushed and unclear. Spice up the chat with an occasional joke to make him laugh. Make sure that you always smile, and never frown.
Keep the conversation going. Make sure that you always have an idea that can be discussed when he's done speaking. Don't let the two of you fall silent and awkward
Step 3. Find out about what interests him
Talk about mature topics, such as your sports team, a book you've read recently, or something you find attractive to women her age. Ask where he works, what sports he does, where he will continue his studies, and also where his family comes from. It's an adult question, which shows that you really want to get to know the person, not the sexual object.
Step 4. Join in the activity he does
If he's on a debate team, you can join the team so he'll be aware of you, and may consider you a man. This method is quite helpful when the woman knows that what you are doing is outside your comfort zone. For example, you can join a book club that he joins, even if you don't really like reading. That way, you're showing that you're willing to put in the effort so you can ask him out later. You have to care not only about what you like, but also what he likes.
Step 5. Read her body language, not fully listen to what she is saying
He may say nice things, but his eyes may not show any interest in you. You have to keep him or her paying attention to you by looking good, speaking in a reassuring tone, or by your charming characteristics. If he doesn't seem interested in you, find another woman. To be a grown man, you have to know that older women know what they want. If he won't give you his number, or never replies to your messages, make sure that you find another woman.
- If he crosses his arms, or looks away when he's talking to you, he's probably not really interested in you.
- Make sure that your body is really facing him when speaking. You have to show that you are focused on him.
Step 6. Try to make friends in his friendly environment
That way, you won't sound like a complete stranger, and it will make you look and feel more like the group. If you're planning to date the woman, you should at least get used to her friends. If he notices that you can't even pretend to hang out with his friends, there's a good chance he won't be attracted to you. Adult men can usually form friendships with their lover's friends. His friends are the source of his happiness, and that should make you happy.
Step 7. Don't be afraid to ask her out
It's a surefire way to show that you're more mature than you seem, and that's a good thing. Plus, dating is a big part of your process of making him a lover. Ask for her number in advance so you can call her after school. However, if you want to ask her out on a date, ask in person, not via text message or phone. Older women don't like men who feel intimidated in front of them. Set a date and place for the date so you and he don't forget.
For example, one way you can ask her out is: "Hey [insert name], yesterday I was thinking about going out for dinner Friday night, I just wanted to know, are you interested in going out with me?"
Part 3 of 3: Dating Older Women
Step 1. Take him to a good restaurant
The most classic date is to have a delicious meal with the woman you want. Pick him up in your car and head to the restaurant of your choice. Open the door for him. This is the most appropriate time for you to ask him, and make sure that the conversation between the two of you continues. Look him in the eye as you speak and listen to him. Compliment how graceful she is in the dress of her choice.
- Don't go on a date to a place like the cinema, at least before the second date. If you do it on the first date, you won't get a chance to chat and see each other. On subsequent dates, movies can be a fun experience for both of you, and also add to the topic you can discuss with him.
- Bring flowers for her when you visit her at home. It really works, and it will make the date feel like a great start.
Step 2. Begin physical contact
Early dates are usually not the time to expect sexual relations. However, you should hold her hand, for example at dinner, or when you take her home. Older women may take the initiative to do so, but you have to show confidence. When you get to his house, take him to his front door. Give a goodnight kiss. While kissing him, place your hands behind his head.
- A good first night kiss should only last 5-6 seconds. Don't make the situation awkward, or make him feel that you want more.
- Don't just give him a quick peck on the lips or cheek. Use your tongue a little and show that you have certain feelings for him. He will want more, and will be more open to dating you next time.
Step 3. Prepare for a more intimate relationship
Be aware that a more mature woman may be more used to sexual matters, and she may even be more experienced than you. Find out your level of intimacy as you get to know him more deeply. If you're not ready for further sexual intercourse, make sure you tell him about it. If you are willing, go for it all. Listen to what he needs, and make sure that you feel comfortable conveying what he wants.
- Keep in mind that the woman you are dating is more mature, and may want to practice safe sex. Make sure that you always carry a condom just in case the moment is right.
- An open and honest relationship is built on a good sexual relationship. If you don't feel happy after sex, you may not be able to continue your relationship.
- Make time to spend with him before and after making out. This will bring the mood of your partner to do it, and it shows that you are mature.
Step 4. Don't be pressured by the age difference
While these differences can never be eliminated, it's best if you don't stress yourself out about it. In the end, the age difference didn't really matter. Stay calm, get to know him better, and form the perfect relationship as you pursue anything else. Don't listen to people who don't understand your relationship.
Step 5. Keep reminding your partner that you love them
A grown man will always be there for his lover. This means that no matter when he is happy, laughing, sad, and unstable, you will be by his side. Show him that you're an adult too, and won't leave him. Keep buying her flowers, chocolates, and greeting cards. Maybe at times it will sound like the same thing over and over again, but it really does work in maintaining a relationship. Every day you are not with him, make sure that you express your love to him.
Tips
- Be aware that she may be worried about what her friends think about relationships with younger men. Don't let that stop you from dating him. Be patient if he's indecisive, but remember that it's really nobody else's business.
- Don't forget that you have to like the character of the lover. If you just like the way it looks, you'll be disappointed later.
- Make sure that you are always yourself! If you try to be someone else, he will notice.
- Attracting the attention of a more mature woman requires the same skill as chasing a woman of the same age; You just have to do better.
- Show good behavior. Show your manners. That way, you will look like a mature young man.
- No matter what your age, make sure that you maintain good hygiene.
- Start by being friends with him. That way, you can get to know him more deeply first. That's a great and easy first step.
- Show a mature attitude, or he will lose interest in you.
Warning
- Don't pretend to be someone else, or pretend you like things you don't really like. Honesty is essential to any relationship.
- Don't use sayings from movies or other media; it won't work. Chatting with him is the best way. Make him feel comfortable around you.
- If you join an activity group, you may need to practice to do it well.
- Don't show immaturity in front of him. For example, don't blow the air in front of him or make rude jokes.
- Don't let other people make you look weak in front of them because that will make you look bad.
