You are in love with a woman, but you don't know how to attract her attention? Fear not, although there is no absolute way to win a woman's heart, there are things you can do to make you better at attracting her attention. Building self-confidence, knowing what to say, and knowing how to act around him will make it easier for you to attract him.
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Method 1 of 3: Improving Physical Appearance
Step 1. Build your confidence
Confidence is one of the qualities of men that can attract women's attention. But remember, being confident doesn't mean being arrogant, so you have to know the difference. Fortunately, self-confidence is not something that is innate and can be had by anyone who wants to develop it.
- Pretend to be confident until you really feel confident. You can do this by doing something confidently, even if you don't really feel like it. Start slowly. For example, if you are a shy person, dare to chat with someone you don't know every day. Over time, you'll be able to chat with the woman you like without feeling awkward.
- Use proper posture to feel confident. Stand with your feet apart and your hands on your hips. Don't cross your arms over your chest (that's a sign of insecurity).
- Chew gum. In addition to making your breath smell good (which can help you attract a woman), chewing gum can also reduce stress. So before you meet the woman you're after, put some gum in your mouth.
Step 2. Maintain cleanliness
The definition of hygiene varies from person to place and from place to place. Some people have low standards of cleanliness, but others have high standards.
- Take a shower every day. In Indonesia, which is a tropical country and quite humid, bathing every day is common. Generally we are taught to take a shower twice a day (morning and evening/night) to avoid body odor due to sweat. Or if you are lazy to take a shower, at least take a shower every morning.
- Wash your clothes. If the clothes you were wearing at that time were dirty and full of sweat, wash them so they don't smell and still look good.
Step 3. Make sure your teeth are clean
White, clean, and healthy teeth can increase your chances of attracting women. So, make sure you brush your teeth well at least twice a day.
- White teeth are the first thing women (and probably everyone) notice. So, it's a good idea to keep your teeth clean.
- You'll also want your breath to be odor-free, which means you'll need to clean your tongue as well as other parts of your mouth.
Step 4. Wear appropriate and attractive clothing
Clothing is an important indicator of confidence and attractiveness. Pay attention to the place and time when you dress. No matter how cool your clothes are, if they are worn at the wrong time and place, they will still look weird. Here are some basic things you should pay attention to.
- Make sure your jeans and any pants you have on fit. Clothing that fits your body will increase your attractiveness. Baggy or oversized pants will hide your figure, and/or make you look untidy. But pants that are too tight won't look good on anyone either.
- Wear good shoes. While not all women are obsessed with shoes or clothes, nice shoes can complete your look, and all women will love it, knowing it or not.
- Wear clothes in colors that match your skin tone, eyes, and face shape.
Step 5. Don't overdo it with fragrance
Using perfumes and other fragrances is necessary, especially if you are afraid of sweating a lot or want to keep your body odor at bay. But make sure you don't overdo it or use perfume that's too strong because in addition to masking your natural smell, excessive perfume can also make people smelling it uncomfortable.
- But remember, don't let your body odor get too strong and make people around you uncomfortable. If you sweat a lot, make sure you change your clothes at least every day.
- Perfumes and other fragrances can be a nice touch to your look as long as you don't overdo it. Spray a little behind the ears, on the neck and chest. You want to make sure that the smell of the perfume sticks with your natural body odor.
Method 2 of 3: Make Your Personality Stand Out
Step 1. Find your interests
Most people are attracted to individuals who know themselves, are proud and confident in themselves, and have an interest in something. An interest in something (such as sports, mountain climbing, cooking, or writing) can be an attraction in itself for some people.
- Having something you are passionate about allows you to have something you are passionate about and then discuss with other people.
- Find out what you love to do. This means you have to try different things and dance to see if you like doing it or not. Don't be afraid to make mistakes or not give great results the first time you try something. Staying confident even though you've made mistakes is one of the points that can be an attraction.
Step 2. Try new things
This will help you get out of your comfort zone, which will make you more confident in dealing with the difficult things in your life. In addition, this also allows you to chat with the woman you are after. Dare to try new things is something that can attract women's attention.
- If you really want to give it a try, explore what the woman you're after is interested in, such as cooking or singing, or whatever she's interested in.
- In addition to all the benefits above, trying new things will open up opportunities to meet new friends and of course get interesting experiences that you can share with others. Being a good friend to chat with who has many stories and has an interesting life can certainly attract women's attention.
Step 3. Learn and master the art of listening
Listening, of course with empathy, is an art that is often forgotten. Most people are busy talking about themselves or playing with their cellphones, so they tend not to listen to other people. If you show that you care about what other people have to say, then you also show that you are a good partner.
- When someone talks to you, make sure you pay full attention to them. Make eye contact and don't look at your phone. If you're not comfortable making eye contact, try to look at one side of his shoulder or his forehead, as this will make you look like you're making eye contact.
- Listen to what everyone has to say, including those you find unattractive. This shows that you value other people and think that everyone is important and that you don't listen to people just to get attention. Listen because you really want to hear and understand what he's saying, not just because you're attracting attention and approaching him.
Step 4. Treat everyone well
Yes, everyone. When you are at a mini market or market, make sure you thank the cashier. Apologize when you step on a floor being mopped by a janitor, and so on. Look into her eyes and make her feel that you do see and acknowledge her as an individual.
- That doesn't mean you have to be mushy. If someone says something that offends you, you still have the right to reprimand them.
- Treating people well includes opening the door to an old woman and helping her carry her luggage. Or drop off your friend because he doesn't have a vehicle, and so on. If you are used to treating people well, women will notice.
Method 3 of 3: Interacting with Women
Step 1. Approach it with respect
Approach women by remembering that they are human beings who deserve respect and respect (regardless of any factors). Women often think they are not worthy of respect, so if you respect them, then she will be attracted to you.
- Make sure you also respect and value yourself, which means being confident. When you talk to and approach a woman, don't base your happiness on whether she is interested in you. Have a chat with him, and if he's not interested, just back off and find someone else.
- Appreciate other people when you are around them (which means you should treat others well). Do not demean other women with words or actions that are not commendable. It will make you immature and disrespectful to other people.
- Many men are confused by the difference between confident and arrogant. Many believe that women only want men who are insolent and do not treat them well. But what really attracts women to this kind of person is their self-confidence, not their character and behavior.
Step 2. Ask questions about him
Make it look like you're interested in what he's saying. Instead of talking about yourself, ask follow-up questions. Women, like everyone else, like it when other people are interested in their opinions and thoughts.
- For example: you might ask him about his job and when he says he works as a barista, ask him if he likes his job, what part he likes most about his job, and what part he dislikes the most.
- Of course, make sure you listen to what he has to say. Don't just ask questions and impress them to interrogate them without caring about the answers at all.
- Don't get into personal stuff too soon. If you've just met her, don't immediately ask her about her relationship with her family or if she has any secrets she's hiding. There is time for that question.
Step 3. Have fun
You don't have to give him a big smile every time you see him. But it's a good idea to make the interaction with him fun, because it will make him remember that meeting you was fun.
- Instead of a big smile, make a simple smile. This often attracts women more than a big smile.
- Make him laugh. Tell something funny, especially if it's a real experience. It will show that you can laugh at yourself. For example: Tell me how you tried to scare your friend by hiding in his locker, but instead you scared someone else.
- Be careful when making jokes. Everyone has a different sense of humour. Make sure that you see the reaction of the other person when you make a joke. Did he laugh out loud, or just chuckle. Avoid jokes that are rude, racist, or sexist.
Step 4. Seduce a woman
Flirting with women can be a gamble, but it's a great way to lighten the mood and make things fun. If successful, he may want to be teased again. Again, make sure you watch his reaction every time you try to tease him, because one trick can work for one person, but not for another.
- Tease him the right way. Don't say mean things or offend her. Just a light joke that doesn't spoil the mood.
- Eye contact is important when flirting. Maintain eye contact with him while you're chatting, because eye contact builds energy between the two of you.
Tips
Remember that not all women will like you, no matter what you do (she may already be attracted to someone else, or for some other reason). Don't let the results of one try undermine your confidence. If he turns out to be uninterested in you, back off politely
Warning
- Take control of your hormones. If you're in a hurry and want to have sex with him right away, he'll actually resent you and avoid you completely.
- Deliberately making her jealous won't help you. It will only make him hate you and the woman you are using to make him jealous.
- Don't talk about other women when you're with him. He may feel jealous and end up disinterested in you.
