There are many ways you can try to heat up the atmosphere in the bedroom. Changing décor, exploring fantasies, or doing small things like buying new underwear can go a long way in keeping your love life interesting. Sometimes, heating things up also involves resolving issues that exist between you and your partner.
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Method 1 of 6: Organizing the Bedroom
Step 1. Turn your bedroom into an oasis
Spend your time and money turning your room into an escape location from the outside world. Making your bedroom feel like a hotel room can help you “escape” from your daily routine, and make your love life even more fulfilling.
- Install soundproofing curtains on the windows and extra soft plush blankets on the mattress.
- If you have pets, make sure they are out of the room when you are making out with your partner. A dog jumping on the bed and kissing you can spoil your mood in an instant.
Step 2. Buy soft sheets
On average, people who wore silk sheets had more sexual activity each week than those who wore duvets.
Step 3. Add a touch of purple in your bedroom
Studies show that people who use purple bed linens or furniture in the bedroom have higher levels of sexual interaction than those who don't.
- Some other colors that can be used according to research are red, sky blue, pink, and black.
- Avoid using gray, green, and beige.
Step 4. Use a pillow to make sex more enjoyable
There are many ways that can be used to improve sex positions with a pillow. Make sure you have plenty of soft pillows on the mattress!
Step 5. Heat the room (literally)
Lovers tend to be more affectionate in warm bedrooms, where minimal (or naked) clothing is comfortable. However, room conditions that are too hot can make it difficult for both parties to act.
Set the room temperature between 20 and 25 degrees Celsius, depending on your taste
Step 6. Keep the sheets clean
Sheets that smell like sweat (or some other disgusting thing) aren't as sexy as clean, fragrant sheets. Make sure to keep your sheets clean by washing them regularly.
You may also need to spray the sheets with a cloth spray to keep them smelling good. If you do this, don't overspray the sheets, as a strong scent can spoil the atmosphere
Step 7. Keep your room clean
Make sure all dirty clothes have been put in the basket and that no household chores can be seen when you are having sex. Seeing household chores unfinished can be distracting and cause stress.
Step 8. Keep items related to sexual activity in a special box
Condoms, sex toys, aids, lubricants – put everything you normally use for sex in a special box or drawer.
This way, when you're making out, you don't have to rummage through the room to find them
Step 9. Make a playlist of sexy songs
Music can build intimacy with a partner – as one expert says, music and sex are two things that are part of the primitive human brain.
Play music to sexy beats that create a "swinging" sensation, but any music that excites you is fine too
Step 10. Light a candle
Candles are more than just a mood mover; its light can beautify your physical appearance. Avoid using candles that are too scented because they can spoil the atmosphere.
- To be safe, use non-aromatic candles.
- If you want to use an aromatic candle, use a pumpkin pie, licorice, lavender, cinnamon, or cucumber scented candle. Avoid candles with cherry, cranberry, chocolate, and smokey scents.
Step 11. Disconnect
Instead of turning your attention to the television, cell phone, or other device while you rest in the afternoon, try spending time with your partner in bed – cuddling or lying down together. This will increase your chances of having sex.
Resist the urge to look at your phone while making out with someone. A study shows that 1 in 10 people do this. Leave the phone in silent mode in another room to avoid being tempted
Method 2 of 6: Changing the Way of Making Love
Step 1. Pepet your partner against the wall to make love
This is very sexy, especially if you do it right away when a new partner walks through the door – you can kiss and push them against the wall while still fondling them. This way will make the lover feel you can not hold back.
- Don't be offended if your partner has to take a break to pee or put down their belongings, such as jackets, bags, etc.
- Standing up straight will also make oral activity feel more intense because blood flows to the lower part of the body.
- Make sure your partner trusts you before trying this. If your partner has been the victim of violence or assault, you should discuss these actions first as there is a chance that their past trauma may resurface.
Step 2. Make love slowly
Try to slow down and enjoy each other's bodies even if you're already very excited. Spend your time kissing and touching, don't immediately engage in strenuous sexual activity.
- When you start having sex, take it slow!
- Experts argue that making love slowly can help overcome sexual problems and increase self-confidence.
Step 3. Speak up
Try to talk naughty in bed or at least sigh and signal that you are enjoying intimate time with your partner. Giving appreciation through voice will definitely make your partner more passionate.
This method can make you both laugh, but once you get used to it, it's sexy
Step 4. Have sex spontaneously
Having a quickie is a great way to increase desire and pleasure in your relationship. Speed sex can be done anywhere – the main idea is to give the impression that you and your partner are passionate about it.
Make sure you have enough time (in other words, don't be late for important events) and do it in a safe place so you don't get caught
Step 5. Make a hot film
Dim the lights and record your intimacy with your partner. This is a lot of fun, as well as a pretty safe way to act naughty. However, make sure you don't accidentally upload the video to the internet!
If you're worried that the video will spread to the internet, just turn off the Wi-Fi network and the wireless connection on the device you're using to record it. After that, delete the video permanently or save it to a flash drive, then delete it from the device
Step 6. Use sex toys and toys
Equipment such as handcuffs, feathers, scarves, and other sex toys can help you heat up the romantic atmosphere with your partner.
- An ornamental feather that is brushed onto the erotic points of the body can arouse passion quickly.
- Blindfolds can help enhance the senses in the body.
Step 7. Pay attention to areas of the partner's body that are rarely touched
When having sex, do not directly attack the most obvious body parts. Kiss your partner's neck, chest, stomach and legs – enjoy every inch of his body.
You can also drip honey, chocolate, and other sweet liquids onto your partner's skin and then lick them clean
Method 3 of 6: Playing the Game
Step 1. Play some “sexy dice”
Most sex shops sell sets of dice bearing erotic commands – for example, the dice read “Kiss” and “Neck”. Playing with this object is a fun way to explore all parts of your partner's body.
Step 2. Compete to make your sex fantasies come true
Start by writing down your fantasies and your partner's on a piece of paper. Next, play a competitive game (eg poker, Go Fish, monopoly, or video game). The winner of the game can realize his sex fantasy.
- Choose a realistic sex fantasy. Make sure it doesn't hurt your partner's feelings or cost you a lot of money.
- Choose the games you play wisely. Games like Monopoly can take hours to complete. This is fine if you don't intend to immediately realize the fantasy, because you and your partner may be exhausted after playing the game!
Step 3. Play a sexy hunting game
Leave a few messages with codes and puzzles for your partner to solve. The answer to the riddle should indicate an erotic place where you are already waiting for your lover.
Make sure the clues/puzzles you create are not too difficult to solve. If you don't, you'll be waiting too long and your loved one may appear so tired and frustrated that they're no longer passionate
Method 4 of 6: Changing the Way of Dressing
Step 1. Wear sexy clothes every now and then
Wear sexy underwear when washing clothes, brushing teeth, or making the bed. Let your partner see this. He may enjoy your appearance and feel aroused.
- Doing this when you're alone can help lift your mood, because you'll think that your boyfriend will come home and be aroused by your appearance.
- If you're used to hanging around the house half-naked, you may need to change your style a bit – for example, by buying new super sexy underwear.
Step 2. Put on the costume
If your partner has a great sense of humor or likes role-playing, you could try wearing a sexy butler or maid outfit when they get home.
Step 3. Wear high heels
If you are a woman, wearing high heels when making love with your partner can increase your passion and make your legs look longer and sexier.
Be careful when moving your feet – don't stab your partner in the eye
Method 5 of 6: Building Curiosity
Step 1. Send a naughty message to your partner
Use words that are appropriate to the situation and your partner's wishes: if your partner doesn't like naughty words, send him a flirty message, while if he likes naughty words, you can write a more vulgar message.
- Example: “I can't stop thinking about last night.;)”
- Example: “Mmm you looked handsome when you left for work this morning… I can't help but want to do naughty things when we get home!”
Step 2. Watch hot movies with your partner
Watching a hot movie is a great way to warm up the atmosphere. If you're skeptical, try watching a parody of a hot movie that you and your partner love – at least you can laugh at the silliness of the film.
If you feel insecure, watching hot films may not be the right decision, because you may feel inferior to the cast of the film. This should provide a pleasant experience, not make you sad
Step 3. Touch your partner as often as possible
Touching your partner in an affectionate but not too vulgar way can build intimacy between the two of you.
- While your partner is making coffee/preparing breakfast, walk behind him and hug his waist/hips, then kiss his neck gently.
- When you're out for dinner or a drink, pet your partner's feet casually. Move your hand up her thigh in a non-creepy way. This will give him a hint that you're in the mood to make out.
- Massaging each other is also a great way to stimulate your partner through touch.
Step 4. Do a striptease dance in front of your partner
This is generally done by women for their lovers, but men can do it too. Find a song that can lift your mood, decide how to take off clothes that fit, adjust the atmosphere (eg by lighting candles, putting up curtains, etc.), then act in front of your partner.
- The striptease dance can be as simple or as elaborate as you like. Be yourself and do what makes you feel good.
- If you are a humorous person and enjoy making your partner laugh, incorporate humor into your dance; while if you like to do it slowly and sexy, do it slowly and sexy dance.
- If you can't dance, practice undressing in a sexy way without having to do a lot of dancing.
Method 6 of 6: Get Closer to Your Partner
Step 1. Try to solve the problem you have
A flat love life does not mean that you have problems with your partner. However, problems in a relationship can cause problems in the bedroom.
- If you assume that a sluggish love life is a reflection of problems in your relationship, talk to your partner about this.
- Writing down your thoughts in a journal may be helpful. This will help you write down the points you want to convey when talking to your partner.
- If one of you and your partner have sexual problems, have emotional problems, or have self-confidence issues, it can be very difficult to get excited. Discussing this can evoke intimacy between you and him.
Step 2. Spend quality time with your partner
Schedule regular dates at least once a month and/or short romance times a few times a week. Set a clear schedule and stick to it.
- Doing this will show your partner that you value your relationship, and can bring you and your partner closer to each other.
- The stronger emotional bond thanks to this will also strengthen the physical relationship between you and your partner.
Step 3. Try to do new things together
Doing new things together is a great way to get out of your comfort zone and get closer to your partner. Trying new things will leave great memories and can help you and your partner feel like a team.
The excitement of trying new things can have an impact on the fun in the room
Step 4. Cook together
Cooking food together is a great way to get closer to your partner. You can also try cooking various recipes that contain stimulants.
You can find natural stimulants in oysters, salmon, pine nuts, and foods that contain capsaicin
Step 5. Exercise with your partner
Most people have heard of post-workout stimulation. This can happen because exercise can stimulate the production of the hormone dopamine. These hormones make you feel happy so that it can increase your sex desire.
- Even if you don't make out after a workout, this activity can still increase intimacy with your partner and build self-confidence.
- If you don't like exercising, try doing other activities with your partner – for example, cooking, fishing, playing music, or other activities you can enjoy together.
Step 6. Laugh together
Watch standup comedy shows or funny tv shows and movies. Various studies show that laughter can improve blood flow and have an impact on better performance in bed.
Laughing together can also help you have fun in the midst of various problems that you are facing. It's important to take time to have fun with your partner, no matter how thorny your issues are
Step 7. Make your partner feel wanted
Feeling wanted by your partner is very important to arouse sex drive. This applies to both men and women. There are many ways to make your partner feel wanted. For example, such as praising, touching, or sending messages containing seduction.
Treating your partner well outside of the bedroom can also make him feel wanted. You can offer to wash a pile of dirty dishes or take home a special gift for a positive effect
Step 8. Go to the sex shop together
Make a deal to buy one item each from the store, whether it's a set of “sexy dice,” an erotic novel, lubricant, or something more unique.
Have fun there – some of the stuff in the sex shop usually looks ridiculous (you're not forbidden to laugh at it). Try not to laugh too loudly so as not to annoy other customers
Step 9. Commit to increasing intimacy with your partner every day for a month
Let your partner know that you want to warm things up a little by making out every day for a month. At first glance, a plan like this does look rigid. However, this method can also build curiosity in you and the him.
If your partner agrees, you can create a special calendar of things you want to do each day. What you write doesn't need to be very specific – for example, in one day you can schedule a “speed sex” activity or the use of sex aids
Tips
- Build confidence in yourself by learning new skills. Spend time doing things that can make you grow and develop. This will help you feel more valued and confident, which will increase the intensity of your intimate relationship with your partner.
- If you don't feel like having sex, you can still practice the things mentioned in this article to heat up the atmosphere in the bedroom.
- It's important to maintain a positive attitude when trying to heat up the atmosphere in the room. Some things can be done, while others can't. The key to your success lies in the willingness to keep trying and not give up easily!
