If you want to make a guy fall in love with you, you have to know how to touch him the right way. There are several reasons to touch a guy, depending on the stage of your relationship with him. If you're new to her, you might want to just touch her to show affection. If you want to get even closer, you can touch him to flirt. If you're already dating or in a relationship, then you need to know how to touch a guy to turn him on. If you want to know how to touch a guy, just follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Touching a Guy to Show Affection
Step 1. Hug the guy
If you want to show your guy affection, hugging him is a great way to show you care. Just lean in close to him, put your arms around him, and don't stay too long unless you want to show that you really like him. You should have a good reason for hugging the guy, such as congratulating him on an achievement, or greeting him as he enters the room, if you already know him.
Move your head to the side so that your face doesn't meet his face so close that it becomes awkward
Step 2. Squeeze the man's shoulders
Squeezing a guy's shoulder is another way to show you care about him. Simply reach out and squeeze his right and left shoulders quickly and smoothly if you sit close to him or face him. You can do this to reassure him about something, to let him know that all is well, or simply to show that you're happy to see him.
Squeeze his shoulders for just a second – it doesn't take much longer
Step 3. Touch the elbow
As you stand facing the man, reach out and place your hands on his elbows with your palms open. It is enough to gently touch the elbow to show affection and remove touch barriers. If your hand stays there longer, it will appear more intimate, but a quick pat on the shirt will show that you care – and could lead to something more.
Step 4. Applaud the man
If you and the guy are sitting with your hands at the table, or if you're sitting and the guy's hands are on his knees, you can reach out and pat the top of his hand for a second. This is a great way to cheer him up or make him feel special without getting too intimate. Don't try to hold her hand or keep your hand on top of hers – that can be done later, if you prefer.
Step 5. Pat the man on the back
Patting a man on the back is a great way to show affection. Just tap the top of his back, just below his shoulder, to show that you care. It's a good idea to pat a guy on the back once or twice before leaving, or say hello in a half-hug without making things too awkward.
Step 6. Wrap your arms around his body
Wrapping your arms around a guy is another great way to show affection. You can simply wrap your arms around him as you walk, leaving your arms under his shoulders. This is a great way to show affection that could be considered friendship – or something more.
Method 2 of 3: Touching Men to Seduce
Step 1. Kiss the guy on the cheek
Kissing a guy's cheek is a great way to touch him in a seductive way without going overboard. This usually happens during goodbyes and hugs, and you both lean forward to kiss each other on the cheek. Just make sure you know the guy well enough and the circumstances are appropriate – you shouldn't try to do this if you're saying hello in the hallway or class, but you can try if you're saying hello or goodbye at the end of a party or when you're out with friends.
- When kissing a man's cheek, just let your lips touch the side of his cheek. Don't give wet kisses.
- Make sure he also leans forward for a cheek kiss.
Step 2. Give a joking punch
Another way to flirt is to hit the guy lightly while talking. You can lightly hit the top of his arm when you're both standing, or hit his knee when you're both sitting. It's a gesture that says, “Ah, stop! But really, don't…” Make sure you do it lightly and don't hit him too hard, or he'll get mad.
When you joke like this, it's very important that the guy reciprocates too. If you hit him jokingly once in a while, he should retaliate
Step 3. Kick from under the table
This is a light but very effective way to touch a guy by flirting. If you're sitting across from each other and he says something that makes you laugh or intends to elicit an "Ew!" or “Disgusted!”, then you can kick him jokingly on the top of his leg with your foot. If you're feeling brave, you can jokingly kick him under the table and then slowly move your foot so that it touches his leg, challenging him to move.
Step 4. Play with her hair
Playing with a man's hair is a good way to seduce him. This is a bit of a bold move, so you shouldn't overdo it and find good reasons to do it. For example, if the guy just got his hair cut, you can gently squeeze his hair to make fun of him. If her hair looks a little messy, you can try to jokingly try to fix it, using it as an excuse to touch it. Just make sure he likes it – it's a slightly intimate gesture, not all men like to have their hair touched.
Step 5. Touch the knee with your knee
If you and the guy are sitting across from each other, lean forward until your knees are almost in contact with him. Then, if he moves closer, or if you're feeling brave, make the ends of your knees touch his, or move your knees so that one is outside his leg and the other in between, so you can move closer to him. Lean your body close to him to do this.
Step 6. Sweep something off her face
If you really want to flirt, wait until the guy has eyelashes or even food residue on his face. Then, lean forward and gently brush away from her face, trying to make smooth contact with her skin. Hold your hand long enough to flirt a bit, then move closer to him so he feels you're getting more intimate.
If you really want to touch her face, you can also pretend that she has eyelashes right under her eyes – she won't know the difference and will love being touched
Step 7. Hold the man's hand
As you become more intimate, you can reach out to the man's hand while standing. You can hold hands while walking, or while sitting and talking or watching a movie. If you are sitting opposite each other, you can hold hands under the table or on the table. Give the man's hand a small squeeze from time to time to continue the flirting.
- While holding a guy's hand is a good way to seduce him, you should avoid this gesture unless the two of you are already "together" – holding hands in public is a declaration that you're more in a relationship, and not all guys like that.
- Also, not all guys like being held by their hands, under any circumstances, whether it's just the two of them or in public, so be careful when trying this form of affection.
Step 8. Touch the chest
If you want to seduce the guy, you can put one hand on his chest while talking and approach him. This is especially effective when he's standing against a wall, or if you're in a small, confined space.
Method 3 of 3: Touching a Guy to Turn Him On
Step 1. Hug from behind
If you want to start turning a guy on, give him a hug from behind. Stand behind him and wrap your arms around his stomach, bringing your body closer together. You can rest your chin on his shoulder or press your forehead against his back, depending on your height. Let him feel your breath on the back of his neck. It wouldn't take him long to turn around and start kissing.
Step 2. Kiss the back of his neck
Kissing the back of a guy's neck is another good way to turn him on. To do this, simply move behind her and hug or squeeze her shoulders, then start kissing the back of her neck slowly, going to the sides of her neck under her ears.
You can also turn around and start kissing the front of his neck, or try kissing the front of his neck when the two of you are kissing in bed and lying down
Step 3. Place your hands on the underside of his back
Placing your hands on the bottom of the guy's back, just above his waistline, is a good way to let him know that you want something more. As you move closer to him, place your hands on the underside of his back and then turn to face him, using your hands to pull him closer to you.
Step 4. Touch the back of his head
The back of a man's head, just above his neck, is another good point to turn him on. Touch the back of his head when you kiss or just have an intimate conversation where you lean close to each other and talk. You can also massage his scalp a little or run your fingers through the hair at the back of his head.
Step 5. Touch behind the ear
The area behind a man's ear is another erogenous zone and touching a man there, whether it's with his fingertips or lips, is a great way to send a tingling sensation up and down his back. You can stroke the area behind his ear with your hand and even move to touch his ear and nostrils.
Step 6. Touch the inside of the ear
It's an intimate gesture guaranteed to make men go crazy. Touch the inside of the man's ear with the tip of your tongue. Once you've done that, you can blow into the guy's ear to drive him crazy. If you're not comfortable sticking your tongue in there, just blowing will suffice. You can also scratch the inside of his ear with your lips as he leans in to whisper something into his ear.
Step 7. Touch the feet
Touching a man's feet is another way that is guaranteed to turn him on. Just lightly scrape your finger, run the tips of your fingers on the pads of her feet to tickle her a little, then give her a light foot massage by moving your hands along the joints of her toes in circles to make her go crazy.
Don't do this if he's wearing shoes and socks – his feet might be a little dirty or sweaty by then. But if you're both in bed with your bare feet, go for it
Step 8. Touch the skin
Any skin contact will excite a man. Touch his neck, his cheek, the top of his arm, the back of his wrist, his knee, or even scratch his lips with your hand.
Tips
- Don't make it too obvious or touch too much or he'll think you're weird.
- Take care of your cleanliness. Otherwise, it will make him dislike you.
- Touch can be used as a way of emphasizing what you're saying, like squeezing her hand when apologizing for something you did that upset her.
- Your touch should be firm enough that he feels it, but light enough that it feels more like a swipe than a hard touch.
- Do not rush. Make sure you take your time and build it.
- In conversation, simply as your natural cue, touch his knee, the top of his arm or his hand for emphasis for a second or two.
- Try walking beside him. And when you start talking to him, put your fingertips (very lightly) on his arm where the muscle is, just a moment or two, then when you pull your hand back, slow down your touch a little bit, then continue talking like nothing happened.
- If you shake her hand, hold her hand with your other hand. Wait a few more seconds than usual while looking into his eyes. This should not be done the first time you meet someone.
- “Stumbled” and fell on him. He will likely catch you, but know this is more than a subtle touch, and may not be appropriate. If you do intend to do this, plan to make it look completely unintentional and make sure he can catch you.
- While standing up and talking to the man, instead of standing awkwardly facing him, stand beside him with shoulders touching. This facilitates personal contact without making it forced.
Warning
- Avoid touching her when she's talking to other people – now's not the time to be fighting.
- Unless you're already known to touch "everyone", don't touch anyone who has a boyfriend!
- Touching can feel like dependency if you overdo it and it may feel like you're coaxing him into giving affection.
- When you meet a guy for the first time, don't give a long, sweeping touch as this can be seen as too much and make him react negatively.
