After swiping right on a user's profile page and finding a suitable user, you may get a lot of messages from other Tinder users. However, your response will depend on whether you are interested in getting to know him and meeting him, or whether you want to reject him. Fortunately, you can easily provide the right response. Soon, you can find a suitable Tinder user!
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Method 1 of 3: Responding to a User When You Are Interested in Him
Step 1. Send a short response if he also sends a short message
If you are shy but want to show interest, respond to the message with something simple to at least keep the conversation going. You can add a waving emoji if you want to appear more friendly. This kind of reply can at least reflect your interest in him.
Reply to messages with something like “Hi, Erik! Pleased to meet you!" With a message like this, he at least knows that you get the "meaning". After that, the decision to continue the chat was in his hands
Step 2. Ask simple questions to keep the chat going
If you want to direct the chat to a specific topic, respond to the message with a simple question. Avoid questions that are too personal at the beginning of the interaction and try to get to know him more deeply.
- For example, you could say, "How are you?" This question may be simple, but it can be a starting point for a chat.
- You can also say, "What are you busy with?" This question gives him the opportunity to tell about his daily activities or activities.
- For a more targeted question, you could say, "How was your weekend?" When answering your questions, he has the opportunity to share activities he is interested in.
Step 3. Leave a comment about their biography to show what interests you about them
Comment on his biography so he can understand why you were attracted to him in the first place. These comments also help direct your chat with them.
- For example, you might say, “You're in a triathlon, right? Wow! How long have you been competing?” Questions like these pave the way for discussing things of interest to both you and the other person.
- Other comments that could be made include, “In your bio, you mentioned that you have four sisters. Hmm… There must be a lot of female family members in your house.” Comments like this can give him a chance to talk about his family.
Step 4. Tell him something about yourself so he can comment on something
If you both like what he mentions in his bio, you can share it to keep the conversation going. Speak honestly and don't lie about what you are interested in. However, share things you don't mind sharing.
- If you both enjoy sports, try saying something like, “I think you were upset about last night's game. I am also like that. Luckily our team can still win the game." Comments like this provide an opportunity to discuss areas of mutual interest.
- Tell yourself that you like the same thing by telling yourself. You could say, for example, "I'm also training for the marathon. This will be my 20th competition. How long have you been practicing running, and what races have you participated in?”
Step 5. Reply to the message with a seductive comment to express interest
After chatting for a while, show your interest through light flirting. Tease him when he says something silly or says you enjoy chatting with him.
- You could say, for example, “I enjoyed chatting with you. You are such a cute and sweet person.”
- Tell him, “Wow! I feel comfortable talking to you, as if we've known each other for quite a while.”
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Animations can set the mood for a chat or elicit a response from it. Images are the right content for a short response, but it's quite unique compared to other replies he's had.
Choose animated GIFs that are funny, silly, or nostalgic. Images or animations like these can enhance the conversation or reflect your personality
Step 7. Ask a question about one of the photos to learn more about it
Questions like this show that you're willing to take the time to look at her photo collection and are interested in hearing more of her story. Don't hesitate to give compliments.
- You could say, for example, “Hey! I love your photo in front of the waterfall. Where is the location?"
- You could also say, “You look so cheerful in that beach photo. What beach did you go to?”
Step 8. Respond to the message with a random question if the chat feels “stuck”
Questions like these show that you are fun and like a challenge, and willing to try spontaneous things. In addition, questions like this also give him clues about your personality and can bring out another side of yourself.
Suddenly, you can ask, “Have you ever tried rafting? I've been wanting to try it for a long time." While it may sound sudden (and perhaps a little awkward), questions like these are actually fun and can expand your conversation with them
Step 9. Tell a joke if you want him to know that you have a humorous side
If the conversation starts to get boring, lighten the mood with humor. You can show your seductive, silly, and humorous side. However, try to make him laugh or smile.
As an example of a funny “cash” joke, you could say, “Who is a singer who enjoys cycling? Selena 'Gowes'!"
Step 10. Ask her about her goals or “agenda” to get her attention
If you're interested in continuing the chat, you need to know what he's looking for. You should know what his wants or expectations are before giving him a phone number if it turns out he just needs a "friend".
- You can ask silly questions like, “I'm interested in meeting you. Do you want to find a girlfriend or “TTM”?” With light questions, you can still read or guess the expectations.
- For a more serious question, try saying, "I'd love to chat with you, but I want to know what kind of relationship you're looking for."
Method 2 of 3: Planning a Meeting
Step 1. Give him your phone number and ask him to meet after calling him
If you are interested in meeting him, give him your phone number and arrange an in-person meeting. This way, you can hear his tone of voice to gauge his level of interest.
- You can say, “I want to get to know you better. This is my phone number. Try contacting me. We can find a time and place to meet.” Saying something like this shows him that you're interested in a more serious relationship, but want him to be involved in planning a face-to-face meeting.
- If you want to chat first, discuss the possibility of meeting by saying, for example, “This is my number. You can call me at that number. I'm happy to chat with you. Maybe later we can also meet in person.”
Step 2. Suggest a casual public place and invite a friend to meet him in person
Tell him you're interested in him and want to chat further over coffee or a drink. To be safe, choose a public place that is crowded with people. Also invite one or more friends.
- For example, you might say, “My friends and I are going to the cafe later. Will you come along? We can meet and chat there.”
- Tell us about a public event you will attend. For example, you could say, “There's a MU show tonight. I will go there with friends. Want to come along?"
Step 3. Plan a one-on-one date if you're ready to meet him unaccompanied
If you want to have a more romantic moment than just having a drink or a snack with friends, plan a "real" date. You can take him out to dinner, go to the park and have a picnic, visit a museum, watch a sports game or try an activity you both enjoy. To be safe, plan a date in a public place. Even so, you can still enjoy the moment alone with him.
- You can make suggestions such as, “There is a beautiful park near the river. How about we try a picnic together? I can prepare lunch, and you can bring dessert. After that, we can enjoy kayaking or swimming in the river.”
- For a more romantic date, you might say, “There's a new restaurant I've been wanting to visit for a long time. Would you like to meet there for dinner with me this weekend?”
Method 3 of 3: Responding to Men Who Are Not Interested
Step 1. Tell him you're not interested if you really don't want to continue the chat
Attitudes or habits just disappearing of course make everyone involved feel annoyed. Instead of showing such an attitude, speak firmly and honestly. If you've been chatting with him long enough, let him know that you're interested in a more serious relationship and that it's time for both parties to bounce back. If you enjoy chatting with him, thank him for taking the time, but make it clear that you don't want to move on to a more serious relationship.
You could say, for example, "I enjoyed talking to you, but I don't think we have much in common. I don't want to waste your time. I hope you find the right person."
Step 2. Clearly state the behavior that disgusts you or makes you uncomfortable
Sometimes, you have to respond to a guy who makes vulgar or annoying comments boldly and decisively. Be prepared to provide follow-up responses if he tries to “break down” your doubts.
You could say, for example, "I'm not interested in your invitation. I hope you find the right person."
Step 3. Stop responding to him if he can't seem to interest you or is still sending you vulgar messages
If he ignores you or continues to seek attention after you've given him affirmation, stop responding to his messages. In the end, he will understand the situation through your actions.
- If he makes comments that make you feel inferior, or makes it clear that he can't accept you for who you are, stop responding to his messages and get up. It doesn't deserve your time.
- You have no obligation to respond to messages received. If these messages are annoying or annoying, you don't need to reply to them.
