We can't always control other people's feelings. However, there are things you can do to make someone realize they made a mistake and regret their decision. This article will show you some ways to make a guy regret what he did. You'll also get some tips to help him understand that what he did was wrong and make him apologize.
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Method 1 of 3: Make Him Miss You
Step 1. Avoid him to some extent
Don't talk to him, look at him, or smile at him. If he texts you casually, like "hey baby," don't reply. He'll probably start to miss you, and if he finds out he's done something wrong, he'll start to regret it too. On the other hand, if he asks what went wrong or what he has done, take this opportunity to say it. He may not realize he's made a mistake, and will probably apologize sincerely once he finds out.
Step 2. Make him feel that you are keeping your distance when it comes to interacting with him
Sometimes you may not be able to avoid it, especially if you work together, take the same class, or live together. However, you can make him miss your usual self, as well as the warmth, love, and joy you often show him. When he talks to you, respond in a neutral manner and give a polite but brief answer. Don't respond in the usual way, instead treat him like someone he just met. He'll probably regret why the two of you aren't chatting like you normally would.
Step 3. Spend your time with other people
If you normally hang out with him, consider hanging out with someone else. If you and he have the same group of friends and hang out together a lot (like a table at lunch), talk to other friends instead. However, remember that they will also realize that something is wrong, and whether or not they support you is uncertain.
Step 4. Consider dating someone else
If you broke up with a guy, consider dating someone else. This doesn't mean you have to be in a serious relationship, especially if you're not ready. If he sees you enjoying time with another guy, he may feel jealous. If he finds out he has made a mistake, he may start to regret it.
- Don't date anyone else if you're still this guy's partner or if you're not ready to date.
- If you're not ready to date someone else, try being a little flirty with other guys, especially when your ex can see it.
Step 5. Consider getting rid of some of the things he gave you
If he gave flowers a week before the problem occurred, consider giving them to someone else or throwing them away. If the photo is pasted in your locker, take it off, especially if there's a chance he'll see it. This is a message that he has hurt you, and after that he may feel guilty.
Getting rid of the things he gave you can also help you feel better, especially after a breakup
Method 2 of 3: Becoming an Independent Woman
Step 1. Show that you don't need him
Men love to feel needed. If you show him that you don't need him to be happy or do anything, his ego will hurt. He may not apologize, but at least he'll try to make up with you.
Step 2. Have fun without him, especially if you and he just broke up
If he believes that he is the only reason that makes you happy, this method will be very effective. You can go to a concert, club, or playground. Let him see you having fun and enjoying your time without him. If he sees you happy without him, he may regret what he did to the point of losing you.
- Don't be gloomy when you're not around. Maybe he will take it as a sign you miss him. Instead, show a cheerful attitude everywhere. You have to laugh, smile, and get along.
- If you and he are still in a relationship, do this with caution. He may suspect that you are having an affair, and that will only make matters worse.
- If you and your boyfriend recently broke up, going out and doing something you enjoy can make you feel better.
Step 3. Show off your strengths when he can see
For example, if you're dazzling on the dance floor, get off the ground, but pair up with another guy. He will see your idiosyncrasies and miss him. He will also start to miss you and may regret hurting you.
Step 4. Keep dressing up when you go out alone
If you usually dress up for him, continue the habit even if you don't go out with him. If he sees you looking good to other people, he will start to feel jealous and no longer feel special. If he finds out what he did wrong that made you angry, he may regret it.
If you've never dressed up before, consider starting to dress up when you're out on your own. However, only do so if you feel comfortable dressing up
Step 5. Create a new world that he can see, but cannot enter
It may take some time, but this new world will show you that you don't need him to be happy. In turn, he may realize that he has made a mistake and regret it. Try to find new interests and friends. Visit new places and try new things. Show off on social media, invite your new friends to a party he's at, or talk about what you've been up to when you met him.
Step 6. Don't be tempted to seek revenge
Getting revenge and finding ways to make him suffer can be a bit tempting, especially if the blow he gave you was serious (like having an affair). Unfortunately, revenge will usually harm both parties. Sometimes, revenge can go too far and get you in trouble. Instead of physical revenge, try emotional revenge, such as enjoying time with another person (especially a man), or having fun without him. Ignore him, and remain cold and reserved when you have to talk to him.
Method 3 of 3: Communicating with Him
Step 1. Try talking to him
There are some men who don't understand cues, both verbal and physical, so they should be invited to sit down and talk. Sometimes this is the only way for him to understand what he did wrong and realize that he hurt you. Once he understands, he will regret it. This section will give him some tips for talking and making him understand what he's done wrong.
Step 2. Set a time to talk to him
Talking about serious issues at the wrong time will only make the problem bigger. For example, if both of you are in a bad mood, the conversation will not go smoothly. If he's busy doing something, he probably won't notice you, and he won't remember what the conversation was about. Instead, say that you want to talk, and try to set a time and date that will allow the two of you to talk without distraction.
Step 3. Don't talk to him when you're feeling emotional or in a bad mood
The situation will only get worse. Maybe you will say bad things, or respond in the wrong way. Try to speak with a calm and balanced mind.
Step 4. Get the point across as quickly as possible, but don't make accusations
For example, instead of saying, "We were such a jerk when we made fun of my shape yesterday, you know you're a jerk?" try saying "Your jokes about my shape that day really hurt my heart." If you accuse him outright, he'll get defensive and stop paying attention to what you're saying.
Step 5. Don't stray from the topic
Don't bring up previous problems, even if you are very angry or sad. If you start bringing up old fights, he may bring up your past mistakes as well. You'll just accuse each other and throw the blame, it won't do anything. Some men also find it difficult to apologize if they are accused of doing many things at the same time.
Some men may hesitate to apologize because they fear being accused of another wrong right after apologizing for the first one. Therefore, you must stay on topic
Step 6. Open your mind and listen to what he has to say
If a man is given sympathy, he will tend to feel sorry. If a man feels too accused, he will actually get defensive. This doesn't mean you have to accept or forgive the mistake. Some things, like having an affair, will always go wrong. At the same time, you should also listen to him. You never know maybe he's hurt, just like you.
- If he says that you hurt him too, try not to be offended, or the conversation will turn into an argument because both parties feel angry, not sorry.
- Some guys may hesitate to apologize if they feel they are the only one responsible for causing trouble. Even if it's his fault, try not to show that you think so.
Step 7. Don't force him to apologize
Sometimes, the harder you push something, the stronger the resistance will be. For example, some men feel humiliated when others force them to apologize. As a result, they become increasingly reluctant to apologize. Instead, simply explain that his actions hurt you. Most men don't like to see their loved ones get hurt. He will probably apologize in his own way.
Step 8. Recognize that not all apologies are verbal
Men tend to find it difficult to say "sorry". Instead, pay attention to physical apologies. Some romantic guys might apologize with a bouquet of flowers, but others might apologize with a smaller, physical statement. Pay attention and try to see it. For example, did he finally fix the cupboard you once complained about? If he enjoys playing games, does he skip high-level games just to be with you?
Tips
- Stay positive. Don't let his hurtful words and actions bring you down.
- Every man is different. Not all of these methods will work for all men. You'll have to try a few different methods before finding the one that works best.
Warning
- Make sure you're not being too nonchalant because he might just leave you.
- Sometimes nothing can be done to make people feel a certain way. There are people who really will not regret no matter what happened. This will poison the relationship, and the best option is to leave. After all, you should put your own emotional health first.
