Starting a relationship is always exciting and fun, but building a relationship that lasts takes a lot of work. Once you're in a relationship, you should maintain an honest flow of communication and continue to value your time with your loved ones. Making a relationship last isn't always fun, but the benefits of maintaining a long-lasting, bonding relationship far outweigh any difficulties you may face. If you want to know how to make a relationship last, just follow these instructions.
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Method 1 of 4: Making Time for Each Other
Step 1. Make time for romance
While "date night" may sound forced, you and that special someone should have a date night at least once a week, or more. You don't have to call it "date night" if it sounds uncomfortable, but you should make it a goal to spend quality time together without anyone else at least one night a week.
- You can do the same things during date night, like cook dinner together and then go to the movies, or make variations and do something different each time. If you spend time with him, maintain a romantic atmosphere by lighting candles and playing soft music.
- Whatever you do, make sure you have time to chat during that special time together. You won't be able to talk much if you go to a loud music concert together.
- Learn to say no to other people during "date night." Your best friend may beg you to come to the bar, but if you've already scheduled a date night, tell them you can't come and make plans to change it the following week. Things will fall apart if "date night" is something you've always been sacrificing for.
- You should always be nice, tell each other how much you both love each other, and compliment each other all night long.
Step 2. Make love at least once a week
You don't have to mark the calendar, and hopefully you don't have to, but you do have to make a conscious effort to make love at least once a week, no matter how tired you feel after work, or how much work you have that week.
- Making love is a way to maintain intimacy and build closeness with your partner.
- You should also make time to just sleep cuddling and kissing each other so you don't feel like having sex is just a chore to do.
Step 3. Take time to communicate
Even though your schedule may be very tight, you need to make a concerted effort to talk to each other every day, no matter how many tasks you have to work on. You can make time to talk over dinner, or talk on the phone if you're far apart.
- Make it a habit to find out how the days of your loved ones are going. While it's not necessary to know every little detail of your life that can be boring, you should be comfortable with each other's routine.
- If you're away for a week, take at least fifteen minutes a day to catch up and remind your loved ones how much you love and miss them.
- When you are talking, there should be nothing else to distract you. You don't really speak when you're talking while watching a game or checking your phone.
Method 2 of 4: Maintaining Strong Communication
Step 1. Be honest with each other
Honesty is the key to all long-lasting relationships. In order to maintain a strong relationship, you must be able to be open and honest with the person who is special to you. You should be able to share your most intimate thoughts and feelings with your loved ones. If not, then you are not communicating well.
- Don't be afraid to tell him if he disappoints you. Being honest about your feelings will help resolve the issue, and it's much better than being passive aggressive if you don't like something.
- Share your feelings with your loved ones. If you feel bad about something that happened at work or something your mom said, don't keep it all to yourself.
- Know it's time not to say something. While honesty is almost always the best policy, you don't have to share every feeling with your loved one. For example, if you don't like her new dress or find one of her friends annoying, you may not want to tell her about it.
- Choose the right time to talk. If you want to talk about something important, make sure you do it when your loved one has time to talk and is not under pressure. The news you tell will be received better if he has time to listen.
Step 2. Learn to compromise
In a strong relationship, feeling happy should be more important than feeling right. If you want a relationship to last, you'll need to learn how to make decisions with the person you love, and find a way to make both of you happy with the decision, or take turns giving in. Here's how to do it:
- When you make a decision, ask your loved one to rate how important it is to him or her on a scale of 1 to 10, then state how important it is to you. Then discuss why it's so important to both of you, and what you can do to make it less of a problem.
- Think well. While the two of you are making decisions, take the time to discuss the pros and cons and what you can do to find a middle ground.
- Take turns taking turns on decisions about small things. If you choose a restaurant for date night, let him choose the movie.
- Make sure you both compromise. It's no compromise if in the end your girl always succumbs to what you want because you're more persistent.
Step 3. Learn to say sorry
This is important. If you want to be in a relationship that lasts, you have to learn how to say sorry from time to time. When it comes to a relationship, admitting that you're sorry is much more important than being stubborn.
- Learn to apologize if you have done something wrong. It may take you a while to realize that you made a mistake, but once you do, say that you're sorry for what you've done.
- Make sure you mean it. Be sincere and make eye contact. It doesn't mean anything if you say you're sorry you felt compelled.
- Learn to accept apologies from your loved ones. If he means it, you should stop refusing to compromise, accept his apology, and move on with your life.
Step 4. Tell your loved one how much he or she means to you
Never forget to say, "I love you," and assume that your feelings are enough to show him that (without saying it). You have to tell your loved ones that you love them every day. Say it several times a day, if you can. Remember that there is a difference between, "I love you," and, "I love you." You have to mean it when you say that.
- Always praise your loved ones. Tell her how beautiful she looks in her new outfit or how much you love her charming smile.
- Always be grateful to your loved ones. Don't take his generosity and kindness for granted.
- Always tell your loved ones how special they are. Never forget to make it feel unique.
Method 3 of 4: Keep Moving Forward
Step 1. Find a new interest to pursue together
A relationship similar to that of a shark. If it doesn't move forward, the shark will die. You need to find ways to keep your relationship fresh so that your love life doesn't just become a part of your routine. One way to do this is to find new interests that you can pursue together so that you have something to love and share a common passion.
- Take weekly dance lessons together. This will get you a good workout and will increase your passion for each other.
- Looking for a new hobby together. Try taking a painting or ceramics course, or find new pleasures in sailing.
- Take courses together. Try learning a new language or taking a history course together.
- Practice for the competition together. This is a great way to bond, whether you're training for a 5km run or a marathon.
- Do anything outside your comfort zone. Try mountain climbing, mountain biking, or ice skating. Doing things you're not used to doing will make the two of you feel closer.
Step 2. Keep warm in bed
If you want to maintain a healthy relationship, you must also maintain a healthy sex life. Even though it's not the way it started after five years together, you should try new things in the bedroom so that you're still passionate about making love to your partner and that whatever you're doing still feels like a fun adventure.
- Make love to new positions. Don't do what you normally do, even if it works. You can even try out new positions together, which is a good thing as a warm-up.
- Make love in new places. Don't always do it in your room. Try the couch, the kitchen table, or even at the hotel during the day.
- Try visiting sex shops on the internet to order erotic items for bed use.
Step 3. Take a trip to a new place together
While vacations aren't a great long-term solution to relationship problems, traveling together can help you avoid the same old viewpoints and appreciate your love life in a new way. Also, planning a trip together will give you something new to look forward to.
- Plan the trip you've always wanted to take. If the two of you have been talking about wanting to go to Paris together for the past seven years and you have the funds for this, now is the time to make your dreams come true.
- Go on short day trips. Even just driving for an hour to spend a day in the woods or the beach can make your relationship feel warmer.
- Have a second honeymoon. If you are married and have honeymooned, do a second honeymoon to commemorate your love.
Method 4 of 4: Get Used To Tolerance
Step 1. Understand contextual behavior
In addition to being attracted to each other, chances are, you meet your partner at a favorable time. You may be young with burning passion, on vacation, or have had a strong emotional experience together. This is an example of a positive contextual influence that can support your relationship.
Step 2. Accept the contextual behavior
Accept the fact that negative contextual influences are unavoidable. When someone is going through a difficult time, is sick, has experienced professional failure, or another source of anxiety, their actions may not match the behavior of people you know and care about.
Step 3. Recognize contextual behavior
If your partner has no sympathy for you during a difficult time such as postpartum, being fired from a job, or after the death of a family member, consider that it may not be him, but the situation that is shaping his behavior. Think of the contextual influence as the weather. There's nothing you can do about it, other than tolerate it.
Step 4. Forgive the contextual behavior
Forgive and forget your partner's behavior during difficult times. The human mind naturally remembers negative experiences more than positive experiences. Feelings of resentment over whatever he accidentally said will build up over time, and will inevitably make your relationship worse. Distinguishing contextual behavior from personal behavior is an art that can help create healthy and lasting relationships.
Tips
- Make it feel special.
- Be yourself when you start dating someone. Don't change, don't be rude, and never be a jerk.
- Never try to change someone. It will only make things worse.
- Remember that not everything always means about you.
- Never rush.
- Don't get too attached to other people or close friends of the opposite sex and talk about them all the time. It makes your partner feel insecure and ruins the relationship.
- Never try to make your partner jealous, they will dump you if they feel that you don't like them anymore and you are attracted to someone else.
- Build trust and a solid foundation for your relationship, but don't forget to have fun together!
- Make beautiful memories!
