True friendship is one of the deepest relationships you can have with another person. A true friend is always there in good times and bad - he laughs with you, he cries with you, and he is willing to take the risk if needed. Here are some ideas on how to find a true friend.
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Method 1 of 3: Blending in with the Outside World
Step 1. Take the initiative
If you want to find a true friend, you can't be lazy. A true friend won't magically appear at your doorstep, so you need to make some serious effort. Handle everything yourself and start socializing.
- Stop waiting for someone else to do it for you. Call some friends and ask if you can join them, or set up an event of your own and invite them.
- Don't be afraid to look desperate or like you need a friend. Stay focused on yourself and your goals. If what you do now can make your goals come true in the end, who will care?
- Try to blend in so that no one thinks you're relying too much on him for lack of friends. If you're in a group of people, stare at all of them, and don't talk to just one of them.
Step 2. Meet new people
You can't make friends if you sit alone at home every night. You have to be proactive, so push yourself to get out of the house and meet as many people as possible. Indeed, at first you will feel very forced, but the results will be worth it.
- One of the easiest ways to meet people is through the friends you already have. Take them to parties or get-togethers and ask them to introduce you.
- Meet people through hobby clubs or courses. Friends are usually people who share your interests, so people you meet at hobby clubs or courses are potential friends.
- Meet people through the world of work. You may have a co-worker you're compatible with, but you've never gone out to just chat with him. Now, it's time!
- Meet people online. There's sometimes a stigma attached to the people you meet online, but on the other hand it's a great way to meet other people. Creating a blog, using social media and posting messages on online forums are some very possible ways to socialize.
- Avoid visiting places that have only one particular focus. This means that you should not spend time in the cinema, for example, because there is only one focus, namely the movie screen. As a result, you will not be able to meet many people, except by chance. Meanwhile, public areas such as cafes and bars can really help you socialize. However, there are also many other places that you can try.
Step 3. Don't be overly sensitive
Meeting new people for the first time can be difficult at times. They may seem disinterested or lazy to make friends. Or, maybe you got along with them for a short time, but after that you never heard from them again. Do not be discouraged. Finding true friends takes time.
Step 4. Don't be too picky
Have an open mind to whoever you meet with. When you're trying to make friends, being too picky isn't a good strategy. Your initial goal is to meet as many people as possible, so talk to everyone and keep an open mind.
- Even if you meet someone who doesn't seem to share any of your interests, talk to them anyway and give them a chance.
- You don't know if she'll ever be a true friend at first glance - you'll have to get to know her first - so stay open to all the possibilities!
Step 5. Keep trying
If your first attempt to blend in doesn't go as smoothly as you hoped, don't despair! People sometimes need time to get along, so a second or third encounter will certainly be better than the first.
- If you ask someone to go out, don't be upset if they say they can't. Assume that the reason he gives is true, and not because he doesn't like you. Give it a week or two, then invite him back.
- Sometimes this doesn't work with someone, and that's normal. Think of it as an exercise to do the real thing.
Step 6. Be patient
It can take a lot of time to really get to know someone, especially if you're looking for a true friendship with them. If you keep trying to blend in and try to meet as many people as possible, you'll eventually find someone who really fits you.
- Think realistically about the time it takes to really get to know someone. True, it's possible that you hit it off right away and feel like you've known her for decades instead of just ten minutes. But it usually takes a lot longer than that, and depends on how often you see him.
- In the right circumstances, you can make new friends quickly - for example when you start college, move to a new city, or join a sports team.
Method 2 of 3: Getting to Know Each Other
Step 1. Start chatting
The first step to getting to know a potential friend is to start conversing with him or her. Find out little by little about him and his hobbies. Once you both come to an interesting topic, the rest of the conversation will naturally take its course.
- Try making a comment or asking something general to lighten the mood, such as "Had the party been fun, wasn't it?" or "How do you know John?"
- Try to listen more than talk. Show that you are interested in what he has to say.
- Find out about his interests, hobbies and hobbies. If you can find something you both enjoy, the conversation will flow more fluidly.
Step 2. Ask for his contact information
If you feel like you're getting along with someone, be sure to ask for their contact information before you end the meeting. You will need this contact information to contact him if you wish to see him again.
- Ask for her phone number or email address, or ask if she has a Facebook account. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter as long as you can use it to contact him again.
- Also make sure you give him your contact information. Who knows he will invite you to do something fun.
Step 3. Invite them to meet or go out together
This is a step that most people are reluctant to take. Well, you've met those people once and after that you've made friends and interacted with them on Facebook. However, this will not lead you to true friendship if you don't take this step and invite them to meet, hang out, or go out together.
- You don't have to ask them to do anything special, just invite them out for a drink, or hang out at the beach.
- If they can't come, they're already flattered that you took them. Try again next week or another time.
Step 4. Accept all invitations
It's fine to have your own plans for meeting and hanging out with people, but even better if you're the one to invite. Think of it as a good opportunity to get to know someone better or meet more people.
- Accept every invitation you get, even if it's watching a movie you don't like or playing a sport you don't like. If you accept the invitation and you come, you won't regret it.
- Don't let yourself be thought of as someone who always refuses other people's invitations. That's a bad stamp that can mean you'll never be invited again.
- If you absolutely can't come, explain the reason to the person in a relaxed manner so that he understands that you didn't turn him down because you simply didn't want to come, but because you have a clear reason.
Step 5. Give the relationship time to grow
A deep and meaningful relationship can't happen overnight - you have to nurture it and nurture it, and give it time to mature.
- Once you have taken the initial step and managed to get together with your friends on a regular basis, the next step is repeat, repeat and repeat.
- To be someone's true friend, you have to hang out with them often, keep in touch, have fun together, and get to know each other better.
Method 3 of 3: What You Can Expect from a True Friend
Step 1. Someone you can share the joy with
A true friend is someone who can give you good times. You can have fun, laugh together, do mischief together, and feel happy in the presence of his best friend.
Step 2. Someone who is always honest with you
A true friend will always be honest with you, no matter what. It doesn't matter if it's something small, like whether your clothes match, or something big, like when he finds out that your partner is having an affair. True friends will never let you blind to the truth.
Step 3. Someone who will always be loyal to you
A true friend will be very loyal to you, whether you are there or not. This means that he will always support you even if he doesn't agree with your decisions, and he will always be with you when no one else wants to stand behind you.
Step 4. Someone you can trust
You can entrust anything to a true friend, from feeding your cat while you're away on vacation, to guarding your most important secrets.
Step 5. Someone you can rely on
A true friend is always there when you need him, to share your happiness and help you in times of trouble. He will always answer your phone calls. He'll show up on silly double dates when you persuade him to come. He won't disappear when the going gets tough.
Step 6. Someone who always provides support
A true friend always supports you and your goals. He won't try to change you, make you uncomfortable, or hold you back from achieving your goals. They will always provide support for you to be the best.
Tips
- Show who you are! Don't pretend to like something or be someone other than yourself. Don't lie to impress others.
- True friendship is hard to force. It is a gift to have such a bond with someone. Don't rush and force it so that it can happen between you and someone who doesn't really suit you. On the other hand, if you have found a true friend, take good care of him.
- Don't force other people to want to be friends with you.
- Express yourself! No invitation to get together or go out together is more effective than self-expression. Do you like a music group? Wear the picture t-shirt. Want to watch a movie? Still wearing a t-shirt, but this time with a picture of a movie character. Don't be someone else, let them be interested in hanging out with you because you are you!
- Be yourself. You don't have to change for people to like you.
Warning
- If you're opening an online chat, don't make appointments in person unless you're sure that the person can be trusted. It's hard to explain, but it's better to be very careful. Maybe this means you won't be seeing him anytime soon or in a hurry. If you still want to see him, always make an appointment to meet in a safe public place. Also, invite your trusted friends.
- Never share personal information online.
- Not everyone wants to be your friend, so just move on to the next one.
