Exploring the social world of high school can be an intimidating experience, but don't let it scare you. If you learn to love yourself for who you are, and to make others comfortable with you, you'll soon become popular in high school. If you want to know how to become popular, see Step 1 to get started.
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Part 1 of 3: Socializing
Step 1. Don't act fake
There's nothing worse than this, because it causes your "friends" to like you over your fake self. Be confident and know that you are an amazing person and have a lot of strengths, then you are more likely to attract the attention of interesting people from various groups. Don't tell people what they want to hear just to get them to like you, and avoid bragging just to look cool. People will notice if you're just trying to impress them or curry favor with them, so they'll be less likely to want to be friends with you. Instead of doing it, be open step by step and let them get to know you and the things that are important to you. Also, if you act fake, people will notice and talk about you, making life in high school even more difficult for you.
- If you're only popular for being a fake, where's the fun in that? You certainly don't want to pretend forever, do you?
- Remember that if you have to completely change who you are just to get other people to approach you, it's probably not worth it just so you can be friends.
Step 2. Be genuinely friendly
Nobody likes someone who isn't friendly. Smile at people you know in the corridor. Don't act like you're better than them; vanity is a very unattractive thing. If someone is talking about you, you want them to be talking about the good side of you, not the bad side. However, don't be overly friendly or you'll be used by others. You may think that you have to act like one of the members of Mean Girls in order to be popular, but in reality, this is not going to work well.
- In order to be truly friendly, you need to be polite and courteous. This means keeping the door open for other people, greeting people you know, making room for people to enter the hall, and remaining friendly, even if you're in a bad mood.
- This doesn't mean you have to display the fake attitude you sometimes see in adults; it just means that you have to be friendly to other people, regardless of how popular they may seem to you.
- There's nothing worse than someone who is only friendly to popular people or people he thinks can be of use to him. If you are cruel to others "lower" than you and friendly to those "higher" than you, then you will soon become a source of gossip.
Step 3. Self-defense when necessary
If you want to be sincere friends, don't let other people step on you. If you stick to your principles and know when to stand up for yourself, you'll earn respect and are more likely to make friends and become popular. If you're friendly to people just because you want them to like you, you won't make friends and won't be respected.
- If someone is being mean to you and makes you feel bad about yourself, or they just often belittle you for no reason, know that you don't deserve that kind of treatment from them. Tell the person that their actions are unacceptable to you.
- You don't have to act like someone who was mean to you. You can tell him to stop what he's doing, without being mean or calling him back. Remember, you are better than him.
Step 4. Be open to meeting new people
If you are friendly and always ready to meet new people and talk to them, then you will easily make new friends. You should feel interested in getting to know new people, no matter what group of friends they belong to or what level they belong to. Of course, you should relax and not bombard new people with so many questions (don't do this to those who seem busy either), but if you're looking for opportunities to talk to new people, for example when you're in front of a locker and meeting someone else who his locker is next to yours, talk to him.
When you talk to new people, be relaxed. Talk about your classes, your hobbies, or the kind of music you like. Ask the person a few simple questions to show that you care. You can talk about serious things later, when the two of you get to know each other better
Step 5. Be interested in other people
The key to being social and popular is not to talk about yourself all the time or brag about it, but to show a real interest in other people. You have to be interested, not interesting. People will like you more if you ask them questions and show that you care about them, than if you try to show off yourself. The next time you talk to someone, smile, ask questions about the day, make eye contact, and show that you really care about them. This doesn't mean that you have to fake your actions, but that you should try to make the other person feel that they are being cared for. Here are some examples of things you can do:
- Ask the weekend
- Ask about extra curricular activities
- Compliment something he's wearing
- Ask the thing he mentioned earlier
- Find a balance between talking about yourself and talking about yourself
Step 6. Don't act like you're too cool to care
Of course, high school was a time when a lot of people acted like they were too cool to go to school. They may wear too thick eyeliner, laze around in class, arrive late, or shrug whenever the teachers reprimand them. However, this is an approach that you shouldn't take during high school. Know that it's okay to care, and that you should try to do the things that matter to you instead of worrying that you're going to sound like an idiot. If you really like English classes, be interested in your favorite book; If you like being on the tennis team, tell your friends about upcoming matches.
Talking about things that make you happy will make you a more attractive person. Also give your opinion. Agreeing with the other person and just nodding every time they say something will make you look very boring. Try to start a conversation and know when it's time to listen and answer the other person
Step 7. Talk to new people
Talk about simple things. This is a skill that many high school students don't have, and if you know how, you can improve your social skills and soon become popular. To be able to speak simply, you just have to be able to chat with other people about everything (eg when you meet them in the hall) without getting nervous or running out of topics. Just relax and stop worrying about the wrong things you might say, and make other people feel comfortable when you have a short conversation in the hall or before class starts. Here's an example of some small things you could talk about:
- Talk about your previous class or where you were before meeting him.
- Ask about the weekend.
- Ask about anything that's going to happen at school, such as a dance party or a football game, and ask the person you're talking to if he or she will participate.
- Talk about something in your neighborhood, such as a mayoral election flyer, or the shirt the other person is wearing (which may have the name of your favorite university on it).
Step 8. Smile at others
You might think that smiling at everyone is the last thing to do in high school, because smiling makes you uncool, but you have to change your behavior if you want to be more social and popular. Smiling will make you more approachable, get more people to notice you, and make them feel welcome in your presence. Smiling is part of being friendly. Of course, you don't have to smile at everyone at school, but if you run into someone in the corridor, take the opportunity and smile at them, even if you don't know them.
Admit it. People in high school are often quick to judge, and usually think that someone is being mean or rude for no reason. If you smile, people are more likely to think that you are open and friendly
Part 2 of 3: To Be Noticed
Step 1. Dress neatly
You don't have to wear the trendiest or most expensive clothes to be popular, but you do have to look like you care about how you look on the outside. This doesn't mean you have to overdo it; it's just, in fact, that people who dress better are usually taken more seriously and treated with more respect than those who look bad - whether at a job interview or when meeting other people at a party. Wear clothes that fit you, are wrinkle-free, and clean, and people will pay more attention to you.
- Your clothes can be a little loose or a little tight. This depends on the look you want. However, if your pants are really the wrong size, then ask yourself if it's the right thing to do.
- Use some pretty accessories, like a pair of silver earrings or a nice watch to spice up your look.
- Don't worry if you have five or ten outfits. You're better off having less stuff with better quality. A beautiful pair of jeans is better than three cheap jeans.
Step 2. Maintain personal hygiene
Shower, shave, brush your teeth, put on deodorant, and keep your body and hair clean and looking good. While you should smell fresh and clean, make sure you don't put on too much perfume or body fragrance, or you'll look just as bad as if you didn't shower at all. Taking the time to display good personal hygiene means that you respect and care for yourself.
You must come to school refreshed and showered. Bring deodorant to gym class to make sure you're always as clean as possible
Step 3. Make good decisions
Don't drink, smoke, run, or sneak out of class. Bad choices will ruin your life before it even begins, and they won't make you popular. You might think you'll get noticed if you become a rebel or break some rules, and yes, you will, but not deeply, and for no good reason. There is a difference between being popular for being friendly and being nice and being popular for a bad reputation.
- It's easier to make good decisions when you surround yourself with like-minded people. If you are under a bad influence, you are more likely to make bad decisions.
- If you're at a party, avoid drinking, jumping from high places, or doing anything bad just to show off. The attention you get from these activities will not last long.
Step 4. Impress others with your confidence
If you are happy with who you are, what you do, and how you look, people will notice. Smile at them and don't be afraid to say hi or start a conversation. Walk with your head held high and maintain positive body language, good posture, and radiate friendly energy whenever people see you. This will make them want to get to know you and make them interested in who you are.
- Developing self-confidence can take years. You can aim for this development if you practice the things you really like and master something, so you'll feel happier and proud of yourself.
- You should also make a list of all the things you love about yourself. Look at this list often, especially when you're feeling down.
- You can also try to change the things you want to change about yourself. Don't think you have to be your usual self; You actually have the ability to control your destiny.
- Another way to boost your self-confidence is to spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. Leave friends who always make you feel inferior.
Step 5. Don't tease or bully other people because you think it will make you popular
While you may think this will increase your popularity, people will think badly of you. Don't do it, because being popular as a result of destroying other people's lives is unfair! In addition, a bully may be feared, but usually he is not popular. Don't let you develop a reputation that you are an asshole.
Truly popular people don't look down on other people, because they're confident enough that they don't think they need to be mean
Step 6. Don't neglect your lesson
Remember to focus on your studies, even if you are trying to become more popular. Your values are far more important than your social status. If you perform well in school, you will be noticed as a good student, and will have more opportunities to meet more people. Of course, don't be a geek either, but if you take pride in your hard work, others will appreciate you.
Remember, while being popular in high school may feel good for a while, when you look back on your school years, you'll regret that you didn't study as well as you could, but instead tried to do your best to appear popular
Step 7. Prioritize fitness
Whether you work out at the gym or are an expert in a particular field, exercise will not only make you look cool, but you'll also feel good about yourself. And if you feel good about yourself, more people will think of you as an amazing confident person who deserves to be known. While exercise itself won't help you make new friends, it can contribute to a lifestyle that will make you more popular.
Prioritizing fitness will also lead you to meet more people and new friends, whether you're on a school team, in a certain league, or just taking exercise classes at a nearby gym
Step 8. Always display the state that you are having fun
Another way to get noticed is to let people see that you can have fun, no matter where you are. Whether you're walking down the hall, at a party, or waiting in line for lunch at the cafeteria, you should always look like you're having a good time. You don't have to laugh out loud in math class, but you do have to give off a positive vibe and let others see that you're happy with who you are and what you do. If you're talking to your friends, get really involved in the conversation instead of looking around for more popular people to talk to. If you care more about having fun than other people think of you, then they are more likely to want to talk to you.
- If you're always laughing, feeling good, and happy about what you're doing, you're more likely to attract friends.
- Of course, this doesn't mean you have to fake it when you're having a really bad day. However, know that trying to have fun doesn't hurt if you have the chance.
- You can file a complaint, but don't let you get a reputation as a negative person.
Step 9. Make sure you get to spend some time alone
While being social, getting to know other people, and being friendly are surefire ways to become more popular, you also need to be able to be independent and do what you want to do. If you want to wear something no one else has worn at your school, listen to different music from your friends, or try an activity that isn't offered at school (like yoga or archery), then don't hesitate just because no one else is around. others do. Being independent will help you get noticed for a simple reason - you'll be different.
This doesn't mean you have to be different just to make a difference, but because you really want to do something different. Don't look like a copycat if you try an "alternative" just to get attention
Step 10. Don't try too hard
While there are many things you can do to improve your social skills and stand out more clearly to your friends, be careful not to look like you're trying too hard. In high school, people were always sensitive to this, so avoid anything that makes you look like you're ready to do whatever it takes to be popular. This means you don't have to try too hard to talk to popular kids if they're not interested in you, and don't enter into conversations that don't involve you. You should also avoid copying the looks of the more popular people, as they will notice your tricks.
- Trying to make friends is a great way to market yourself and become more popular. However, be careful: be aware of when someone doesn't seem to want to be friends. Don't let yourself embarrass yourself by trying too hard.
- The same is true when you want to attract the attention of the opposite sex. While socializing with your crush will make you feel comfortable, take it slow and detect their feelings before you move on.
Part 3 of 3: Get Involved
Step 1. Join extra-curricular activities
Whether you like basketball, cheerleading, French clubs, or bands, joining some extracurricular activities can help you become more popular, as you'll get to know a wider range of people. If you only know the people in your class, you will be missing out on the amazing people at your school. You'll also find it easier to connect with people who share your passions, so you'll be more likely to make friends.
- Remember that, in order to be popular, people need to know who you are - what better way than to market your name through getting involved in extracurricular activities?
- Finding the right extracurricular activity can also help you discover new passions, explore new hobbies, and even be inspired to follow a new career path.
Step 2. Get to know the people in your class
While you should be a good student, you should still be able to find time to relax and make friends with some of the people in your class. Whether you're talking to a lab partner or the person sitting behind you in Algebra II class, you should make an effort to get to know the people in your class-do this without interrupting your learning!
- You might even be able to find a new best friend after working on a school project or writing a lab report with a new classmate. Don't think you can only find friends after school.
- People in your class may also be interested in meeting new people, as they don't always take the same classes as friends they already know. Assignments in a class can be random.
Step 3. Get involved in your community
Another way to get involved is by doing something for your community. Whether you're volunteering at a soup kitchen or playing softball in a high school league, doing something based on community activities will help you get to know more people and have experience speaking to people from a wider range of people. You may also meet some people from your school who are doing the same, and this will help you make more friends from your school or neighborhood.
Being involved in the community will not only introduce you to more people, but volunteering and doing something useful will build confidence, making it easier for you to meet new people
Step 4. Maintain a variety of hobbies
If you want to be popular, you have to try to do a lot of different things; if you just play baseball or do the school paper, you're missing out on so many interesting people. While it's also not recommended that you do too much, get involved in at least two or three activities that will introduce you to new people; if you only have one interest, you will only be friends with the same number of people. Try to find a few things that interest you, so you can make friends with interesting people.
Part of being popular means people know who you are the moment you walk down the hall. Engaging in a variety of activities can help you achieve this
Step 5. Put yourself in different situations
If you're not afraid to take risks and put yourself in a variety of opportunities during and after school, you'll be more recognized. Sign up for a talent contest at your school. When a guest speaker comes to school, volunteer on stage. Help a student with his homework after class is over. Be a volunteer at the school library. If you focus solely on doing what you have to do instead of finding new things to do, then you have less chance of becoming popular.
If you're really shy, you don't have to put yourself in an overbearing, showy way. You can look for small ways to make a difference, like joining a club or reading an announcement for your school's sports team on the school radio
Tips
- Don't lie or you'll be marked as a braggart. Lies will always haunt you. Having integrity and morals will earn you trust and respect.
- Make sure you look good in your photos (this doesn't mean you have to be undressed when you take a photo!). Smile, even if you look the other way. And make sure you can laugh during the photo session, while still looking approachable.
- Keep up to date with the latest media and fashion obsessions. Get to know actors, actresses and musicians. If you don't know where to start, head over to Billboard.com and listen to the most popular songs right now on the radio, and read popular magazines like Girls, Love, etc.
- Realize that the high school years are not the end! High school is only three years of your life. If being popular doesn't get you into the state that makes you happiest then forget it - life is too short not to be happy.
- Be someone funny! You must be able to joke around or have a good sense of humor.
- Be someone who can tell a good story! You'll be ostracized if you're jayus (unless you can twist it into a joke).
- Acne won't affect your status too much, but try to treat it with acne soaps and creams. One of the useful tricks to get rid of acne and keep the whole body healthy is stop eating wheat. Look for literature on this subject, for example in a book called Wheat Belly. This book is a lot of fun to read and will blow your mind at the impact wheat can have on you!
- Smile as much as possible (this doesn't mean you have to overdo it or smile 24 hours a day, 7 days a week). No one likes someone who is always frowning or looking expressionless.
- Don't befriend the wrong people, who make bad decisions.
- Don't feel insecure. There are people who envy you. So, be yourself and don't worry about others. They're not you, they don't know what you like. Only you know these things. So, show those things and be yourself!
- Concentrate on your social life and studies. Be careful who your real friends are. You never know if a friend will hinder your studies or your abilities, even though you have the capacity to reach the sky.
- Don't be a bully who thinks he's cool. Just follow the steps in this article.
Warning
- Don't befriend people who like to stab in the back. They always have the possibility of betraying you.
- Don't fall into the trap of making friends with "popular people" if they don't fit your style. Work on pursuing your own dreams, be kind to others, and you'll make friends, whatever your current social status. Otherwise, you'll just look like a copycat!
- Don't gossip about other people, because in the end the gossip will always come back to you!
- Don't show off too much or people will think bad things about you.
- If ANYONE from the popular gang tries to persuade you to take drugs, stay away from him IMMEDIATELY. It's better to be unpopular than to follow the wrong path of life!
- In general, stay away from these people and know that you, being better off, have the right to refuse to ensure a bright future! And remember, popular girls and kind girls shouldn't fight! There are no exceptions to this, even when you are a grown woman. If something is bothering you, ignore it or tell someone.
