There are many people who want to be popular. Popularity is not the same as image, pretentious, and exclusive. On the other hand, popular individuals are adored and respected. You can be popular by being yourself, opening up, and being involved in the community.
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Part 1 of 3: Be Yourself
Step 1. Re-evaluate why you want to be popular
Before devoting time, effort, and resources into creating a cool impression, think again about the reasons behind your desire to be popular.
- Do you want to be accepted? Are you looking for attention? Do you want to rebel or change yourself?
- Even if you try hard to be liked and do everything perfectly, you may still not be popular with other people. What will happen if you are not popular? How will you deal with failure to fulfill that wish? What other channels can you try to find yourself?
Step 2. Be yourself
To be popular, you don't have to follow social norms or change completely. Try to develop yourself to the best of your ability, your loving, passionate and authentic self. When you are aware of yourself, your confidence will also increase. You will be more daring, passionate, and attractive. The social anxiety you feel will decrease and other people will be encouraged to approach you.
- Know what you believe in and who you are, separate from others.
- Don't change your personality just to fit in or get other people to like you.
Step 3. Keep your faith
Never ignore personal beliefs and opinions just for the sake of popularity. Instead, show what you believe in and love. Start a new trend, don't just be a follower of the old trend.
Step 4. Maintain humility
Never underestimate the power of humility. People who are too serious are hard to approach. So, you should be more cheerful and excited. However, bragging about achievements, money, or other advantages is also not attractive. Wait for someone else to congratulate or compliment.
- When you make mistakes or carelessness in social circles, don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
- When you achieve something amazing or do something nice for someone else, don't announce the achievement.
- When you have new clothes or items, don't show off.
Step 5. Pay attention to appearance
Appearance is one of the easiest ways to increase your social prospects and change how others view you. However, you don't have to wear expensive or trendy clothes. Instead, try to always look good, pay attention to the clothes you wear, hairstyles, and personal hygiene. Feel free to experiment to create your own style.
Part 2 of 3: Opening Up
Step 1. Expand your social circle
Popular individuals may not always be liked by everyone, but are known by everyone. To increase your popularity, you have to expand your social circle. Try to go out to meet and hang out with new people.
- Smile and greet everyone you meet.
- During your lunch break, sit near new people.
Step 2. Don't judge and oppress others
Don't step on other people in the process of becoming popular. Remember, a kind and loving person has more friends than a mean and insecure person. Never judge people, instead help them. Do not bully anyone, be friends with everyone.
Be kind to people outside your group. Being in a gang that looks down on outsiders won't earn you many friends outside the group. So, try to get respect and friendship from everyone
Step 3. Support and help others
Helping others achieve their goals and sharing their joy with their success is a great way to develop a positive reputation. Put aside your desire for attention or your need to be your best. Instead, encourage and help those around you to succeed. Your kindness will surprise and be able to please others.
- Offer to help a friend with homework or a project.
- After sports practice, don't go straight home to accompany your team members.
- Congratulations on the achievements of others.
Step 4. Know and take action to deal with people who don't like you
Bullies, haters, and negative and evil people will always be in your life, whether you're popular or not. They can be people you already know or strangers. So that you can live happily and be yourself, even if you are not popular, know and act on them.
- Stay away from people who are bad influences. Don't hang out with negative friends who always put you down.
- Defend yourself. Show that you don't like and can no longer tolerate their bad attitude towards you.
- Don't take their treatment to heart. Bullying is not a reflection of your flaws, but a reflection of the bully. You are not the problem, they are the problem.
Part 3 of 3: Get Involved
Step 1. Accept invitations to try new things
Trying different experiences and adventures can build your confidence and allow you to meet new people. When someone asks you to try something new, don't be afraid to say yes. Let go of anxiety or doubt, and embrace the opportunity to broaden your horizons. You may find a new hobby or make new friends in the process.
- Try a new restaurant.
- Take an art class or exercise class.
- Learn how to play a new instrument.
Step 2. Attend events and parties
Attending sporting events and parties is great for expanding your social circle and increasing popularity. Such events provide opportunities to interact with others in a more relaxed and close-knit environment.
- Mingle and hang out with new people at sporting events.
- Meet co-workers at the Christmas party.
Step 3. Join a sports team, club, or committee
Participation in extracurricular activities can add to the social circle and popularity. You can establish good relations with fellow members. Your achievements will attract the attention and praise of those around you.
- Trying to audition for a school musical.
- Join the debate team.
- Run for the election of the student council president.
Tips
- Give praise to others. Say something nice about her hair, clothes, or achievements.
- Kind and sincere to everyone.
- Offer good advice to people who need it.
- Give encouragement to people who feel they have no advantages.
- Stand up for the weak and take them with you as you climb the ladder to popularity.
- Don't be someone else and don't act like you're better than everyone else. That's a big mistake.
- Invite others to hang out and chat to get to know each other better.
- Express positive and constructive thoughts.
- Be patient. There are some people who don't like other people easily, and there are also those who are always difficult.
- Remember people's names and introduce them to others. Don't forget to smile to brighten their day. If you see someone being marginalized, invite them. Later they might become loyal friends.
Warning
- Never forget friends. Don't throw them away to gain popularity.
- Don't judge or spread rumors about other people.
- It takes time to build popularity. You have to be patient and determined.
