Middle school is a difficult time in a girl's life. There is a changing body. Then, there are increasing expectations from schools and parents. Add to that friendship, as if you don't have enough time to do anything! In fact, popularity in middle school isn't what you think it is. Popularity is not achieved by imitating others, but by being the best version of yourself. Once successful, you will become a girl that other girls will admire.
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Step 1. Remember the following:
- The scope of popularity can be in one school or in one group, such as based on year of class, interests, similarities, and so on. What do you want?
- Popularity depends on how you treat other people, how they treat you, and what you have in common.
- How you become popular depends on your school, the number of students in your class, and the types of kids who know you.
- Popularity is not the same as friendship. You can be very popular and lonely if you're not careful. Prioritize true and deep friendships over many casual acquaintances.
- Don't leave true friends to people who just want to piggyback on popularity and be rude.
- Do not imitate other children to be accepted. Be yourself.
- Reality is not the same as in the movies. In reality, popular kids are not bad, but friendly kids.
Part 1 of 6: Having an Amazing Appearance
Step 1. Take care of your health
Take a shower every day with a special soap and clean the whole body. Make sure you wear deodorant.
- Take care of your skin. Use gentle cleansers, moisturizers, and lotions. Make sure each product you use does not contain perfume, or a scent that is not sharp. For example, if your hands are dry, use a medicated lotion. Also, wash your hands often
- Enough sleep. Studies show that the average teenager needs at least 10 hours of sleep per night to stay fresh. Getting enough rest will strengthen your sensitivity, mind, spirit, and self-confidence!
- Eat right and always be active. This will not only make you look better, but your feelings will also improve. Most popular girls are not obese. If you're trying to lose weight, do it with a friend. They can support you.
- Rest at home if you are sick, if you must.
- Don't like to blow your nose. It's unhealthy and disgusting. Instead, clean your nose before going to school.
- Drink lots of water. You will be adequately hydrated and ready to work.
Step 2. Take care of your hair
To have good hair, you need a good and suitable shampoo and conditioner. You don't need expensive products. Hair care products just need to work (clean hair). Try products that are widely available in the market.
- Your stylist, sister, or friends can suggest shampoos and conditioners that might work for you. You should not fall in love with one particular brand. Try a variety of brands to find out what you like best, and after that, don't just stick to one brand until you don't want to try something else. Over time, the hair will change so you should be prepared to make the appropriate changes.
- Try cutting your hair a little every 1-2 months. No need to get a haircut at the most expensive salon, in fact you can do it yourself. However, try to see the detailed tutorial first.
- Try to let your hair dry by itself and don't style it in a variety of ways. The heat from styling products can damage your hair.
- Wash your hair with warm water for cleansing and cold water for a natural shine.
- For special occasions, you can use a straight iron, curling iron, or 3-barrel waver. Be careful not to burn the hair. Also, use a heat protectant and never heat your hair more than 2 or 3 times a week.
- There are many options for you. You can leave the natural curls. You can use headbands, braids, or go to the salon to straighten or curl your hair. There are some girls who want their hair to be slightly colored, highlighted or shadowed in certain areas. Never overdo your hair. You can find inspiration from hairstyle tutorials on YouTube.
Step 3. Remove unwanted body hair
This is a personal choice. You're still young and you don't have to feel like you have to remove body hair just to be the same as your friends. If you are not comfortable with this step, don't do it. However, maybe your self-confidence will increase if your body is smooth without hair. It's your decision. Remember, if you start shaving, the hair will quickly grow back darker and coarser. Maybe someone will see it, and maybe they'll laugh at you. So don't shave unless you have to.
- Shave the legs. If you've never shaved before, ask your mom or sister for help. You need a razor, shaving cream, and patience. Shave slowly and don't rush. You can also use wax strips or depilatory cream.
- Shave armpit hair. How to shave armpit hair is the same as shaving leg hair. Make sure the razor is not dull and use plenty of shaving cream.
- Pluck the eyebrows or use wax to smooth the eyebrows. We recommend that you go to the salon to wax your eyebrows, then remove the regrown eyebrows (never use wax on your own). If you need to pluck your eyebrows, ask your mom or sister for help. However, the cleanest, painless, and inexpensive way is to use yarn. Or, you can buy eyebrow products.
- Remove the hair above the mouth or remove it with wax. Again, you should go to the salon if you choose candles. Or, take tweezers and pluck the fine mustache above your lips yourself.
- Remove the hair on the face and cheeks with thread or wax. Hair on a girl's face is not at all popular.
Step 4. Make up your face, if you like
Since you're still in middle school, you don't need a lot of makeup. At most you just need foundation, concealer, eye shadow, mascara, and/or lip gloss. Don't go overboard and choose natural makeup that will complete your look and highlight your facial features. However, makeup usually has no effect on popularity at school. Here are some tips to make your face look fresh and natural:
- Always wash your face and apply moisturizer before applying makeup. Use an acne cream if your skin is sensitive.
- Choose a foundation that is closest to your skin tone so you don't look too white or yellow. Flatten. If necessary, you can use a small amount of concealer to cover blemishes before applying foundation.
- Use mascara after curling your lashes to make your eyes stand out. If you want, you can use a little highlighter and maybe some blush, use natural eye shadow, then finish with lip tint.
- Some like to use liquid eyeliner for a more “dramatic” look. If you want to use it, don't overdo it. Pencil or powder eyeliner will give a more natural look. If you want an eye line that lasts all day, use the gel type.
- For eye shadow, choose natural colors to highlight the eyes to make them look attractive. The choices are many. You can go for gray or brown, or go bolder by choosing another color.
- Have some lip gloss. You need some paler colors as well as some bolder colors.
- Try changing makeup. If eye makeup is more daring, choose a natural lip color. If you choose a bold lip color, make your eyes natural. Ask your mother or sister for advice. Make sure you stay comfortable. If you're not comfortable, other people won't be comfortable seeing you either.
Step 5. Treat nails
No one likes nails that are too sharp. Make sure you trim your nails every week.
- Try coloring your nails to make it more stylish. You can do it yourself or go to a salon. There are many variations of unique nail dyes. However, avoid false nails.
- If you wear nail polish, make sure the color matches the outfit.
- Remove any dirt or polish under the nails.
Part 2 of 6: Have a Fashionable Sense of Dress
Step 1. Choose clothes that express your taste and uniqueness
Pay attention to what popular girls wear and where they shop, but don't copy their style. Instead, make them an inspiration.
- Wear clothes with confidence and style. Try to dress fashionable and trendy, but don't wear something because "everyone wears it". Have an original style, don't go along with it.
- If your school doesn't have a uniform, try choosing clothes that are trendy and quirky, but not quirky or absurd. If you must wear a uniform, know the rules. Try to manipulate the rules and push the boundaries as far as possible so that you can still appear unique and different from the others. However, do not cross the line which will bring difficulties.
- When choosing pants, choose the one that fits your body. The back pocket should not go down to the top of the leg. Pencil jeans are stylish, as are black/dark gray leggings.
- Neon, black, and white colors will make you stand out, but that's about it.
- For shoes, try buying boots, sneakers, sandals, comfortable shoes, or thick-soled shoes. You can buy online or specialty shoe stores, or even boutiques and thrift stores if you don't have a lot of money for shoes.
- Make sure your clothes fit your body shape, fit, and are comfortable. Remember, popular girls always pay attention to clothes. Don't overdo it and don't be tacky. Ask a friend or parent to help decide what to wear before leaving.
Step 2. Complete the outfit with accessories, such as bracelets, studs or small hoop earrings, scarves, hats, bags, necklaces, and more
Step 3. Use perfume or cologne
All women like to go out fresh and smell good. Certain scents can represent your personality, but don't choose a scent that's too strong. Also, don't spray too much fragrance. You only need two sprays in the vein (the blood will activate the scent).
Step 4. Buy a cool backpack
Choose a backpack that expresses your personality and style, and make sure the backpack you choose is comfortable and fits well. Take it with confidence.
- Different types of sling bags are also cool and stylish.
- Buy a backpack that is not only cool, but also comfortable. No one wants a sore shoulder when they get home. Wearing a backpack with only one strap will put too much weight on your shoulders if you're not careful.
- Choose a backpack large enough to accommodate all your school needs.
Part 3 of 6: Developing Popular Girl Skills
Step 1. Have confidence
Remember that shy girls don't attract much attention, and if you don't trust yourself, you can become a target for bullying by other kids.
Step 2. Be yourself
Don't force yourself to live life the way you don't like it. If you don't be yourself, you will only attract people you have nothing in common with. Don't pretend you like something you don't like or make friends with people who make you feel bad. By pretending, you are drowning in lies and self-hatred. It doesn't feel like it at first, but over time you'll notice it.
Step 3. Take the leadership position
Be a role model by always doing the right thing. Demonstrate your leadership by taking the initiative to take responsibility for something that needs to be done, improved, or even changed.
- Don't be afraid to talk. If you disagree on something, don't pretend to agree because everyone agrees. Say that you don't agree. You can still express your disapproval in a nice and pleasant way, without upsetting people. This is a great skill to learn, and you'll also earn the respect of others for having the courage to speak your mind. People are more likely to consider your idea if you speak it earnestly and convincingly, and show that you've thought it through.
- Be a leader in gym class. You just need to show a desire to try all kinds of sports even if you're not very good at some branches. To boost your confidence, buy good quality sports clothes and shoes.
- Have your own thoughts. All leaders have a mind of their own and know where they are headed. This is a skill that needs to be developed early on.
Step 4. Have a good sense of humor, but avoid silly jokes
Don't joke too much. Try to have a unique, honest, and appropriate sense of humor. Oddity isn't bad. You can make random or spontaneous jokes, as long as you don't overdo it.
- If you don't know how to be funny, find some jokes you like on the internet, and tell your friends. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
- Choose good humor. Don't make fun of others because it's bullying behavior.
Part 4 of 6: Getting Yourself Noticed
Step 1. Try to be known to people
How can you be popular if no one knows you? You have to believe in yourself, other people will see it. Who is your classmate in Science, Mathematics, Language, Arts, etc. Sit near new people at lunch. Promise yourself that you will meet new people every day. Make sure you know them, don't just meet them.
- Smiling, chatting and laughing. Always be sincere so the world sees that you are awesome, smart, great, and positive.
- If you feel that chatting with certain types of people will reduce your popularity even more, don't gossip about them. Just treat them like everyone else.
- Whispering into a popular girl's ear about someone will show that you're talking about that person, not make you cooler. This will neither increase nor decrease popularity. So, what to do? If you do, and you shouldn't, these popular girls will either ignore you, report to an adult (if the problem is serious), laugh at you, or argue against you and say: “You're mean, you know. How would you feel if you were treated like that?” Then, they will win by exposing you as a bully. If you don't want to be seen as a bully, don't do it.
Step 2. Make as many new friends as possible
Ask for their phone number when you meet them so you can follow up with a text message. Messages are a very easy way to build a relationship, but take it slow. Don't let yourself be seen as a stalker or give the impression that all you think about is wanting to have lots of friends. Also make friends with some of the kids in popular circles, and you'll get to know them all in a fairly short amount of time.
Create Facebook, Tumblr, Kik, Instagram, and Snapchat accounts so you can chat with friends outside of school. Many people will pay attention to you if you hang out in cyberspace. Maybe you will also meet new people. They will love the photos and love to chat with you. Most popular girls have lots of friends on social media accounts. However, remember to be careful and not to be rude to anyone on the internet
Step 3. Show a good attitude to everyone
You still have to respect people even if they irritate you. This doesn't mean you have to hang out with nerds 24/7, but you want them to admire you, right? They will remember you. You have to be nice to boys too, and remember, just because you're friends with a boy doesn't mean he has to be your boyfriend.
Step 4. If you have a talent that not many people know about, show it
For example, if there's a piano in a room and no one is using it, get everyone's attention by taking one of Mozart's (or a musician's) works seriously.
- Take part in the school's talent show. You can play musical instruments, perform comedy skits with friends, etc.
- If you are gifted in a more active sport, join the school team. In the process, you will become friends with the same people. If you like to be funny, make jokes on the field. The best and most challenging part is when you step onto the field, ready to play. Amaze the audience by performing well, and you will become a star. However, don't obsess over getting everyone's attention. Invite your friends to enjoy it.
Step 5. Treat others the way you would like to be treated
If you are bad, other people will treat you equally badly. Nobody likes annoying people.
- The only way not to be gossiped about is not to gossip. Ever heard of the phrase, “One finger points forward, three fingers back”? That's right.
- Don't be mean. No one will like you if you are not nice. Being a popular girl doesn't mean being a tall, beautiful, but arrogant cheerleader (stereotype), but means being liked by people for who they are.
Step 6. Never be truant
How can you be popular if you're not at school? We've all had a bad day, got sick, or was lazy. Try to always leave and be on time so you don't get into trouble. That way, you have the opportunity to socialize more and be known by people. Don't skip it even if you don't like it. Once you've joined a group of friends, there's no reason to skip class because you'll want to meet them. Don't let them sit in class without you.
Step 7. Be loyal to your friends
Don't ignore and belittle your friends, or get them into trouble. Even if you are popular, you will lose good friends if you are not loyal.
Step 8. Make friends with popular groups
This connection can help spread your own popularity. One way to get to know a popular girl is to date a popular boy, but that plan isn't always the best and never goes overboard. If they don't accept you, relax. You can still be popular even if "popular" people don't give you a chance. A person is considered popular if he is accepted (that is, other people pay attention to him). Know that their popularity will wane over time, especially if you present something new and more interesting.
Make friends with popular upperclassmen. People will think that you are quite special because you match up with the upperclassmen. Plus, you'll get more attention
Step 9. Don't forget old friends even if they aren't popular
They are with you from the start. Be friends with their siblings. Maybe you can make them popular too.
Don't limit popularity to just one place. After becoming popular, try to get to know children from other schools, even elementary or high school children. You can meet and get acquainted by joining clubs, activities, and sports outside of school. It's a good idea to get to know the first girl you have in common. Let kids from other schools know about you
Step 10. Don't get caught up in the drama and gossip that is common in most groups
You have to be loyal to everyone, and if you gossip or participate in gossip, people will know and dislike you. Remember, you want to be popular, not evil.
Part 5 of 6: Holding Social Events
Step 1. Have parties, sleepovers, activities, and shopping
If you do it, people will find you fun.
- If you're hosting a sleepover, make sure you prepare some fun activities, like ringing the doorbell of a neighbor who has a cool boy and running away before the door opens, or playing pranks on a bad neighbor, and so on. However, make sure you don't get into trouble.
- Provide plenty of drinks and snacks. One great idea for a sleepover event is to watch a movie. Other ideas are a makeover, make friendship bracelets, or glitter wars. The possibilities are endless.
Step 2. Develop interests and a schedule
Join a sports team at school. Have a party and join friends. Or, try hanging out at the mall. Fill your calendar with activities with other people, even if it's just watching a movie with a friend.
Part 6 of 6: Be a Cool Girl
Step 1. Don't get into trouble
As tempting as it may seem, any activity that breaks the rules is wrong, and you'll only end up hating yourself. If you don't want to do something that isn't right, stand your ground.
- At school, follow the rules and wear the best possible uniform.
- Don't try drugs. Once started, you will be addicted. Remember, you are immature, and drugs will only make you worse. Drugs are banned in schools, so why try it? Smoking or drinking alcohol is also wrong, unhealthy, and totally pointless.
- Don't bully people. Fight all forms of oppression. People will have more confidence in you.
Step 2. Have a good attitude
When your attitude is good, other people will also be kind, then happiness will spread. Plus, a good attitude makes you feel better, and you'll feel better too.
Step 3. Maintain your achievements
Even though you can attract the attention of many people, you still have to be a smart student. Not doing homework, getting 0, and not getting a grade is not cool at all. Remember, the better you do in school, the better chance you have of getting a good job in the future.
Step 4. Help others and treat everyone the same way
If you excel in a certain area and someone needs help in that area, offer to help. If they refuse, don't ask questions. On the other hand, if they come asking for help, extend your hand.
Step 5. Remember that there are many children in school who are also trying to be popular
When you graduate and enter college, popularity doesn't matter anymore. You will be in the real world, and the important thing there is to do well in your chosen field and stay focused on the future and family.
Tips
- Try to prevent acne. Wash your face every morning and night, and drink plenty of water.
- Always positive. Don't be negative. Stay cheerful and enjoy everything, but don't overdo it.
- Eat a balanced diet. However, don't go crazy. Your health will suffer the consequences. There are some middle school girls who are already worried about body shape.
- Do not be shy. Start chatting with other people. If one person doesn't like you, it doesn't mean everyone will.
- When you smile, engage your eyes. Let your eyes squint a little. It will make you look sincere.
- You can like a boy, but don't let him interfere with your school and your schedule.
- Give help. Try participating in volunteer work.
- Don't walk with your head down. Lift your chin and smile.
- Remember your old self and try to reflect. Good value also helps.
- Compliment others and increase their confidence. Don't let popularity make you forget yourself.
Warning
- Watch out for other jealous girls. It might be just a sharp glance at first, but it will probably escalate to gossip. Make sure you stay kind, treat them like everyone else, and never follow their negativity.
- Don't brag. Don't be the one who always talks about yourself and what you have. Not everyone is the same and you will only make them feel bad.
- Don't try drugs or alcohol. It may sound like illegal substances will make you more popular, but it really isn't. In the end, you will not seem brave and like a challenge, you will look stupid. You will lose everything if you are addicted to drugs.
- Don't mess with the boys. You're still in middle school, don't let boys persuade you to do anything inappropriate. After breaking up with one person, don't immediately date another, especially if your ex and potential boyfriend are friends.
- Try not to get angry when someone says something mean or rude to you. Just stare at them and turn around. Fighting will do no good.
- Don't do the wrong thing just to be accepted. If they don't accept because you're being straight-forward, then they're not really good friends.
- Beware of group machinations, and don't get into fights between them. Middle school is a scary time if you get involved in it.
- Don't interrupt other people's private chats. If after that you ask and he answers, "it's a personal matter" or something similar, respect it and forget it.
- Maybe you've started dating, but you're only in middle school. Don't let your life revolve around boys. You have to be smart. Don't do anything inappropriate at school just to impress a boy.
- Don't go overboard in trying to be popular. Popularity is not the most important thing in life.
Remember, it's all about you
- You may worry about being bullied. In fact, maybe these bullies are the popular kids you want to be friends with. Almost anyone can make it happen, but there are long-term consequences. Cruel and obnoxious attitude will not get you to college. The moral of this story is that popular children don't necessarily think about their values.
- Face oppression. Bullying also exists in junior high school. Don't let those bad boys get close to you.
- Be nice to everyone, no matter if they like you or if you like them.
- Do not try to be someone else because you will be considered a "copycat". Don't imitate others, be yourself. That way, you will meet people who have something in common with you and your life will be better.
- Use appropriate language. Don't swear. It may sound cool, but it really isn't. Expressing yourself without cursing actually seems smarter, as if your every word has meaning. It's useless, so don't use it.
