School is a very important part of your life. Therefore, you should go to school in a place that is comfortable and can help you study calmly and effectively. Persuading your parents to let you change schools may take a long time. However, if you have good reasons and arguments, you can make them understand your desire to change schools.
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Part 1 of 3: Plotting Arguments for Changing Schools
Step 1. Write down the main reason why you want to change schools
Before making an argument that you will present to your parents, you must understand the real reason why you want to change schools. In addition, you must also be able to explain the reasons clearly. Here are some reasons that might make you want to change schools:
- You experience bullying and feel like the people bullying you will never stop. Also, you may not be comfortable learning and playing with them.
- Before asking your parents to find you a new school, make sure you really want to change schools. Writing down the pros and cons of changing schools might help.
- You are not comfortable studying in schools and classes that are large and full of people. You prefer a small school environment.
- You feel that school is not helping to improve your academic abilities and achievements. You may need a school that has a higher grading standard or a school that can teach you privately.
- Other schools have educational programs that interest you, such as drama, music, arts, band, or sports programs.
- You don't fit into the social environment of the school. You may not have many friends or have a different view than your friends. State your reasons clearly and carefully so that parents can really understand your wishes and reasons.
- When writing down the reasons that make you want to change schools, make sure they are so important that you have to change schools. For example, if you don't like math and your teacher gives you a lot of homework or you want to go to the same place as your boyfriend or close friends, you might want to reconsider wanting to change schools because those reasons aren't that important.
Step 2. Determine the transfer date
This affects how you explain the situation you face at school to your parents. By setting a specific school transfer date, you can persuade your parents to let you change schools more easily. In addition, this can make parents give a firm answer.
- If you are being bullied, you may be able to move in mid-semester.
- However, if you want to move to a school that encourages you to study harder, you should move next semester. Thus, you can follow the learning from the beginning of the semester.
- Buy or print a calendar and write the date you want to change schools on the calendar. After that, you also have to set a date to discuss your wishes with your parents. It's a good idea to let them know as early as possible, at least a few months before the transfer date.
Step 3. Find the desired school
Before conveying your desire to change schools to your parents, you should find an alternative school that you want.
- That way, you can tell your parents why you want to change schools.
- Search schools based on your reasons. For example, if you want to change schools because the school atmosphere does not encourage you to study harder, look for schools that have high accreditation and various academic achievements.
Step 4. Write a positive reason for changing schools
You may be tempted to tell all the bad things about your school. While it's important for you to share all the reasons that made you want to move, you should also explain the benefits you get from changing schools.
- Make a list of positive things about other schools.
- If you have a friend on Facebook who is studying at the school you want, ask them what they like about the school. After that, you can pass this information on to your parents.
Part 2 of 3: Creating Conversation Scripts
Step 1. Write a conversation script and practice reading this script
It's a good idea to prepare a conversation script as if you were going to give an important speech. Imagining the conversation can help you write down what you want to say to your parents and also predict their response. That way, you can prepare the right answer to reply to the parent's response.
Practice saying all the excuses out loud while facing the mirror or a friend
Step 2. Create an introduction
In order to persuade your parents to let you change schools, you have to make sure that they really listen to what you have to say.
- Say something like, “Can Mommy and Daddy sit with me in the living room or not? I have something to talk to mom and dad. I also want to know what mom and dad think."
- You should tell your parents that you want to talk about something important. Tell them that you want them to hear what's on your mind.
Step 3. Explain your wishes calmly and maturely
If your parents give a response that is not what you want, you should not whine because this can irritate your parents and reduce your chances of changing schools. Therefore, you must explain all the reasons calmly and honestly even if your parents don't really approve of your wishes. You have to make them understand that the situation you are in is making you sad. Present your argument sincerely and clearly.
- If you are being bullied, don't be shy about telling your parents. Tell them that bullying is affecting your performance in school and making you sad.
- Say something like, “There's a group of kids in class who like to write insults on paper and stick it to my back. They also took my stuff on the table. Then they also mocked me, so I was often annoyed at school. I've asked them to stop and I've talked to the teacher too, but they still mock me when the teacher isn't there. So I can't focus on studying at school or at home because I think about their taunts all the time."
- If you want to transfer to a better quality school, you can say something like, "I find it hard to do peer work because I don't know how to count. A lot of students in my class like to be noisy, so I can't listen to the teacher when they're doing the math. I'm still explaining the lesson. I also have to line up with other students to ask the teacher for lessons."
- If you want to go to a place that has higher standards, you can say something like, “I often get 10 because the exam is easy. When I've done my homework at school, I often stay quiet in class because the teacher usually doesn't give me additional assignments."
Step 4. Write down the positive reasons
When writing positive reasons, you should think about things that can improve the quality of learning at school. Here are some examples of positive reasons that can be used:
- “I am interested in studying music. He said SMPN 14 had good music extracurriculars, and it wasn't too far from home either. I want to go to school there to improve my musical skills.”
- “SMP Purnama Bangsa provides one class for 10 children. If I study there, I can be calm and focus on studying, because not many students and the teacher can pay attention to every student. So my grades can be better if I study there.”
- “SMPN 4 has complete extracurricular facilities. There is a math club and a physics club, so I can study again after school. Then there the laboratory is complete, so I can try experiments with friends and teachers. I want to work as an engineer, so I want to learn a lot from now on.”
Step 5. End the conversation without forcing the parents to make a decision right away
You should not force your parents to immediately grant your wish. If you insist while whining, they may become annoyed and refuse your request.
End the conversation with a sentence like this: "Thanks papa and mama for listening to me. Papa and mama don't have to make a decision right away. Just think about it with papa and mama. Later papa and mama can tell me when you have made a decision. I really want to be able to change schools. So I hope that papa and mama can grant my request."
Part 3 of 3: Explaining Your Wish to Parents
Step 1. Talk about this topic slowly
When talking to your parents about school, it's best not to tell them out of the blue that you want to change schools. If you have a serious problem, such as severe bullying, you should talk to your parents immediately. Explain the problems you are having at school before telling them about your desire to change schools.
- Make it clear that you don't enjoy studying at school.
- If your parents ask how you are every day, try to tell them things that make you uncomfortable studying at school. For example, you could tell your parents, “I just got my exam results and I didn't score well. I tried to ask the teacher how to do the correct math formula, but many children wanted to ask too. So the teacher didn't have time to teach me."
Step 2. Do things that please your parents before talking to them. This is a common persuasion method used in any situation
It's a good idea to try to be nice and please your parents for a few weeks before asking them to transfer you to another school.
- Don't argue or swear at your parents.
- Do the things they usually ask for, such as tidying the room and tidying things up.
Step 3. Choose a good time to talk
It's best not to talk to your parents about wanting to change schools when they're in a rush or stressed. Speak when they are relaxed and ask them if they can spare a minute to talk to you.
For example, you could talk after dinner when your parents have eaten and the house has been tidied up
Step 4. Write a letter
Some topics are sometimes difficult to discuss directly with parents. If you are being bullied at school, writing a letter can help you communicate your feelings honestly and clearly to your parents.
- After handing over the letter to your parents, they will invite you to chat with them. Writing a letter can help reduce the pressure that comes with discussing a serious topic.
- If you are being bullied, you can write a letter to convey what the bully has done to you. That way, parents can understand how much bullying you experience every day even if you don't tell them directly.
Tips
- Talk to your teacher about the issues that make you want to change schools. If you have a serious problem, the teacher can recommend to your parents to transfer you to another school.
- See a guidance and counseling teacher and discuss your problem with him. Guidance and counseling teachers can provide recommendations to parents.
- Don't be afraid to talk about the problems you're having at school with your parents because they can understand you.
- It's a good idea to talk about the problems you're having at school honestly, no matter how small the problem is.
- Be prepared to accept if your parents refuse your wishes. Keep in mind that persuading your parents to let you change schools takes time as they don't fully understand the reasons why you want to change schools. If you make a list of positive and negative reasons for wanting to change schools, they will probably grant your wish.
- If you tell your parents about a serious problem, such as bullying, they may try to find a solution before allowing you to change schools. If this problem persists, they may allow you to change schools.
Warning
- Don't tell others that you want to change schools before your parents allow it.
- If there's a serious problem that needs to be addressed or stopped, let your parents know even if it's embarrassing. If you experience bullying, don't keep it to yourself and tell your parents right away.
- If you want to transfer to a private school, you must consider your parents' financial condition and not object to other alternative schools offered by them.
