Grinding is a dance that is usually performed in a club or party. This dance is performed by a man swaying behind a woman while both swaying their hips in a circular motion. For women, grinding can feel a little intimidating – you may not know how to get a guy to do it, where your hands should be, and how to properly rock your hips. Don't worry though -- grinding isn't difficult and you don't need to be too intimate with your partner, especially if you don't know them. If you want to know how to grind sexy, classy, and cool, follow the steps below.
Step
Method 1 of 3: Approaching the Man
Step 1. Start dancing with your girlfriend
If you don't know the guy you want to dance with and he doesn't invite you to the dance floor, you should come to the dance floor yourself. (If you already have a dance partner, you can skip this section.) Take a girl or two with you and dance with them. Do what you love and act a little crazy.
- Don't look like you're desperate to find a dance partner, even if you've found your target. Let the guy see that you are having fun and wait for him to come to you.
- Show your best dance moves with your girlfriends. Let the guy see that you're good at moving your body, getting to the beat, and having fun.
Step 2. Approach the man
Once you find a target – or make eye contact with it – you and your friends can move closer to it. Make sure to make this look natural, then wait for it to get close too. If you look him in the eye for a moment, then immediately approach, you're not going to look cool.
- Get close to the fig while the song is playing.
- Make sure that your girl friend can come along without making the guy feel “beyond”.
Step 3. Start crashing "accidentally" into the guy
At this point, you should be able to look the guy in the eye, or even give him a nice smile, then look away. After that, move closer to him and let your hands touch him, or turn towards him while nudging him.
Step 4. Step in front of the man
Show your courage by stepping in front of him so you can meet eyes and start dancing together. Spend a few minutes dancing in front of him to the beat, then start twisting so he can start dancing behind you and grinding.
Method 2 of 3: Grinding with a Guy
Step 1. Stand in front of the man, facing the opposite direction
First, you need to be in the grinding position. While you can combine other dance moves, the grinding position is generally for the man behind the woman. You can give a little distance so that your position is not too intimate, especially if you don't know him.
Step 2. Bend your knees
You and the man should bend your knees so that your body position is slightly lower. If the guy is taller, you don't need to do this. However, if he is in the same posture as you – which is often the case when you wear high heels – you will need to bend your knees slightly down to make him appear taller.
Step 3. Move your hips and buttocks
Now, move your hips and buttocks in one repeating circular motion. Continue to move from side to side while moving your legs slightly up and down with your legs slightly bent. If the guy is good at it, he'll be rocking his hips to your rhythm – your hips should move in sync with the tempo of the music.
If you are passionate, you can touch the man's crotch with your buttocks while rocking him to the right and left. However, you can also keep your distance from him
Step 4. Move your arms and chest
Move your arms and chest to the beat, with a fluid, flowing sway. Look forward or slightly down while rocking your arms, chest, and hips. You can lower your arms so that they are near your knees or waist, and wait for the man's hand to hold your body or waist as you continue to dance.
Method 3 of 3: Trying Other Grinding Moves
Step 1. Move from side to side
You don't have to dance in front of a guy all the time – this can be boring, and you'll want to look him in the face every now and then. So you can move to the left side, continuing the circular sway and keep your knees bent, while the guy moves to the right, so you can see him. You can switch positions and move to the right, while he moves to the left, while still moving back and forth.
Step 2. Turn around
Turn around to face the guy, not his back, then wrap your arms around his neck. This is known as front grinding -- this move is riskier and sexier. Let the guy put his hands on your hips, while you keep moving your waist in a circular motion. Take your hands off his neck, then move them to his chest. Then, turn your body again.
You can even put your finger in the man's belt loop for a few seconds
Step 3. Touch the floor
When you have your back to the guy, you can move your hands down until they touch the floor, lifting your butt higher into the air. It's much more intimate, and can drive a guy crazy – do this move if you dare.
Step 4. Do grinding slowly
Don't feel intimidated if the club plays slow tunes. You can still grind slowly according to the tempo of the music, with the same movement. Slow grinding will look sexier if you do it right. Don't let the guy notice that you're confused – just keep moving according to the music playing.
Tips
- Practice at home when it's quiet.
- If your partner doesn't know what to do, take his hand, then place it on your stomach/waist/hip and ask him to move his body according to your movements.
- If the guy has an erection, ignore it or just walk away if you feel uncomfortable. Even if this is natural, he may be much more shy than you.
- The best songs for grinding are fast ones.
- If your grinding partner touches you in a rude way, walk away or adjust their hand position. Just because you're grinding with someone doesn't mean they can touch you on their own.
- You can grind with anyone, both men and women.
- If someone is behind you, and you feel like they want to grind, step back a little towards them so they know you're interested. He will most likely put his hands on your hips so he can do the grinding.
- Fast-paced songs like Go-Go, Rap, or Hip-Hop are best for dance grinding accompaniments.
- To make it more interesting, you can do grinding face to face with other couples.
- If you really want to grind with someone but they don't, don't worry! Find someone else who is willing to do it.
Warning
- Make sure you see your grinding partner's face at least once so you don't get shocked and feel more secure.
- After grinding, you may feel a little more lustful and sexier! Take some time to calm your mind. Don't do something you'll regret later.
- If the guy touches you rudely, ask him to stop. If he doesn't want to, then leave.
- To be on the safe side, dance near a good friend who also has a grinding partner or who has seen you dance before.
- As you lift your buttocks higher in the air, you need to make sure that your body is flexible enough so you don't hurt yourself. Practice at home if necessary. You can do some yoga or a light warm-up to increase your flexibility. You can also practice it in the club, before grinding. Don't be afraid to look weird. Be yourself!
- Make sure you use deodorant. Smelly armpits can make your grinding partner feel uncomfortable.
