Grinding is a fun and risky dance that you can find at school dances, weddings, or nightclubs. The movement is very simple – find a partner, come closer, then bend your hips to the music. Grinding can be a fun way to heat up the atmosphere on the dance floor, either with your back to or facing your partner. Because this type of dance is thick with sexual nuances, it's best to do this when your partner really wants to.
Step
Method 1 of 2: Dance Behind Your Partner
Step 1. Place your hands on your partner's hips
If the partner is positioning himself with his back to you, place your hands on his hipbones. This will allow you to feel the movement more closely, as well as give you a little more control if you want to change your grinding technique.
- It is natural for the person in the back position to hold the partner's hips. However, make sure you put it down slowly to make sure your partner doesn't mind it.
- Don't move your hand anywhere unless asked to. Touching without permission is harassment, even when you're grinding.
Step 2. Move your hips together
Bend your knees slightly and sway from side to side. From there, you can start moving around in circles, or experiment with different moves that show you're excited.
Depending on your height, you may need to stand taller or bend your knees deeper to be on par with your partner
Step 3. Let your partner be in control
Grinding must be done compactly. So, come closer so you can hold your partner's hips during the rocking and follow the movement. Let your partner be in control of the movement, and set where you can touch it. A good dance partner should respect the partner's will and be able to adapt to his movements.
The more compact you are with your partner, the more likely he is to allow you to have more intimate physical contact
Step 4. Tilt your body to the side to reduce physical contact
If you're dancing with a stranger, or don't want to get too close, you can tilt your body slightly to the side. Your partner will tilt his body to the other side. That way, you'll be grinding with your feet, not your groin.
Watch for signs that your partner is hesitant to dance too closely. If his movement slows down or he moves away, for example, it's a good idea to give him some distance
Step 5. Change your moves every now and then
Just standing while shaking your hips is not fun. To keep it fun, try changing dance positions every few minutes, or alternating your dance moves with your partner. You may just have time to enjoy being with him until the song runs out. So, do this as best you can!
- If you and your partner have the same taste, you can even bend lower, stick your body together, or create your own grinding technique.
- Another simple way to make grinding more exciting is to change the dance position from the front and back.
Step 6. Don't assume that grinding is an invitation to do something else
Just because someone wants to grind with you doesn't mean they want to do anything more than that. People often come to the club for fun, not looking for a momentary relationship. However, if your partner seems interested, you can ask him out, but be prepared to accept whatever the answer is.
If your partner walks away after the song ends, don't chase him. However, be grateful that you got the chance to dance with him and start looking for a new partner
Method 2 of 2: Grinding while facing your partner
Step 1. Find someone to dance with
While you're enjoying your time on the dance floor, find someone to dance with. Making eye contact, smiling, and touching bodies are some strong signs that someone wants to dance with you. Once you find a partner, approach him and be prepared to make physical contact with him.
- If you're not sure if someone is responding to a signal, walk up to them and say "Hey, wanna dance with you?"
- Sometimes, someone may look you in the eye or nudge you by accident. If he ignores you or changes places, don't think he's selling you a fortune – he probably just isn't interested.
Step 2. Swipe your hips against your partner to the beat of the music
Once you're close to your partner, adjust your movements to match the tempo of the song. Move your hips back and forth until they touch your partner's body. Coordinate the swing of your hips and kicks, and increase and decrease the intensity of your movement according to the rhythm.
- Try grinding at different speeds to match the music playing. You can move faster when the song is fast and energetic, then move slower when the music is slower and sensual.
- Remember, grinding is a dance. So, the more your movements match the rhythm, the more fun it will be for you and your partner.
Step 3. Try to put both hands on your partner's hips
After you've danced together for a while, place your hands on the partner's hips and ask if you can do it. If he removes your hand, or forbids you from touching his body, let go of your hand. You can still dance together while moving your hands to the beat.
Do not touch any part of the body other than the hips unless permitted. You better not scare your partner yourself
Step 4. Knock your chest occasionally
Position the body facing your partner, then pull your shoulders back while leaning towards your partner. Then, pull the body position away from him. Do this a few times and see if your partner will follow suit.
- You can also combine chest nudges with waves using your upper body.
- Do your best to match your moves with your partner's.
Step 5. Practice swinging your hips so you can alternate between movements
Lean your hips to one side. When you do this, your partner will move their hips in the same direction. Keep your lower bodies together as you perform the movement, then change the direction – your partner may be leaning back and you should follow suit. You can move your body in any direction that feels comfortable, but most people will move in a clockwise direction.
This circular motion of the hips is the same as the movement you do when grinding behind your partner
Tips
- You may be rejected several times before finding someone to grind with. Don't worry – not everyone likes grinding. Make sure you respect other people's decisions and don't force anyone to do something they don't want to do.
- If you're not sure if a song is appropriate for a grinding dance accompaniment, follow what your partner is doing, or look around you to find out what other people are doing.
