Ending a romantic relationship is a difficult experience, not only for the couple experiencing it, but sometimes for those around them as well. For example, close relatives or immediate family of each party may also feel deep sadness after hearing the news. If your child recently ended their relationship with their ex-girlfriend and you are saddened by the loss of a family member, please contact your child's ex-boyfriend to express your grief. However, do so with consideration and caution! For example, try asking your child for permission first. After receiving his permission, try to express your sadness in a short, neutral letter. Interested in knowing more information? Read on for this article!
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Method 1 of 8: Ask your child for permission
Step 1. Say that you care and want to contact your child's ex-boyfriend
Give your child time to think about the request and respect whatever he decides, even if he doesn't agree to your request in the end. Remember, your child's relationship with his ex-girlfriend may or may not end on good terms, and if that's the second situation, your child's refusal is very well-founded.
- Don't force your will. Always remember that you don't know all the details about their ending, and it's possible that receiving a call or letter from you (or another relative) will only make the situation your child's ex-boyfriend even more difficult.
- If your child doesn't give his or her permission, there's no need to force yourself because it's possible that the decision will change one day. Therefore, wait at least a few months, especially when your child has calmed down, to ask for permission again. Remember, many people need time to be alone, even from their own families, to recuperate after ending a romantic relationship with their partner.
Method 2 of 8: Send a greeting card to your child's ex-boyfriend
Step 1. Sending a short, heartfelt greeting card is the perfect communication option
In particular, write positive messages of support and messages in a short letter. Doing so will allow your child's ex-boyfriend to know what's on your mind, but still have the opportunity to respond at a time he thinks is appropriate.
To avoid any awkwardness, try sending a greeting card in the mail instead of giving it yourself
Method 3 of 8: Call your child's ex-boyfriend over the phone
Step 1. In fact, this is the right method to initiate communication with your child's ex-boyfriend
In particular, choose a time when neither of you are busy, and express your feelings to him. Even if it's difficult, try not to get too emotional. In other words, don't convey your desire to see him reconnect with your child; do not mention their relationship in too much detail. Instead, just give him positive expectations and convey how happy you are to have known him.
If you've called her several times but no one picks up, understand that chances are, she's still not ready or doesn't want to talk to you. Remember, everyone deals with problems in a relationship in a different way and chances are, your child's ex-boyfriend may still need some time to heal
Method 4 of 8: Express how happy you are to have known him
Step 1. Trust me, he will be flattered if he realizes that his presence can have a positive impact on you
This is the perfect way to express your feelings through a positive perspective. Shortly after experiencing a breakup, chances are that your child's ex-boyfriend still hasn't been able to bring up the topic. To improve her mood, be as cheerful as possible and express her sincere gratitude for everything she has done for your family.
- To show your joy and gratitude, try saying, "It's a pleasure to meet you, especially since you always make our family outings more enjoyable. Thank you, yes, for everything you've done in the last few years!"
- Thank him for all the gifts he has given you. For example, you could say, "Thanks for the candle you gave me on my birthday, yes! I use that candle so often that I have to buy a new one soon."
Method 5 of 8: Express a sincere wish to improve her mood
Step 1. Express sincere wishes regarding his well-being now, as well as in the future
Regardless of the emotions your child's ex-boyfriend is feeling at the time, he or she will likely appreciate your concern. However, it's best not to go into specific details regarding your child's problems with him. Trust me, you can still convey positive expectations without bringing up the problem.
- Send positive messages, such as, "Hope you are doing well now, tomorrow, and so on!"
- No matter how much you want to confront your child's ex-boyfriend for making the wrong decision in the relationship, don't do it! Be careful, this behavior can cause new wounds or make your child's relationship with his ex-girlfriend worse.
Method 6 of 8: Say that you will miss him
Step 1. You may already be in a very close relationship with your child's ex-boyfriend
So, feel free to be sad or disappointed, even show the sadness or disappointment to him. Most importantly, make sure the outpouring of your heart is conveyed through a clear and concise message so as not to disturb the comfort of your child's ex-boyfriend, especially since he is likely to feel the same or even greater sadness.
Try saying, "I hope you know that your smile and humor will be missed at your next family dinner!"
Method 7 of 8: Just call him once
Step 1. It's best not to keep contacting him
Trust me, doing so will only make your child, even his ex-girlfriend, uncomfortable. Also, getting too involved in their decision to end the relationship is also not a wise move. Therefore, no matter how much you miss him, just call him once to show him your love and support.
If you want your child and his ex-girlfriend to rekindle their relationship, keeping in contact with them is not a wise method of achieving that goal. Remember, they both need some time alone to clear their heads and figure out what to do next
Method 8 of 8: Don't be offended if you don't receive a response from him
Step 1. Understand that most likely, your child's ex-boyfriend is going through a serious heartbreak
For many people, losing a partner is a difficult time and sometimes, a moment of solitude is all your child's ex-boyfriend needs to restore his feelings. Therefore, if your letter or phone is not answered by him, respect the decision and stop contacting him.
