Experiencing the transition from childhood or adolescence to becoming an independent adult is not easy. Although everyone has a different perspective on maturity, there are some things that need to be done so that you can become an independent person and be able to support yourself without the support of your parents or others.
Method 1 of 3: Applying the Lifestyle as an Adult
Step 1. Complete education
At the very least, you must have a high school diploma or equivalent education, but try to finish college to get an S1 or D3 degree. Thus, you are more likely to get a job according to your interests and high income. After that, you can still continue studying to get a master's or doctoral degree to increase your chances of getting the job.
Find out what activities you enjoy and then pursue them during school. Choose activities that support the achievement of life goals
Step 2. Find a job
Set aside time to look for job vacancies through websites, reputable newspapers, or people whose professions interest you to open up opportunities for income. After being accepted for work, come to the office every working day to consistently fulfill responsibilities and continue to develop yourself. This step shows that you are a responsible employee.
- When submitting a job application, write a professional official letter accompanied by a biodata that includes educational background and involvement in the organization or work experience.
- Before going through a job interview, prepare the questions you want to ask and look for information about the company.
Step 3. Have financial independence
Look for a job that provides a steady salary and the amount is large enough to pay all living expenses so you don't rely on your parents or other people to pay monthly bills, buy daily necessities, or other necessities.
- If your salary can't meet these needs, don't buy luxury items or waste money, for example, to eat at restaurants every weekend.
- Learn how to create a financial budget so that you can live financially independent.
Step 4. Purchase health, vehicle and home insurance policies
At a certain age, you need to find information about a reputable insurance company to buy a health insurance policy and pay the premium regularly. If you buy a car, house or apartment, everything must be insured.
- Insurance is very useful in reducing the use of funds in the event of an emergency.
- In certain countries, you can't buy a car or rent an apartment without paying an insurance premium.
Step 5. Find an apartment or private house
Look for information on the sale or rental of a house or apartment through websites, newspapers, or property marketing offices. Choose an affordable place to live in a location that provides a sense of security and comfort. In addition, choose a location that is close to the office or other places of activity. Make sure you can pay the price or rental fee for the property yourself without relying on other people or your boarding friend.
Remember that the quality of goods can be measured by the price. Before buying or renting a cheap property, make sure the offer is not a scam and the property is in a safe neighborhood
Step 6. Have a reliable means of transportation
Depending on the local regulations where you live, buy a vehicle or use public transportation that is economical and comfortable. Look for used vehicles at used car or motorcycle dealers, through websites, or in newspapers. In addition, you can subscribe to bus, train, or MRT tickets if you use them regularly in the long term.
If you want to use public transportation to work, ask your employer about whether there is a transport allowance for employees. Some companies provide transportation allowances as a facility for employees
Step 7. Plan a trip out of town or abroad
Save money and make plans to travel to places you've never been to so you can have new experiences, meet new friends, and see a different way of life.
Step 8. Forge healthy and lasting relationships
Make a commitment to a lasting friendship or love relationship with someone who is mature, responsible, and kind to you. Don't waste time with unfaithful people. Break up with people who are a bad influence on you.
Remember that a relationship with someone doesn't always work out. If a friend or lover is behaving negatively, break up so you don't feel overwhelmed
Step 9. Take responsibility for your decisions
Remember that every action has a consequence and you are able to control the outcome through your words and actions. Realize that good and bad actions and their consequences are your own choice.
- For example, if you want to be accepted into a top university, be the top student in high school.
- Another example, if you have yelled at your boss at the office, you can't ask him to be a reference to apply for a job that is in great demand.
Method 2 of 3: Taking Responsible Action
Step 1. Always try to arrive on time
Prove that you are able to take responsibility and respect others by fulfilling your promise when you promise to come and make sure you arrive on time.
Step 2. Use money wisely
Make a budget for drinking coffee, buying clothes and food, or daily necessities and then applying it consistently. Allocate a certain amount of funds to save and don't use it to buy daily necessities.
For example, invest money by depositing a retirement fund or buying stocks using a broker or mobile application
Step 3. Pay off monthly bills, insurance premiums, and debts on each due date
So that you don't forget and it's easier to pay your regular bills on time, use automatic debit facilities, reminders via email or short messages, and other methods. Pay off credit card bills and mortgage installments to avoid interest and penalties.
If you don't want to use automatic debit, make it a habit to check your bill balance once a week or once a month and pay it off
Step 4. Get in the habit of tidying up the things you have
Store and arrange items in your apartment or house neatly so that they are ready for use so that you can be a person who is always on time, looks attractive, and is responsible. Buy boxes or cabinets to store things so they don't fall apart and are easy to find when needed.
- Use coat hangers to store jackets, dresses, trousers, skirts, shirts, and blouses.
- Fold it up and put it in a drawer if you want to store jeans, T-shirts, underwear, socks and sweaters.
Method 3 of 3: Changing Your Mindset
Step 1. Leave the childish nature of childhood
Do a reflection to find out whether there are the following trends. If there is, try to change it by motivating yourself, mentally training, or going to therapy.
- sulking, whining, or complaining
- Manipulating others to gain sympathy
- Constantly asking for directions from others
- Acting arbitrarily or irresponsibly
- Procrastination, work carelessly, and often late
- Driving recklessly or acting without thinking about the health and safety of others.
Step 2. Make your own decisions
Decide for yourself the things that play an important role in your life, such as choosing a university, job, life partner, or purpose in life because these choices benefit you and make you feel happy, rather than being forced by your parents, friends, or other people.
- You may seek advice from others, but you must make the decision himself.
- For example, ask a friend to recommend a doctor you can rely on, but you have to decide for yourself which doctor you want to see, instead of asking your friend to decide.
Step 3. Prioritize the things you are interested in
Take time to enjoy what you really enjoy and make you happy. If you like bands that your friends think are old-fashioned or old-fashioned, enjoy the songs without giving excuses or saying you like them in a humorous, ironic tone.
Don't pretend you like something because you're in on it. If you're not a fan of a certain band, you don't have to listen to the song
Step 4. Respect authority figures without expecting support
Do not oppose or be mean to elders or superiors. Listen to what he has to say with respect for him. Remember that being an adult doesn't mean you don't have to listen to what other people have to say. Also, don't do anything to gain approval from your seniors, superiors, or people in authority.
For example, if your boss asks you to complete a report, submit the report on time. Do not seek approval from superiors if the report has not been completed
Step 5. Be prepared to accept constructive criticism
First, listen carefully to what other people have to say about you or your work performance. Then, consider the feedback you received or declined and any helpful suggestions. Finally, respond in a mature manner, ask questions, show concern, and say thank you.
Respond to criticism with wisdom. If the situation seems to be getting worse, don't respond
Step 6. Make a plan and then try to make it happen
Set realistic short-term goals (example: "meet a new friend this week" or "eat at a new restaurant next week") and long-term goals (example: "become a chef at a 5-star restaurant" or "save to buy a house"). Write down the goals you want to achieve so you can remember them. Give yourself a reward every time a target is reached.
- Targets may be adjusted or changed if they turn out to be unrealistic.
- Set self-improvement targets to get rid of bad habits or addictions.
Step 7. Don't blame others if you do something wrong
When you experience failure, admit mistakes. Do not blame other people or the environment for the problems that occur. Instead, admit your mistakes without feeling ashamed and use this experience to improve yourself.
- Admit that you are guilty
- Fix errors
- Think of ways to prevent the error from happening again
- Make up a mantra or phrase and then silently say something to overcome your shyness, for example, "The problem is solved and won't happen again."