Having a happy family and a brilliant career is everyone's dream. In order to have both, you must be able to find a balance between work and family life, by setting priorities, making plans, and making the most of your time.
Method 1 of 4: Have the Right Mindset
Step 1. Determine the things that you consider important
Ask yourself which is more important, work or family? Since both are equally important, determine how you will divide your time and fulfill commitments in a balanced way.
Have the right perspective. Sometimes, change occurs simply by adjusting the perspective. Start setting priorities. Prioritize the welfare of the family, instead of just trying to make ends meet. Make plans for a vacation with your family. Surprise loved ones. Spend time with your family taking the kids swimming and when you are in the office, do your best with all your heart
Step 2. Determine the goals you want to achieve in your career
You certainly don't want to work without getting a promotion, do you? Think of realistic goals that you can achieve at work. Work success will improve family welfare. Therefore, you need to determine short-term and long-term goals in your career.
- Set short-term goals. What do you want to achieve next month? Do you want to increase efficiency in your department? Use new ways to solve problems. The slightest problem is worth considering if it has an impact on efficiency. Make small changes in the work environment. Tell others the goals you want to achieve. Company leaders value employees who are willing to take the initiative and take responsibility.
- Set long-term goals. While it may take several years to achieve, long-term goals can be a source of motivation so you can make the most of your work time. Do you want to improve your professional skills? Do you want to be promoted? Think about the conditions you want in the next 5 years. If you can't find the answer through your current job, consider other ways to reach your goal.
Step 3. Also set personal goals
Personal goals affect work life positively. Try to develop yourself by learning new things, including gaining knowledge that is not related to work. This way, you will be able to think of a better way of working because regular study improves your brain's ability to apply new knowledge as you perform daily tasks.
- Also think about long-term goals for your personal life. Do you want to start a family, have children, or move places? Think about the things that you consider important for your personal life and then determine the work that supports the achievement of these goals.
- Setting short-term goals for personal life is also important. For example, making plans to take the kids to see a movie on the weekends, or being more involved in everyday life at home, such as making plans to clean up before Eid or Christmas with the family.
Method 2 of 4: Making a Careful Plan
Step 1. Choose the right field of work
The tasks you have to do at work can affect the balance between work and family life. Working in a field you love makes it easier for you to maintain a balance in your life.
- Choose a profession that makes you feel happy. Every job has its own difficulties and deadlines. If the work you achieve feels satisfying or you just feel proud because you did a good job, this will make you more enthusiastic when working.
- Explore the possibility of changing jobs. There are jobs and bosses that are too demanding. Consider whether you need to find another job if your salary isn't adequate or your current job is too time-consuming for you to be able to spend time with your family.
Step 2. Think of a balance between work and family before getting married
In addition to considering the effect your work has on your family, you should also consider the effect your family has on your ability to get work done.
Decide who should work after you get married. Do husbands and wives have to work? What impact did the decision have financially and personally? If husband and wife worked, would you like to have children? How many people? Is there a reliable family member to take care of the children?
Step 3. Think carefully about the long-term commitments you have to fulfill
Sometimes, finding a balance between work and family is more than just providing a balance between family and work. Answer the following questions:
- Do you want to be a member of a certain community? Want to volunteer and still have time to do activities outside of working hours?
- How about your hobby? Can you still do the things you love after coming home from work?
- Does your job require other commitments in terms of time? How far do you have to go? Home far from work will take time to travel. In addition, there are vehicle maintenance costs. Maybe you need to find a house closer to work.
Method 3 of 4: Making the Most of Your Time
Step 1. Make a schedule
Use an agenda at work and at home. Doing multiple tasks at the same time can sometimes overwhelm you. Make a to-do list by priority. Complete the most difficult or most important tasks in the morning. After that, do the other easier tasks one by one.
Do not discard notes or remove completed tasks from the agenda. Many psychologists recommend that you keep a list of completed tasks to remind you that you are a productive person
Step 2. Keep a journal by recording work activities
Before leaving work, write down the tasks you have to do tomorrow and what your plans are to do well. This will make it easier for you to carry on with tasks when you arrive at work and feel more comfortable if you have unfinished tasks.
Step 3. Separate professional and personal life
This rule is very important, but it is often ignored or violated. Sometimes, your boss forces you to break the division of time for work and for your family because you have to meet a deadline and have to work from home.
- Apply the following rules as best you can. If you have to complete office tasks at home, use as little time as possible by allocating a few hours/day or specific days. For example, if you have decided to do your homework every Monday night, don't use another day to work.
- Don't go straight to work when you get home. The first thing you should do after work is pay attention to family members, for example by asking how your partner is going through the day, talking to the kids, or helping them study. You can think about office work after giving your family the attention it needs.
- If you have a home office, make a work schedule. Decide when you need to stop working. Prepare a certain room in the house that is used as an office.
Step 4. Put your family first while you're at home
Don't start working right back when you get home. The first thing you should do is take care of your family. Ask your partner's daily life. If there are children, accompany them, invite them to play, and help them with their homework. Once you have provided for your family, you may return to work.
Step 5. Limit your reading time
Email is a double-edged sword that speeds up communication within a company, but can reduce work productivity if it takes up too much time. Get in the habit of checking email only at certain times, for example in the morning, after lunch, and before going home. This way, you can read important emails and send timely replies.
Method 4 of 4: Taking Care of Yourself
Step 1. Ask friends and family members for help
Don't carry all the burdens you face alone. Tell a friend or family member that you are feeling stressed because you are having problems at work. Maybe they want to hear you talk so that you feel more relieved. Everyone needs support.
If you feel you have too many tasks and responsibilities, your friends or family may be able to help reduce the burden. For example, ask your parents to take care of the kids for a while at home while you spend some time alone with your partner
Step 2. Give yourself some time
Being an employee and a family member is sometimes very tiring. You need to relax, for example by listening to soft music, taking a leisurely walk, or watching a movie. Release the tension so that you return to calm and relax. Enjoy some alone time so that the most important thing you need to think about is yourself.
Step 3. Nurture your relationship with your family
Whenever possible, set aside time for those who are most important to you. For example, if you are married, make plans to date your partner once a week or once a month.
Try spending time individually or in groups with your family. For example, if you have children, invite them to do something with the whole family. However, on the other hand, also make time to spend time alone with each child
Step 4. Prioritize a good night's sleep
Maybe you have to meet a deadline or have a lot of work to do. If there is a lack of sleep, the brain cannot function properly to complete all these tasks. Get in the habit of getting 8 hours of good sleep every night.
Step 5. Eat a healthy diet
When you want to get home quickly, it may be easier to buy fast food. Choose a healthy diet because nutritious foods provide more of the energy you need to maintain balance.
Step 6. Exercise regularly
Take the time to take care of yourself by exercising, for example: walking, cycling, or swimming. When you exercise, your brain will continue to work to solve the problems you face at work or at home so you can find solutions. This will make you appreciate yourself more and feel better. These benefits make it easier for you to balance work and family life.