When we do wrong things, we will feel guilty, even if we are not arrested or punished. Feelings that weigh us down because of our mistakes will depress our conscience, continue to plague us with lingering feelings of guilt and remove happiness from our lives. Fortunately, there is a way out of this humiliating burden. To begin the journey to recovery, we must admit all the mistakes we have made. This will open the door to forgiveness and forgiveness. Notes:
This article will explain in detail the steps that are commonly carried out without being related to a particular religion. If you want information on how to confess in the Catholic church, you can read the wikiHow article on how to confess properly in the Catholic church.
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Method 1 of 2: Admitting Your Mistakes
Step 1. Set up a meeting with the person (or people) who have been affected by your mistake
Confession should be done in private, in an open conversation between you and the person affected by your actions. Don't invite people you don't need – because this kind of gathering should be done with humility, and not an opportunity to put on a show in front of a large crowd. Hold a small private meeting and you can say in person why you invited him to meet. There's nothing wrong with saying, "I want to make a confession. When can we meet?"
Keep your privacy. Expressing a confession, unfortunately, can stir emotions. Do not let you or the person who will listen to your confession be embarrassed because of your actions, for example because you did it in a restaurant that was full of guests
Step 2. Be prepared to do it wholeheartedly and sincerely
In life, we often try to show a certain appearance and instill a certain self-image that reflects how we want to be seen by others. Expressing a confession is not the time to worry about things like this. Realize that a sincere confession will reveal who "you" really are. You won't be able to make a good confession if you take the wrong position by thinking that you are superior. This will only expose your own flaws, making it more difficult to build an open conversation with each other. It will appear that you are not being sincere if you continue to be "cold" or keep your distance. Get rid of all the pretense you usually keep.
- This is an example of an insincere-sounding confession: "Hi, Frank, I broke your trumpet. Sorry! I don't think I know my own power!" Confessions like these don't stem from genuine remorse – by trying to keep a good mood, the person speaking is sacrificing the honesty of his confession. It would be better if it went something like this: "Hi, Frank. This is bad news. I accidentally damaged your trumpet. I'm really sorry. I know this trumpet is very valuable to you."
- We try to maintain appearance not only when we meet other people. Often we lie to ourselves about what our real motivations are. Try to be open and honest with the thoughts within yourself – why do you do bad things? Don't make excuses to justify yourself if there aren't any.
Step 3. Admit mistakes
This is the most important purpose of your confession – to reveal what you did wrong. Just go ahead and don't get too excited. Tell the people you've met with that you've made a mistake that offended them. Tell them that you feel guilty for what you have done and that you want them to forgive you. Tell them calmly and clearly what you did, how you hurt them, and why you're sorry.
- Don't talk in circles. If you want to admit to your friend that you've said something unpleasant behind his back, don't try to divert the conversation, for example, by discussing how bad the behavior of one of the characters in Mean Girls was. Instead, say, "I was upset that you didn't take me camping, so I told Jen you hated her. I'm really sorry. How petty I was to ruin your friendship."
- Be prepared to accept their anger or sadness. If you really hurt someone, don't be surprised if they respond to your confession by getting angry, crying, or screaming. The emotions that follow a confession can be very painful. Even if things are really bad as long as you confess, know that by admitting you were wrong, you can make things better later on than if you kept this person ignorant of what really happened.
Step 4. Correct any erroneous information or misunderstandings
"Confession" implies that what you know about your wrongdoing is a secret. So when you make your confession, you should also explain the truth behind your mistake, especially if you have lied about what happened before. This matter very important if someone else is to blame for your mistakes or wrong actions. You have an obligation to explain it to everyone involved to make sure they know the truth, even if the truth hurts.
For example, if you have been silent when your classmate was blamed for your planned farewell party, you should explain what actually happened when you confessed to the principal to acquit the innocent party (your classmate) and ensure that guilty (you) receive fair treatment
Step 5. Be humble
By confessing to someone, we are actually lowering ourselves in front of them. So this is not the time to be stubborn or arrogant when it comes to confessing. It is not necessary for us to act in order to appear noble or kind. Don't forgive yourself if you don't deserve it. Don't use confession as an opportunity to subtly elevate yourself or put down someone who has been a victim of your wrongdoing. Admit your mistakes with humility.
Never blame your victim when you make a confession. If you ever "borrowed" a little money from someone's wallet, don't say excuses like "Sorry I took your money, but I did it because you wouldn't buy me the shoes I like."
Step 6. Ask for forgiveness
Be humble and forthright. A sentence like "I'm really, really sorry. I hope you'll forgive me" would be better. What you expect from a confession is to ensure that you get forgiveness from the heart of the person(s) you have offended. This will be a solution for you and give you peace in your heart. That way you too can move on with your life because by the time you're forgiven, you know you've "finished" the confessional process. Once you've been forgiven, there's no point in continuing to feel guilty, so try to move on with your life.
Unfortunately, in some cases, the people you have hurt may not want to forgive you. If you hurt someone repeatedly or you've made a terrible mistake, they may not be willing to forgive you. In these circumstances, it's not enough to simply say you're sorry–but show them that you're truly sorry by changing your behavior
Step 7. Ask for advice
You have confessed and (hopefully) forgiven. What will you do next? As a first step you should ask for advice on what to do. For example, people you have hurt in the past may tell you what they want. They may ask you to confess to certain people. And they may turn out to say that your relationship has changed. If you've ever done something very hurtful, your relationships with people you've hurt may be subject to new rules or boundaries. For example, if you use your access to sensitive information about someone just to spread gossip, you will no longer be trusted to keep secrets. Respect these new boundaries to show that you are truly sorry so that you can gain trust again.
Remember that an acknowledgment doesn't mean "everything is all right." Never go back to your old behavior. A confession is not just to get forgiveness, but rather for self-improvement and the next life journey that is free from bad deeds, and should never be repeated again
Step 8. Admit to the authorities for serious wrongdoing
If someone has made a mistake with the consequences are you serious, for example, having committed a murder, the person must first confess it to a law enforcement agency or other competent authority. Willingness to cooperate with the authorities will be very beneficial – because this attitude can be considered to reduce detention periods.
Don't try to fool the judge or police officer because you don't want to admit guilt. This is a criminal act. A person who lies will only receive a heavier punishment
Method 2 of 2: Expressing Recognition in a Relationship
Step 1. Frame your confession as a loving act
It can be very, very difficult to confess to someone if you are in a relationship with them. No one intends to hurt or disappoint their loved ones. Unfortunately, when you make a confession, you are hurting the person you love. They just don't know that they are actually being hurt. Confessions associated with being in a loving relationship can be very difficult and painful, so if you're in doubt, give yourself the courage to make this confession thinking that you're admitting it as something you did out of love. You want to prove that you love your partner by telling the truth, even if this truth will hurt their view of you.
There is a saying, don't use your love as an excuse to justify your actions. "I'm keeping this information from you because I love you" can never justify what you did. When you are not honest with your partner, you are actually hurting him. Point
Step 2. Describe what you have done
In a relationship, it's even more important to let your partner know that you actually hurt them. Because you (seem) still care about your partner, there is a tendency not to offend your partner by lying about what you've done so that your mistakes seem less serious than they really are or appear to be unintentional. Don't do this. Your partner deserves to know the truth, even if the truth will hurt. This will also prevent a breakup in the future, if your lies are exposed in the end. Be honest and tell all your mistake.
- While you need to be prepared to explain what you've done, which may have been due to unfaithfulness, you should be honest about who was involved and where it happened, but you don't need to go into detail about what happened except if requested – this kind of information can sound very hurtful to your partner.
- Consider that a confession about a love relationship is a confession that is very difficult for you to convey to your partner. You will not be able to have a healthy and thriving relationship if each partner has a different view of what is going on in your relationship.
Step 3. You must apologize for breaking your partner's trust
There must be a reason why we say that "trust is the foundation of a relationship." It is impossible to have a relationship without trust. We cannot spy on our partners 24 hours a day 7 days a week, therefore we must be able to trust their honesty about what they do and say. We also trust our partners to be willing to share their feelings openly. If you hide your actions or feelings from your partner, you make your partner can no longer trust you. Over time, a sincere apology can help you regain this trust.
Step 4. You must apologize for ruining the relationship between the two of you
In addition to having to apologize for breaking your partner's trust, you should also take the time to apologize because in reality you've reduced the happiness, which was built together, only to cause severe emotional problems at stake.
The moments after confession can be tense and awkward for both of you. It can even be marked by a deep sadness, depending on the magnitude of your mistake. While you're apologizing for ruining the relationship, it's wise to also apologize because your confession will create difficult times in the future
Step 5. Accept the consequences of your actions
Admitting your mistakes is always better because this is an honest act than keeping your actions a secret. However, a confession can change a relationship. This can change the way your partner and you see each other. It can also change the amount of mutual trust between the two of you. In more severe cases, your relationship may even be damaged beyond repair. Accept the changes that are taking place in your relationship. Confession can pave the way to recovery and give you the opportunity to start letting go of your mistakes, but this no free you from the consequences that arise as a result of the actions you have taken.
