Before separating from society, be clear about your reasons. You must cut off contact with other people, including your loved ones, and stop using the services available to contemporary society. All of these things are not easy. Consider carefully whether this action will bring you the result you want. After that, you can cut off communication and social relationships and start depending on yourself.
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Part 1 of 7: Pondering the Reason
Step 1. Determine whether you are grounding in political or environmental factors
There are people who want to cut ties with society for political or environmental reasons. This disconnection, for example, is carried out in the form of staying outside various modern service networks. This is one way to cut ties with society. People who take this path break their dependence on the various urban and social services that modern society enjoys, such as water, electricity, signal and telephone networks, and waste transportation.
Most people who live outside such networks are usually affected by the bad excesses of consumerism and exploitation of the environment
Step 2. Think about whether you have depression or an anxiety disorder
There are also people who want to leave society because of depression or social anxiety disorder. Depression or feelings of loneliness can make people isolate themselves from others.
- Research shows that social isolation can be bad for your health. Social isolation can disrupt the immune system and exacerbate existing health problems. These two symptoms are early signs of diabetes as well as a heart attack.
- If you think that the reason for the breakup was feelings of loneliness or loneliness, contact a doctor or psychologist.
Step 3. Consider whether you are escaping the law
Another reason people want to disconnect from society is that they want to escape the law. Running away from the police is highly discouraged. If you are a fugitive, or have committed a crime, it is better to report yourself to the local police station.
If you feel slandered, find a lawyer and challenge it in court. Most likely at first you still have to report to the police
Step 4. Find out if you want to break away from your daily routine
There are also people who want to break away from society for a more mundane reason, namely wanting to escape from their daily routine. Now working from home is easier than in the past.
Step 5. Recognize that humans are social creatures
When you consider the reasons for breaking up with society, you need to understand that humans are inherently social creatures. Social relations and connections with other people are beneficial for humans, from the point of view of physical and psychological health.
Part 2 of 7: Setting Boundaries
Step 1. Decide how far you want to cut ties with the community
Do you want to disconnect from your family, friends, business associates, or all of them? If you have a profession or career that requires you to go outside, it can be difficult to completely disconnect from society. You will at least need to interact with your coworkers.
Step 2. Define your limits
In this disconnection, are there any exceptions? Who are the people you can interact with? Think of situations that will require you to reconnect with society.
Step 3. Consider how long this disconnection will last
If your life is difficult right now, cutting off ties with society may seem like fun. However, you should still think about the long-term aspects of this plan. How long do you want to disconnect: a week, a month, or longer?
The actions you can perform next depend on this duration. For example, if you are going away for a year, you will need to move house to a distant place
Part 3 of 7: Stopping Communication
Step 1. Get rid of your cell phone
Today's technology such as cell phones and computers can track locations automatically without the user's knowledge. If you want to disconnect your prepaid cell phone, throw away or cut your SIM card. If postpaid, please contact your communication service provider (eg Telkomsel or Indosat) to request termination of service.
There are models of cell phone service that use contracts. You may have to pay a fine if the contract is terminated prematurely
Step 2. Remove yourself from social media
Close the username you use on all social media, such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest, and all other programs and apps that generate social interaction.
Step 3. Turn off your e-mail
Most email service providers provide a way to stop using their service. That way, you won't get extra emails in your inbox that you don't use anymore. If you think you want to reuse that email address, just log out, then don't log back in. However, keep in mind that various emails will continue to come to that address.
Step 4. Consider disconnecting your internet service
When you use the internet, you send and receive information via an internet protocol (IP) address. This IP address is associated with your router (router). This information can be used to track your activities on the internet. If you want to completely disconnect from society, you need to consider that you can still be tracked through various activities on the internet.
Step 5. Stop watching television or reading the newspaper
You don't have to bother with the latest news or TV shows. If you want to completely disconnect from society, stop figuring out what's going on.
Step 6. Stop talking or communicating with everyone
Communication must be kept to a minimum. Any interaction including talking, sending emails/SMS/messages, or sign language, must stop.
If you like going to a cafe or restaurant, order what you want and then spend less time interacting. Don't chat or make small talk with shopkeepers or waiters. Don't talk to other people while waiting for the bus or train
Part 4 of 7: Ending Relationships with Others
Step 1. Cut off contact with people you normally see
In general, there will be people you have to meet in your daily life, such as co-workers, cafe waiters, postmen, or neighbors. End your relationship with these people by stopping talking to them.
- Don't pick up the phone and avoid interacting with guests visiting your home.
- Complete isolation may be difficult if you still need to go to the office and communicate with coworkers and supervisors.
- On the other hand, it will be easier if you live alone. You can make your home a kind of temple where you isolate yourself.
Step 2. Stop hanging out with your friends
Remove yourself from the circle of friends by not hanging out with them anymore. There are four approaches, namely:
- Cruel. Tell them that you don't want to be in touch anymore. Most likely, you will be viewed as mean and rude.
- Honest. Let them know that you are in the process of cutting ties with the community. It is very likely that they will try to reject your decision.
- Dodge. It's easy, you just stop talking to your friends. Don't pick up the phone from them and avoid eye contact when they talk to you.
- Passive. Turn down invitations to go out until they get tired of asking you out.
- Breaking up with negative people is a healthy behavior. Such people can limit your development and destabilize you. Take care of yourself, avoid contact with people like this.
Step 3. Explain your intentions and reasons to your loved ones
Of course you can decide whether or not to tell the people you are leaving. However, if you are currently in a relationship, your partner may feel sad, angry, or confused about your decision. Usually, you are the one who needs to explain your reasons to your partner.
Be kind to the people you love. For parents, children who suddenly break up are very painful. They may experience feelings similar to those associated with the death of a child
Step 4. Don't abandon your responsibilities
If you have dependents, such as children, it is better for you to stay in touch with the community. You need to provide good, stable and healthy affection for your children.
If you have children who still need to be held accountable, then this is not the time to cut ties with society
Part 5 of 7: Finishing Unfinished Business
Step 1. Pay off your debts
If you don't want to be in touch with the outside world anymore, you need to eliminate the reasons why people contact you. You need to pay off your debts so people don't come to collect them.
Step 2. Determine if you still need postal services
You may still need to receive mail for important notifications or unexpected communications. You can also receive your various needs by post.
If you want to stay off the grid, rent a P. O. Box in the nearest town. You can check this box regularly without needing to get in touch with anyone else
Step 3. Leave emergency contacts
You may still need to leave at least one contact person as an emergency contact. This person will probably check on you regularly. It's a good idea to talk to this person in case of an emergency.
Tell this person about your choice
Part 6 of 7: Disconnecting from the Network
Step 1. Find a place with sufficient resources
You will break away from contemporary society. You will need to defend yourself against danger, gather food and water, and build your own home. You will not have access to various services that exist in ordinary society. Look for a place that provides sufficient resources. You need a supply of food, water, and shelter.
- You can buy or build a wooden house yourself.
- Better, choose a location that is only a few hours drive from a gas station or convenience store. Keep in mind that your new home may not have a hospital or clinic, and that means you will have no medical access.
Step 2. Provide electricity
Since you are not drawing electricity from the existing grid, you will need to provide your own electricity. You can use solar power or water turbines to power lights, refrigerators, washing machines, musical instruments, and other machines.
- If you can afford it, buy more solar panels than you need. Even if your goal is to reduce your electricity consumption, there may also be other things you want to do.
- Purchase a rechargeable battery or battery. Make sure the battery is never less than 50% so that you always have enough electricity.
Step 3. Provide clean water
Most likely you are not using a PAM network. To get water, you need to dig a well. Depending on where you live, you may need prior permission from the local government. However, make sure that the well is no less than 15 meters from the nearest septic tank, swamp, or contamination area.
- Use a water purity tester. This tool can determine water quality and safety level. You can buy tools like this at home improvement stores.
- Filter your water so it doesn't become a source of disease. If your water is too high in mineral content, you will have an upset stomach.
Step 4. Prepare medical supplies
If your chosen location is so far from civilization and the nearest hospital is a few hours' walk away, you will need to learn a variety of simple medical procedures.
Prepare a special box of medical equipment containing bandages, antibiotics, penicillin, needles and threads for sewing the skin, as well as various other necessities
Step 5. Garden
While you can have food delivered to your location, you also need to provide food for yourself. Build a big garden with various kinds of vegetables.
- Learn about different types of plants and when the season is right for them. That way, you will always have fresh food in your garden.
- If your chosen location experiences winter, you will need to store food throughout the winter. The types of vegetables that you can store long-term in the cold are tubers such as potatoes, onions, or carrots.
Step 6. Livestock
If you have cows and goats, both sexes of course, you now have meat and milk (depending on race). Chicken and duck can be a source of meat and eggs.
Step 7. Consider whether you need financial income
If your savings are large, you can live on your own without having to work. But if your savings are not large, you may still need to find money. Consider the various livelihoods available. For example, you can sell vegetables or art at the market.
If you live off the grid, your internet access may be limited or non-existent. Working remotely has become difficult
Part 7 of 7: Dealing with Loneliness
Step 1. Let go of your loneliness
If you start to feel lonely after breaking up with the community, don't let that feeling go. Express your feelings through creative means such as writing, painting, dancing, or singing.
Step 2. Adopt a pet
Research shows that pets can make you happy again and improve your health. People with pets usually have lower blood pressure and heart attack indicators (such as triglycerides and cholesterol). Your feeling of loneliness will be reduced.
Step 3. Take up a hobby
Keep your mind busy with various hobbies that stimulate the brain. Hobbies can also improve focus and concentration. Find a hobby that you enjoy, such as sewing, playing music, farming, or wood carving.
Step 4. Practice solo exercise
Living alone doesn't mean just sitting at home doing nothing. You need to exercise. Do solo exercises such as biking, hiking, running, or yoga.
Step 5. Go on an adventure
Once you've cut ties with friends and family, you can do whatever you want. Go mountain biking, cross-country biking, or canoe on the river. Enjoy your solitude by going on an adventure.
