One of the most common reasons why employees quit their jobs is because their bosses are less than pleasant. If you feel the same way, you may need to change the way you relate to your boss, or find out what steps you should take in the future to deal with situations like this. If you know how to stay calm if you find yourself in this situation, then in the future you will continue to be able to deal with your unpleasant boss well.
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Part 1 of 3: Repairing Your Relationship
Step 1. Talk to your boss about this
If you feel uncomfortable with the attitude of your boss in your current workplace, one thing you can do is to discuss it directly with your boss. If you really want to improve your relationship with your boss, try to take the time to talk to him one-on-one about how you feel about him.
- Make sure you focus on talking about your difficulties working well with your boss, not about your dislike of other aspects of your boss. Tell me about your difficulties in communicating with your boss which makes it difficult for you to work. Make your conversation with the boss as if you want to bring the company where you work to be more successful, which requires good cooperation between employees and superiors.
- It is very important to guard your speech. Avoid direct judgments on the character of your boss, and stay focused on talking about work.
- Make sure you choose the right time to talk one-on-one with your boss. Choose a time when your boss doesn't appear to have any problems.
Step 2. Work with your boss instead of fighting him
If you really want to change your relationship with your boss, then all you have to do is try to work with him to make the company you work for, not against your boss. Although you feel happy when you can embarrass your boss, it will never be able to improve your relationship with your boss. In addition, making your relationship with your boss worse will also make it difficult to complete your work, and in the end you will not get anything.
Help your boss to achieve his goals by providing him with support. Although it is difficult to do, but you will get the benefits for yourself later
Step 3. Make a recording or note of every conversation you have
Recording or recording every conversation you have with your boss, be it an email or a memo, will help you if you get into trouble with your boss. There are two reasons why you should do this. First, having a record or record of what your boss is talking to you will help you in the future if your boss gives you complicated instructions about the work you need to do, or when your boss denies that he or she has said this, then the recording or notes that you have you can make evidence to him. Second, having a record or record of what your boss said will help when you tell your supervisor/supervisor about your relationship problems with your boss. In other words, you have a good reason for your boss's behavior.
- If you're having trouble keeping records or notes of your conversation with your boss, try to make sure that your conversation is witnessed by someone else, so you'll have evidence if your boss denies it.
- Create a document that you feel is relevant to your employer. You can buy an agenda book to keep track of all the dates of events that you find odd about your boss's behavior. Keep your agenda book confidential. You certainly don't want your boss to know what you wrote in your agenda book, because that will make him even more angry with you. You need to remember that you are doing this for your own good.
Step 4. Anticipate problems before they come
Another way that you can do to improve your relationship with your boss is to anticipate if you smell something bad will happen, so that then if it does happen you have a way of how to deal with it. If you notice a problem before your boss does, try to buy some time until the boss forgets about the problem. If your boss is still angry after you try to stall for time, try to give him some space, where you are better off keeping quiet and avoiding getting into arguments with him.
If you find that your boss is having a hard time doing his job, then try to help him if you can
Part 2 of 3: Keeping the Right Mindset
Step 1. Retain emotions when discussing with your boss
Even if your boss is emotional, try to maintain your professionalism so that your boss later finds it difficult to fight you. Maybe your boss will feel annoyed and turn into an annoying person when you show your calm and professionalism. However, try to keep it that way. Because if you lose control of yourself, your boss will be angrier and blame you more for what happened.
- If you feel like you can't control yourself while you're having a conversation with your boss, try asking permission to continue the conversation at a later time.
- If you feel that your voice is getting louder, stop, then take a deep breath. If you are unable to continue the conversation in a normal tone, then you should continue at another time.
Step 2. Be prepared to deal with criticism when you confront your boss
Of course you want to talk to your boss in person, but when he feels that you are criticizing him, he may end up criticizing you in the end. If this happens, try to stay calm, and show your professionalism. Listen carefully to what he has to say, then tell him that you value his judgment of you and that you will do the job according to his wishes. Don't try to hold on or ignore everything he says.
- To be better, make sure you don't have any problems at your workplace before you talk to your boss. You may subconsciously have issues with your boss that you are not aware of. That's why it's important to anticipate what your boss will say about you before you start talking to him or her, otherwise it will backfire on you.
- Don't interrupt your boss while he's talking, as that will make him think you're not listening to him.
Step 3. Understand that you cannot change your boss
If you have an unpleasant boss, then it's not just a problem for you, but for everyone as well. However, you will never be able to change the personality of your boss. However, maybe having a good talk with him will slightly change the way he views his employees, including you. So, you can change the relationship with your boss without changing his personality.
You and your boss may have different views. If this happens, try to change your perspective to be able to work with him. Sometimes, you have to accept differences before you move forward.
Step 4. Remain calm when dealing with your boss even if it upsets you
Keep yourself calm when your boss is talking to you. do not use sentences that can offend your boss. Remember that you have a professional relationship with him,. So even if your boss is acting unprofessional in this matter, try to keep your professionalism up.
If you have something specific that you want to talk to your boss about, maybe you should write it down and practice first to make sure everything goes according to your plan
Step 5. Don't try to report your boss to his boss if you can't deal with it
Not only will this create animosity between you and your boss, but it may also disrupt your career. You can do this if you have tried various ways but nothing works. You can report your boss to his or her boss if he/she acts inappropriately, discriminates, or does anything else that you think is outrageous.
If you immediately report your boss to his boss at the time of the initial conflict, it will disrupt your relationship with your boss. Talk directly to your boss before you talk to anyone else to save the relationship between you and your boss
Part 3 of 3: Taking the Next Step
Step 1. Talk to your supervisor if necessary
If you feel you have done everything about your boss, maybe you can discuss the problem you have with your boss with your supervisor. Don't be nervous about discussing this with your supervisor. Also, don't let your emotions out when you talk to your supervisor to get his or her attention.
Make sure you use professional language when you discuss your boss with your supervisor. You certainly don't want your supervisor to lose confidence in you
Step 2. Take action if you have been discriminated against
If you feel you are being discriminated against by your boss, whether it's about age, race, gender, or other things that you can't control yourself, then maybe you should take serious action. You can contact the relevant agency that can protect your rights as an employee to resolve this issue. Don't be afraid to talk about everything you're going through.
If you see an action that is not good but your company does not take a step forward, maybe you can take steps yourself to save you and your company
Step 3. See if you can move to another part of your company
One option as your last resort may be to quit your workplace. However, try to consult first whether you can move to another department before you decide to actually quit your job because you don't like the attitude of your boss.
Of course it all depends on your workplace and yourself. Try to check if you really have done your job well and make sure the company you work for has accepted it well before you take the next step
Step 4. Decide whether or not it is appropriate to leave your workplace
You may still be able to get another job elsewhere that matches your abilities. But before that, try to ask yourself whether it is appropriate or not. If you feel that your current workplace is torturing you both physically and mentally, it may be time for you to quit. But maybe there are other ways you can stay in the company.
- If your boss behaves inappropriately, discriminates or does other inappropriate things, then there is no other option for this, namely: you have to quit.
- Ideally, you should look for work elsewhere while you try to improve your situation at your current workplace.
Step 5. Make sure you do some further review before you take the opportunity to work elsewhere
You certainly don't want to be stuck in this situation again at your new job. Therefore, do a further review of your new workplace before you decide. You certainly don't want your new workplace to be the same or even worse than your current one.
- As a new employee, you may have to ask the old employee before you start actually working about the employee relationship situation with your boss at your new workplace. This is to ensure that everything matches what you expect.
- Even if you feel good about leaving your boss at your previous job just because he or she isn't nice to you. remember to always ask yourself if it's worth it to you.
