You've probably been nervous about holding a girl's hand, whether it's your boyfriend wanting to hang out more often or when you want to get close to your crush. Whatever your reason for holding a girl's hand, the first thing you have to do is stay calm. After that, you have to get closer to him and gently hold his hand. Holding hands is a great way to show interest and isn't that hard to do. If you want to know, read on from step one.
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Part 1 of 3: Starting the Approach
Step 1. Make him feel special
When you see a girl, say 'hi', make eye contact, give her a wave, and start talking to her. If this is your first time holding hands, then you're both probably feeling equally nervous, so it's important to both calm down first. While holding hands is normal, it has its own level of intimacy, so you should have a strong instinct to make sure the girl likes you before you move on. Even embracing or placing your hand on his knee is one level below your grip, so try to make regular physical contact first before you start holding his hand.
Step 2. Come closer
If you are sitting, simply place your hands 3 cm away from his. This can help you read the situation when he's ready to hold hands – if he puts his hand close to yours, then he's probably ready to do it. If you're standing and walking together, try to get closer to him until your hands are only inches apart.
Step 3. Make a contact
You should make some physical contact before continuing to hold his hand. If you're standing, place your hand around her shoulder and slide it toward her arm until you hold her hand, or keep walking and "accidentally" touch her hand until it feels natural to hold her hand. When you're ready to make contact, you can choose from many ways to hold her hand.
Relax as much as possible before making contact. The more nervous you are, the more sweaty your hands will be! Of course, this is the worst, but if you can avoid it, that's great
Step 4. Don't get mad if he doesn't want to
Despite what you might think, not all girls like holding hands. If he's pulling away because he's not interested in you, then you'll notice it quickly because he's going to distance himself all over and look uncomfortable. But there's also a chance she doesn't want to hold hands because she thinks it's cheesy or because she's nervous and her hands are sweaty, so don't worry too much; You will know for yourself.
Part 2 of 3: Mastering the Hand Holding Technique
Step 1. Tuck your hand under his
This is a very clear and effective move. If you feel nervous, let your fingertips touch it a little before doing it. Calmly and slowly tuck your hand under his so that his hand is at the top of your hand. You can move your hand slightly to play the finger slowly. This works very well in a sitting position.
Step 2. Place your hand on top of his
This is another approach technique. Just move your hand over his and gently touch his fingers. If you feel comfortable, you can even give him a gentle pinch or massage. This is especially good if you are sitting in a restaurant or even while watching a movie. It won't feel tiring when you're holding hands as you walk, because you're quite relaxed and let your hand rest on the girl's hand.
Step 3. Perform a palm-to-palm motion
This is a common way to hold a girl's hand. Just move your hands so that the palms of your hands are facing each other. You can gently rub the palm of his hand if you're in a sitting position and feel like playing around. You can perform this relaxing movement before fully grasping his hand.
Step 4. Holding hands
Once you touch his palm, you can intertwine your fingers, and hold his hand completely. This can work when you are sitting or standing, although this is generally done by a partner who is standing and walking. You can hold her hand passively, just hold her close, or rub her fingers lightly. If you're walking hand in hand and feel like playing around, you can even swing your arms back and forth a little.
Step 5. Hold the little finger
This is another interesting and fun way to hold hands. Just move your pinky to her pinky and hook. This is very fun because you can distance yourself and both of you and can play together. You can also try this while walking, which will make it even more fun if you swing your arms around a bit. You may have to be a little patient until you get used to holding hands before doing this.
Part 3 of 3: Becoming a Pro
Step 1. It's okay to take a break
When you start holding hands, you don't have to spend all afternoon, strolling, or the entire movie to do it. It's okay to take a break, whether your hands are sweaty, tired, or if you just want to take it off. Just break contact slowly instead of dropping the girl's hand violently, and you'll be fine.
Step 2. Combination right
You don't have to hold the girl's hand, her little finger, or put your hand on it all the time. Combine your hand-holding techniques so the girl doesn't feel like she's holding a dead fish in her hand. Stimulating his hands too often can make him restless, while leaving your hands alone can bore him, so find a balance between these techniques.
Step 3. Kiss her hand
If the holding hands are a success and both you and the girl really enjoy it, raise your hand to your mouth and kiss the back of her hand. You can even make eye contact while doing so for a more intimate feel. This is a very romantic gesture, and you should only do it every now and then. But if you do it at the right time – like at the end of a successful hand-holding session – it can actually make him like you!
Tips
- Talk to him. Pretending as if holding hands is a natural thing.
- Pinch his hand slightly to surprise him.
- Place your other hand around the waist and stroke his upper arm (right at the elbow area).
- Separate your hands if they sweat too much. No one likes to hold sweaty hands. Using antiperspirant on your hands beforehand is very effective at preventing this from happening.
Warning
- Don't hold on too tightly and pinch his hand too hard when doing tip number two.
- Don't keep trying to hold her hand if she doesn't respond well to you. This will only make things worse.
- Know the extent of your relationship. If you cross the line, he may not want to see you again.
- If you feel the negative energy radiating from him towards you, it might not be a good time to hold hands.
- If he crosses his arms and doesn't respond on the fourth step, that's fine. There are still many fish in the sea.
