Maybe many think that because you always rank 1 or like to make computer programs, you are a geek. However, you can be both smart and cool. This guide will teach you how to turn yourself from nerdy to cool without changing your interests or hobbies.
Step
Step 1. Analyze the situation
How nerdy are you? Are you really a bookworm? We're not talking about intelligence. You have to know how people perceive you in general. A bit awkward, but cool enough? Normal, but interested in technology? The kid who doesn't slang at all? A person who seems unlikely to have good grades? Don't let the information in this step discourage you or make you arrogant. Other people's opinions are not the end of the world. We only use it as a tool for personal development. Besides, you're not "geeky". You are intelligent and able to pursue interests without having to submit to what others consider ideal.
Step 2. Learn to listen
Sometimes, when you're engrossed in a conversation, you think the other person is interested in hearing you, but they're actually irritated or bored. If you can't think of what to talk about, ask questions that aren't too bad. Most people like to talk about themselves. It's great to have a chat and being able to keep the conversation going, but make sure the other person really hears what you're saying. Practice speaking skills with people you are already familiar with, such as relatives or neighbors.
Step 3. Don't talk too much about your personal life
If someone asks you what your favorite activity is, don't lie. Answer honestly (though not a cool hobby). However, don't go into too much detail. For example, if you enjoy creating web pages, don't say, "I create the best web pages without using any program. I use NotePad because I know HTML and understand JavaScript, I hate WYSIWYG editors that insist on following rules (because obedience is so commonplace), and in my leisure time I like to play MMORPG, Warcraft, especially on Dalaran server, blah-blah-blah." Instead, you can simply say, "I like using the computer and playing video games." If the question is specific, say, "I build websites," or "I love playing Warcraft." If you're not asked to explain, don't give a long description because most people don't care. They just want to chat (an ability you also need). If you play team sports or do other activities in your spare time, such as shopping, going to the beach, watching movies, or eating at your favorite restaurant, mention those hobbies to balance out your "nerdy" hobbies. Make sure you also ask them what they like as most people like to talk about themselves.
Step 4. Avoid obsessing over something that is not so important
For example, don't care about the number of posts you post on the forum or how many people visit your blog. The point of a forum/community is to share thoughts, ask questions and discuss topics, not to write 65,405 posts and 485 topics with 6,584 replies. Life is too short to worry about something like that. Better to go out and get some fresh air or play some music than spend time staring at the computer. And if those numbers really matter to you, there's no need to mention them to anyone you meet.
Step 5. Don't brag
There's no point in claiming to be better than other people. You may feel cool, but arrogance is annoying. Don't be the know-it-all who is always correcting grammar and criticizing people's ideas.
Step 6. Don't do useless activities that others find "cool."
You should be more concerned with knowledge than values. Better to fail than cheat. Have integrity and class!
Step 7. Ignore other people's opinions that don't matter
Don't respond to someone who insults you (except to seek sarcasm). You know you're cool, that's enough. Don't lower your mentality to match theirs. If they continue to annoy you, you can walk away or make a scathing response and then walk away.
Step 8. Take care of yourself
Nothing can confirm the impression " BOOKWORM!" besides dirty teeth, greasy hair, and clothes that are too small. Many people are too concerned with appearance, but even though it's sad, it's true. So, take care of your health and personal hygiene. Take a shower every day, brush your teeth, use dental floss, use deodorant/antiperspirant, and comb your hair. Maybe you need to save up for new clothes when you're tired of hearing people make fun of your clothes. You don't have to buy what the "popular" kids wear, just something stylish and nice. Ask a friend for help if you can't figure it out yourself. you wear glasses that are distracting, try contact lenses. If you can't wear contact lenses (perhaps because of your sensitive cornea), don't worry. There are lots of cool and smart people who wear glasses. Also, don't worry if other people think of braces that's tacky. If you see movie stars with perfectly straight teeth, it's because they've had orthodontic treatment for years -year.
Step 9. Form body balance
Do you have a brilliant brain, but have weak and uncoordinated muscles? Increase strength and stamina through exercise or daily physical activity. Studies show that regular exercise can improve brain function and improve mood.
Step 10. Choose a cool outfit
You can be nerdy inside, but don't be shown. Wear something cool outside. However, don't lose your wits.
Step 11. Be easy to talk to
Many enjoy chatting with intelligent people who don't make them feel stupid. So if someone asks, "What is a Pi?" Don't say, "Find out for yourself". That's a rude answer and not at all cool. Try answering, "Here, I'll tell you," and explain it in an easy-to-understand way, accompanied by, "It looks like it's hard, but it's really not." When they thank you, say, "You're welcome!" Answers like that make you likable because they have helped others gain new knowledge. And if they start to take advantage of you, there's no need to worry. Emphasize that you are independent and don't want to be taken advantage of by saying, "I'm just trying to help, not pamper you."
Tips
- Don't care about other people's opinions. Enjoy life and be yourself.
- Try to be more interesting and listen more often than you talk.
- Always learn from others. Never assume that you know everything because knowledge has no limits.
- Make friends with all kinds of people.
- If your friends don't like you for who you are, they're not really friends. Friends are people who are always supportive.
- Always be honest.
- Treat others well, they will like you and be nice to you. However, ignore those who are not a good influence.
