Sometimes it's hard to think of ways to make mom happy beyond the obvious things like flowers and gifts. While gifts and flowers are sweet and moms probably won't turn them down, there are other ways to show that you love your mom. Happiness is something very personal and has a different meaning for everyone. So, you may need to experiment with some of these techniques before you find what makes your mom the happiest. Here your intentions are most important!
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Method 1 of 2: Connecting with Mom Through Communication
Step 1. Ask your mother to tell her life story
One way to make someone feel valued is to show our interest in them: who they are, what they're going through, and what they think. Asking about your mom's life will give you a chance to connect with her, as well as make her happy that you're interested in her story.
- For example, if you're relaxing in the living room, you can chat and ask mom what her favorite activity was when she was a kid. Maybe you will hear interesting stories from here!
- Research even shows that families who share their history with each other have stronger bonds, and their children tend to have greater self-confidence. Asking your mother's family history will benefit both of you-it's scientifically proven!
Step 2. Ask how your mother feels
Just like anything else, moms need people to talk to. Asking your mother how she feels shows that you care about her and that you care about her happiness. Your attitude is likely to make your mother happy.
- For example, if you notice that your mother seems stressed, you might say something like this: "Mom looks stressed right now. Are you all right?"
- Asking how your mother is doing is another way to communicate with her. Maybe mom also asks how you are; why don't you do the same?
Step 3. Send SMS without any special reason
Even small gestures of kindness can have a big impact. Sending mom a text saying you're thinking about her will make her feel valued and special. The more people feel cared for, the happier they tend to be.
You don't have to write a novel to make an impact. Even a "Hi Mom! I hope you're well" is enough to show that you care about your happiness
Step 4. Apologize when you are wrong
Sometimes it's hard to apologize to mom, especially if you feel like she's nagging a lot. However, apologizing when you are wrong and taking responsibility for your own actions will strengthen the relationship and make your mother feel loved.
- A good apology involves 3M: regret, take responsibility, and correct. This means that you express regret for the pain you caused, take responsibility for your actions without looking for excuses, and let them know that you will fix it next time.
- For example, if your mom says that you forgot to take out the trash again, say something like, “Sorry, I forgot to take out the trash. I know, that means adding to mom's job. I'll put a reminder on my phone every Wednesday to remember."
Step 5. Put yourself in his shoes
Sometimes your mother feels like a best friend, but other days like a prison warden. Instead of just thinking why mom is like that?, try to imagine what it would be like to be in the mother's position. Practicing empathy is not only good for your mother, but also for yourself.
- For example, if your mom asks how you're doing and you just shrug instead of talking, that might hurt her feelings. If you're too busy to talk at the time, make it clear by saying something like, “I have a lot of homework right now, Mom. We'll talk later." This shows that you really want to communicate even if you can't do it right away.
- Mom can do some things that embarrass you; in fact, sometimes seems like an expert at it! Try to imagine why your mother did it. Maybe your mom treats you like a child because she wants you to feel safe, not because she thinks you're immature. You can always ask why your mother did that.
Step 6. Talk to him when you have a problem
Mothers love to feel involved in their child's life, especially when children share feelings and thoughts. If you're having a tough day, can't cope with problems at school, or have a secret crush on someone without knowing how to approach them, ask your mom for advice. Your mother will feel you value her opinion.
This goes the other way around. While your mother may be happy to listen and help with your problems, you don't want to just talk when you have a problem. If you're feeling excited, have some good news, or just watched your favorite movie, talk to him too
Step 7. Make jokes and personal references
You probably have a lot of private jokes with friends, right? Maybe you and your mom have watched a movie and mispronounced the character's name so you sound funny every time you say that name. Having such “secret” jokes will help strengthen the bond and refresh your relationship with your mother.
Method 2 of 2: Showing Appreciation Through Action
Step 1. Make a personal gift for mom
Gifts are more meaningful when they show that you put time and effort into them. Gifts for moms don't have to be expensive either; anything that shows you care about mom's happiness will have the effect you want.
- For example, if your mom loves Star Wars, make an origami Yoda! Even though they're very cheap, these gifts show that you care about their interests and are willing to devote some time to brightening up their day.
- You can also create a “coupon book” with redeemable gifts, such as “breakfast in bed” or “crazy jokes on request”.
- Making recordings may be too “old fashioned” for you. However, you can create a list of songs that remind you of your mom or songs that make you happy when you're feeling down. Share that playlist, and whenever I hear it, I'll think of you.
Step 2. Leave a message in the lunch
Maybe mom always slips a message that says love you in your lunch box. Why don't you try it? You can even prepare lunch for mom and keep it in the fridge so she doesn't have to do anything in the morning.
Step 3. Introduce your mother to friends
Bringing friends home to meet your mother can be embarrassing at times. You never know when mom will try to take pictures of your baby or tell you the “sweet” (and embarrassing) thing you did when you were 6 years old. However, making your mom feel involved in your life will remind her that you love her-even if it's embarrassing.
Step 4. Help your mother with homework
Doing household chores can be stressful and time consuming. Lift some of that burden off the mother's shoulders by helping what you can do. It would be better if you did it as a surprise; for example, if mom comes home from work and finds all the dishes washed, she's likely to be very happy.
Step 5. Prepare food for her
Sometimes it's not easy to cook dinner. If mom has had a busy week, say that you want to cook dinner. Even if you can't do everything yourself, offer to help out in the kitchen. You'll learn cooking skills while spending time with mom.
- Breakfast in bed is a very classic surprise. Many people only do it on Mother's Day. However, the truth is your mom would really appreciate having breakfast in bed on a typical weekend!
- Take the time to find out what his favorite food is and make it for him. If mom likes a meal that's too complicated for you, or you don't know how to cook it, ask her to teach it a few weeks before you want to make one for her.
Step 6. Take more responsibility for yourself
Managing the schedules of all family members is very time-consuming and can be stressful for mothers, especially if your family is large. Remembering your own appointments and events will help lift that burden off your mother's shoulders. Mothers who feel less stressed are mothers who have more happiness!
Step 7. Spend time with mom
Ask for time alone with your mother, or suggest watching a movie that you find very interesting. You can take mom out to play a video game or just go for a walk; the important thing is to show that you want to spend time with him.
Having fun outdoors doesn't have to be expensive. If both of you are animal lovers, suggest to your mother to go together to the nearest animal shelter and play with the animals there. Most rescued animals require socialization. So, in addition to pleasing mom, you're also helping cats, dogs, and the occasional ferret
Step 8. Remember important dates
Nothing can make a mother feel more special than a child remembering his birthday or wedding day. Send a heartfelt letter or card (including an e-card) that expresses how much your mother means to you.
To help you remember important dates, put them in your phone's calendar. If you're friends with your mom on Facebook (and it's quite possible), Facebook will remind you of her upcoming birthday
Tips
- Even if you've moved into your own home, you can still do a lot of things to bring a smile to mom's face. Keeping in touch with texts, calls, and even messages on social media can make moms feel connected to you.
- While big actions are good too, it's often the little everyday things that make people feel valued and loved. Usually this method does not cost much, but the impact it produces cannot be valued in terms of money.
- Give yourself a gift. Mom will love it.
- Concentrating on school and getting good grades will make your mother happy-many mothers worry about whether or not their child is getting a good education.
- Give mom a hug and tell her how much you love her!
- Say that you love your mother for who she is and for everything she has always done for you.
- You can do something for mom without being told.
- Do what you have to do without waiting for orders!!!
- Clean the house and do housework without being told.
