Every child wants to have a healthy and positive relationship with his father, especially since a father's happiness is often directly proportional to his child's happiness and well-being. You want it too? Sometimes, making a father happy is not easy, but try to find ways to create a healthier relationship. Indeed, a relationship will definitely develop in a positive direction if it is colored by positive interactions and behaviors.
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Part 1 of 3: Establishing Good Relationships
Step 1. Spend time with him
Sometimes, the busyness of both parties will make it difficult for you to do so. Therefore, try to find time that the two of you can spend together. In this opportunity, share your opinions and perspectives, then ask your father to do the same to strengthen the relationship that has existed between the two of you. At least, try to spend a moment to dine with your father. You can both use this moment to talk about each other's daily lives, concerns that arise about a problem, or other things that are no less important. If your dad also has something to say, show that you're listening by asking relevant follow-up questions afterward.
- Learn things about his life. Take the time to ask about your dad's past, his dreams, his career path, his favorite memories, etc. Believe me, these stories will be very valuable lessons for the development of your life. In addition, you can also better understand the principles and values of life that your father carried after him.
- Listen to him and show your curiosity. Willingness to listen will show you care and strengthen your relationship with him.
Step 2. Avoid arguing
If your dad makes an argument you can't accept, or if he forbids you from doing something you really want to do, don't jump into an argument. Practice self-discipline and discuss only when you have calmed down. If you're still feeling irritated or angry, try taking a deep breath, sitting down, and drinking a glass of water to calm yourself down.
- Try to understand your father's point of view. Most likely, he has a valid reason to forbid you from doing something or to refute your argument. What you've always seen as a ban, is most likely a form of protection from your father.
- If your dad is upset, try to think of some other, less obvious reason behind his annoyance. Is he tired? Is he under stress from work? Chances are, his anger isn't just rooted in what you did.
Step 3. Ask for his opinion and advice
Try asking your dad for his opinion on academic, financial, or career matters. Show that his opinion is very important to you! Even if your dad doesn't have a similar experience with these situations, he can still provide a relevant and useful perspective.
Step 4. Show your affection
Show your dad that you love him! Speak to him in a caring tone and show your affection through warm hugs and kisses. Although not all men like to show affection implicitly (perhaps you both do), try to understand that physical touch is one of the basic needs of every human being.
Often, boys have a harder time showing their affection for their parents. If so, try to find an action that is still within your comfort limits. There's no need to force yourself to hug your dad in public if you don't want to
Step 5. Implement the values your father believed in in life
Think about the life principles and/or values that your father has applied to you. Also think about phrases he keeps repeating, such as, 'Always tell the truth,' or, 'Always try to be the best.' Both show the life values he is trying to teach you, namely honesty and hard work. Even though your father doesn't always say it, it doesn't mean you shouldn't implement these life principles. Think about your dad's way of life, for example, he doesn't like small talk and/or is always well-dressed at all times. Try to revive those principles!
Remember, you don't have to agree to anything your dad says or does. Instead, simply filter and apply the habits and values your child has that can positively influence your life. If there's a behavior you don't like or agree with, try discussing it with him. Who knows the two of you can think of ways to improve or change it together, right?
Part 2 of 3: Being Responsible at Home
Step 1. Finish your housework
What are the things he's always been asking you to do? Treat the work as your personal responsibility and complete it without being asked. If you find the job too difficult or boring, try asking your dad for tips or advice to make it easier.
- Asking for his advice will also show that you value his opinion. After your dad gives his advice, make sure you follow it! Most likely, he will be offended if you ignore his advice or opinion.
- Don't give your dad a chance to ask why you haven't done something. Try to make a schedule and stick to it! If necessary, set an alarm on your phone so you always know when it's time to do something, at least until you get used to doing it without being asked.
Step 2. Don't hesitate to take the initiative
Be aware of the things that need to be done and done at home, and don't have to wait to be told to do them. If necessary, surprise your dad with this positive initiative! Try to think of things you haven't had time to do in the last few weeks or months. Think about your dad's daily routine. Does he always drink a cup of coffee before going to work? If so, take the initiative to make him a cup of coffee every morning! Don't hesitate to show him you care.
Pay attention to the comfort of other people living in your home. For example, don't leave your living room or kitchen dirty or messy
Step 3. Keep your bedroom tidy
Generally, parents most often complain about the messy state of their child's room. Even if you don't share a room with anyone, it's still a good idea to show your dad that you're responsible for keeping the bedroom tidy.
- Keep your closet tidy by always folding and/or hanging your clothes. Put dirty clothes in the laundry basket, and always make your bed in the morning.
- If you want to decorate the walls of your room with posters, make sure the image on the poster you choose is not embarrassing and still polite.
Step 4. Use internet and cell phones wisely
This step is especially important if it's your dad who buys you cell phone credit and pays for your internet usage. Remember, internet and cell phone access is a privilege, not a right you have. Show that you value the values your father taught and the money he paid for the privilege.
- Discuss limitations regarding the use of electronic devices with your father. Follow all the rules it provides, including the duration of the use of electronic devices and the things you are allowed to upload in cyberspace.
- Do not use any electronic devices at the dinner table to show your appreciation to all relatives. Show that you are grateful for the togetherness that exists!
Step 5. Take care of your siblings
Give your dad a sense of security and a comfortable living environment! One way you can do this is to build the best possible relationship with all of your siblings. Don't bully your youngest sibling; don't annoy your eldest brother either! Help them do assignments or solve problems they are having. Invite them to do fun activities together! When you're old enough to drive a car, take your dad's place to take your siblings on trips.
It's natural to argue with your sibling every now and then, but do your best to build a good relationship with them
Part 3 of 3: Improving Academic Performance
Step 1. Study well
Show that you want to achieve long-term success by improving your academic performance at school. To achieve this goal, always complete the task as well as possible and on time. If there are things you don't understand, ask your friends or ask the teacher to explain them again and provide other reading resources that you can learn more about.
- Make a study schedule. Estimate the duration of the task and adjust the schedule of daily activities with the estimated time. Tuck in the schedule for revisions and breaks!
- Study for the full 45 minutes, and rest for 10 minutes afterward. Turn off your phone to help your brain focus on the material being studied. Try to ignore any distractions that may arise and experiment with different learning methods until you find the one that works best for you.
- Study in a quiet, private, and distraction-free location.
- Organize all your books and academic materials. Group the data by subject matter, and make sure you write your name and date on each worksheet to make it easier to organize.
Step 2. Establish good relationships with teachers at school or college
Build a good reputation yourself! While it can sometimes be really hard to be polite to a teacher you don't like, give it a try! Also show your willingness to learn by always focusing and participating in class, even if your friends are trying to act or not taking the material seriously. Set a good example through your behavior! Trust me, your dad will feel very proud when he hears the praises your teachers give about you.
That doesn't mean you have to agree with whatever the teacher says. If the behavior is inappropriate or problematic, don't hesitate to report it to your school or college officials. Tell your parents too so they stay up to date with the latest things happening in your life
Step 3. Take part in various extracurricular activities
Remember, school life or college is not only related to academic activities. By participating in various non-academic activities, it will help you to become a more complete and complete individual! Through appropriate extracurricular or non-academic activities, you will learn how to be disciplined, lead, work in a team, manage your time well, hone your analytical skills, and improve your social and organizational skills in a fun way. Remember, all these abilities will be very useful for your life. After all, every parent would want their child to be successful in the future, right?
Taking part in extracurricular activities can also enrich lecture registration applications (for those of you who are still in school) and/or job applications (for those of you who are adults). Show that you have a variety of interests and abilities that job seekers need
Step 4. Make friends with good people
Show him that you can judge a person's character wisely! One way, make friends with people who are positive, qualified, and have a good reputation at school. Make sure they have a positive character and don't like to get involved in problems. Also show that they can teach you positive life values and keep you out of trouble. If you want, try getting your friends to create a special study group.
