Heart pounding, palms sweating. That's when you think about the guy you like. When you like someone, whether you've known them for a long time or you've only been communicating with them for a few days, the first thing you feel is curiosity about how they feel about you. When your feelings for someone become clear, wanting to know how the guy you like feels is normal. There are lots of ways to speed up a guy confessing his feelings to you so you don't have to wait long and second-guess. When you've decided to fall in love with someone, you can find the right approach.
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Method 1 of 2: Making sure the guy is open and ready
Step 1. Make sure he doesn't have a commitment with other people
It's best not to hurt the other person's feelings by getting his girlfriend to confess her feelings to you. In addition, this also prevents you from placing your hopes too high on someone who has already dropped his heart on someone else. You just need to find information from friends, social media, or directly ask him. Here are some questions you can ask to find out:
- If you're brave, while you're chatting with him, you can ask him if he has a girlfriend or not. Try asking him, "You have a boyfriend?" or "Who are you close with now?". Just asking won't reveal how you feel.
- If you can't ask him, because you're too shy or don't see him often, you can ask one of his friends. Try mentioning him when you're chatting with his friend, then ask him, "Do you know if he has a girlfriend or not?".
- If there's nothing you can ask, try looking up his relationship stats on Facebook or other social media.
Step 2. Find out how he views the relationship
If you already know he doesn't have a girlfriend, it's a good idea to find out how he feels about the relationship. This will allow you to know whether you are compatible or not in terms of romance. Try not to be outspoken and find out when you're alone. Here are some questions to ask to open a conversation about romance:
- "When was the last time you dated?"
- "You want to date?"
- "Do you often date?"
Step 3. Keep the atmosphere light and fun when you are with him
When interacting with him, try to keep the conversation fun and exciting so you can see if he wants to joke with you or not. You can even try to gently poke his shoulder during the conversation to see how he reacts. If he laughs as well as teases you, that's a good sign. Humor is a great way to open the heart of a guy who seems interested in you because you seem interested in him so that he becomes more comfortable.
- When he makes a joke, make sure you laugh. This will boost his confidence and give him the green light to share his feelings with you.
- A gentle touch on his arm or shoulder is a great way to show your interest in him.
Step 4. Look for signs of compatibility that the two of you may have
If you find that you are always laughing with each other and having the same thoughts, chances are that you are both equally interested. The laughter and smiles that always appear are the biggest indicators that there is something between the two of you. When a guy likes you, a guy will use your name as much as possible. Here are some other signs that can reveal true feelings:
- If he's always playing with his hands or other objects, this is a sign that he's very excited to be around you and is definitely interested.
- Maybe he will pay attention to your appearance and mention the little details about it. This is known as imprinting and this type of liking is caused by increased levels of dopamine.
Method 2 of 2: Making Her Open Up
Step 1. Build a relationship based on trust
Make him feel special by showing interest in himself as a person. Try asking what his passion and dreams for the future are. Try to stay positive and open to the things he tells so that he too can feel comfortable with you. Tell things you don't tell just anyone so that he feels special because you trust you by sharing meaningful things with him.
- Tell us what your biggest fears or most embarrassing moments of your life were.
- If you show that you trust him, he will feel more relaxed and willing to open up to you.
Step 2. Listen to him and avoid the urge to judge
Let him show you what he is. Let him know that he won't be judged and that you appreciate the unique things about him. The goal is to build trust between the two of you so he can know he can talk freely about anything. A man can be reluctant to share intimate feelings. The fact that there's a chance you might reject him can be the thing that's holding him back from opening up. Let him know you won't criticize him or deny his feelings about personal issues.
A man is only willing to open up emotionally when he feels not judged
Step 3. Don't keep sticking to it
Men don't like feeling trapped by other people. If you continue to cling to him, he might even move away. Even if he likes you too, he won't want to admit it because he doesn't like the fact that you're too dependent on him.
- Be patient. If you try to take this relationship to the next level too soon, he could become scared and make him less open with you.
- Don't bombard him with messages. You shouldn't be the first to message in the morning and the last to message at night. Make sure he also sends as many messages as you.
- It's also a good idea to ask him to meet you as often as possible. If you ask him to meet and he refuses with good reason, let him take the initiative to ask you to meet again.
Step 4. Avoid the urge to chase it
If he's chasing the guy you like in hopes of confessing his feelings to you, he may just keep running. He may feel like he'd rather be chased than confess his feelings for you. Maybe he's starting to enjoy how you chase him, instead of him chasing you! Try to pull away a bit and let him get the chance to realize that he doesn't want to lose you. This can help encourage him to tell you how he feels about you.
- Don't show up at his office or home uninvited.
- If you happen to run into him at a party, don't follow him all night. Try spending time with friends too and show them that you can be alone.
- There's only one person to chase, and that person shouldn't be you.
Step 5. Try to be honest and not arrogant
If you pretend to be confident or you like to indulge in self-defense to hide how you really feel, he too may become uncomfortable with you because he can sense that you are pretending. If he's uncomfortable, he can't be honest about his feelings for you. You can feel confident about yourself, but don't show off or come across as arrogant, as this could push him away.
- Don't put other people down or talk about how great you are. Instead, offer compliments, listen carefully, and remember that it's okay to err.
- If he hears how you judge other people, he's afraid you'll judge him too.
Step 6. Try teasing his friend a little
If you focus on one of his friends, he could be afraid of losing your interest and this could encourage him to confess his feelings to you quickly. But you don't need to tease her friend too much, try having a fun chat with her to provoke jealousy. Here are some questions you can ask:
- "When you're free, what do you usually do?"
- "What's your occupation?" or "What job do you want in the future?".
- "What's your favorite movie?"
Step 7. Don't let him determine how you feel too soon
He may become unwilling to tell you how he feels because he feels he already has you and doesn't need to admit it anymore. Once you know that you want him to tell you how he feels, try to act hard to come by by not always seeing him or not always answering his phone. This can shorten the time for him to confess his true feelings for you.
- Give him a chance to miss you or wonder what you're doing. Give him a chance to text or call you first.
- If he asks what your plans are this weekend, try to be honest but respond in a positive way. You could say, "I want to meet my friends and see a movie," or you could say, "I've been spending a little time with my family this weekend and after that I don't know what to do."
- Whatever your answer is, don't answer as if you're going to be bored at the end of the week because you're just staying at home because you might sound desperate.
Step 8. Try asking him in a charming and sweet way if he likes you
Nothing bad will happen to you or him if you ask him directly how he feels. If he's shy about confessing his feelings, try to be honest and say that you like him. Maybe he wants to express his feelings for you. If the two of you already have a close friendship and you notice that he responds to your smile and flirts with you, feel free to ask him. Here are some ways to ask him:
- Try sitting or standing next to him and saying, "I like you and I was wondering if maybe you like me too?" or "I love spending time with you and I kind of hope you like spending time with me too. You like me, don't you?"
- If he doesn't know what to say, try to chuckle and say, "You like me, don't you?!". Surely he will fall in love with your charm.
- If he says yes, you've succeeded. If not, at least you know so you can stop wasting time and move on with your life. If he needs time to think, don't worry as he may struggle to translate his thoughts into words.
- If you tell her in a subtle way that you like her and that you're willing to accept her feelings, she may be willing to open up and admit that she likes you.
Tips
- Let him be himself around you.
- If he likes to tease you, it could be a sign that he likes you.
- Try not to flirt too much with other men. Of course it can make him jealous, but it can also make him lose hope and not admit his feelings.
- Smile at him and if he responds with a slight nod, he's paying attention!
- A good sign that someone is interested in you is that they talk to you a lot and may not even care about other people.
- Enjoy your life when he's around and when he's not around. Enjoy unrelated activities. This will let him know that you are a stable and desirable person.
- Don't change yourself for others or expect them to change.
- If his friends flirt with you, chances are he likes you.
- Make sure his friends aren't around you when you ask him if he likes you or not.
Warning
- Avoid the urge to stalk him online or always check your phone. If it is fate, the mate will not go anywhere. If you cling to him too much, he might feel claustrophobic.
- Don't drive him away from his friends because you could upset him. Give him space to maintain other relationships in his life as well.
- Be prepared to hear the word no, and face it calmly. If he rejects you, it's because you two don't get along, not because you're an unattractive person.
