Ideally, most girls would say they'd rather be asked out on a face-to-face basis. However, if you lack courage or think that you will have more success asking a phone date, then you need to use the best texting etiquette you can to increase the chances of the girl saying "yes". Whether you want to ask her out on a date, to the school dance, or even ask her to be your boyfriend, being respectful and honest is what matters.
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Method 1 of 3: Taking a Girl Out on a Date
Step 1. Come up with an idea for a date
If you know the person well enough, then consider his or her interests or interests when you have a date idea. If the date sounds more interesting, then the more likely he is to say, "yes". Furthermore, having a concrete plan in mind about the place and time makes it seem more decisive than you simply saying "Let's go for a walk sometime," or "I don't know, what are you going to do?" Here are some ideas you should consider before asking:
- If you have the same taste in music, then invite him to go to a concert or show that will be held.
- Consider taking him to lunch or ice cream. If you like to cook, then invite him to dinner that you cook. Remember, dating doesn't always revolve around an invitation to eat; Go hiking or to the bowling alley!
- Try to find an activity that involves conversation and getting to know each other. Avoid invitations to a movie, where you will sit quietly and not have a chance to talk to him. However, if you decide to go see a movie, beforehand, take him out to dinner or ice cream afterwards, so you have a chance to get to know each other.
Step 2. Send him a welcome text
Greet him first to get the conversation going. If you've just met him and aren't sure if he has saved your number, then you may need to remind him who you are. Say something like; "Hi, here (say name and so on), we met yesterday." If you're sure that he has your number, then send him a text message and say something like "Hi, how are you?" or “Hi, what are you doing?”
- If you've only seen him recently, then try in a small way to start a chat based on your last interaction. For example, if you were recently at a party together, send him a text like, “Hey, how was the party yesterday?” If you're in the same class, try saying something like "Are you ready for the test tomorrow Monday?"
- Wait until he responds to your first text message before asking him out. Keep in mind that he may be busy and not on the phone, so be patient.
Step 3. Ask him out on a date
Once the chat goes on, it's time to ask him out on a date. You may want to start by asking what the plan is for the day or the weekend. If he says he has no plans, then make an offer to go on a date. Send a text message that says, “Would you like (mention the activity or what are your plans) with me?”
- Don't wait too long to ask her out. You definitely don't want the conversation to get off track and make you too awkward or unexpected to ask him out on a date. No need to make small talk too long when you text each other.
- Keep the conversation short and simple. Just say something like, “Are you interested in watching a movie?” or “Would you like to play bowling tonight?”
- Think of a concrete place and time where you would like to meet. If you just said, "Would you like to go see a movie sometime?" then you sound unconvincing. It's important to mention the time so that he knows you're serious and that you've thought things through.
- Give him the option to do something else. Maybe he wants to go on a date with you, but he's a terrible bowler, maybe he wants to go out to dinner, but he just went to the place you suggested. Make it clear that you have a plan, but that you are also open to other activities.
Step 4. Respond to his answer
If he says yes, then go over the details; decide where/when you will meet and make travel plans if necessary. Once you've decided on a date, casually end the conversation by saying something like, "Great, see you Saturday!" Don't continue texting too much after that, or you'll appear too aggressive. However, if he starts texting you all the time, then you can respond to him, too.
- Be sure to let him know that you're looking forward to the date if he says yes. This will make him feel special and make him look forward to the date too.
- If he refuses your offer, then let him know that you are not disappointed or offended and end the conversation. You have to keep your head held high and end things on a good note.
Method 2 of 3: Ask Him to Be Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Make sure whether in terms of romance he is interested in you or not
In most cases, you should ask a girl to be your boyfriend only after you've gone on a few dates with her and found out that she's attracted to you as more than just a friend. If you're a young person who is used to asking girls to be your boyfriend before going on a date, then look for signs that he likes you. For example, his face turns red when you talk, or the fact that he is waiting for you when he comes home from school. Thinking about whether or not he likes you can increase your chances of asking him to be your girlfriend.
- If you've never spoken to him, don't know him well, or know that he's already in a relationship with another man, then don't ask him out on a date. There are still many fish in the sea!
- You don't have to be 100% sure whether he likes you or not. However, try to read his body language and words next time you're with him. Does he turn to face you, look a little nervous in your presence, or look excited when he sees you? If so, then these are good signs that he may also be interested in you.
Step 2. Send a welcome message
Start by greeting him like, “Hi, you,” “Hi, how are you?” or “How was your day?”. This will help ease the conversation and prepare him to respond to your questions. Let the conversation run naturally. There's no need to be extra smart at first or make statements that you find funny. Better to be frank and stay on topic; he will be impressed with your confidence, if you don't waste too much time.
While you may not know what his day is like every second, try sending a message at a time when he doesn't seem too busy. For example, if you know he has a football practice schedule after school, send him a message a few hours after that
Step 3. Let him know how you feel about him first
Let him know that you enjoy spending time with him, and compliment him on the things that make him unique, explaining why you enjoy spending time with him so much. Try something like, “I've really enjoyed spending these last few weeks with you,” or “You really make me feel special,” or “I've never felt this way before with anyone else.” Whatever you want to say, be honest and only say what you really want to say. In short, you don't need to go overboard with compliments.
- Wait for his response before asking him to be your girlfriend. How he responds to statements like these will help you determine whether he's interested in a relationship with you, without asking him to answer explicitly.
- See if he replies. If he says he feels the same way as you, then go ahead, and ask if he wants to be your girlfriend. If he doesn't respond, or just says, "thank you" without telling you how he feels, then he probably isn't interested in you.
- Don't shower him with compliments, because this can be conveyed, but it seems insincere and excessive.
Step 4. Ask him if he wants to be your girlfriend
There are several ways to ask this. You can ask a direct question by saying something like, “Will you be my girlfriend?” or “May I call you my girlfriend?” or “Will you be my partner?” Don't wait too long to ask this question. The sooner you ask it, the faster you will move forward.
Alternatively, you can ask him a more open-ended question, such as "So, how far do you think this relationship will go?" or “Are you open to the idea of having a boyfriend?” These kinds of open-ended questions show him that you really care about his wants and desires, and are willing to compromise to make him happy. This can reduce the pressure, even though you may not get the answer you want
Step 5. React appropriately
If he wants to be your girlfriend, then that's great! The first thing you can do is propose a fun, but simple, activity that you can do together. For example, go to a show, or go bowling, and also choose a time and place to meet. This can let him see that you are really serious about him and that you have thought deeply about your relationship.
If he's not interested, then be nice and thank him for taking the time to chat with you. Leaving things in good shape is best so you can be proud of your mature reaction
Method 3 of 3: Taking Her To The School Dance
Step 1. If possible, make sure whether he already has a date or not
If he has a girlfriend, then you can assume that he is going to the dance with his girlfriend. If you're not sure if he has a girlfriend or not, there's nothing wrong with asking him! You can ask your friends if they know, or even ask their friends if they already have a date. However, it must be realized that the decision comes back to the him so you better not have to worry.
- Don't ask a girl to leave her date if she already has one. It's unfair to other men and will show how much of a concern you are.
- Make sure you ask her out ahead of time so you have a better chance of getting the response you want. If what you're talking about is a prom, then you should at least ask a month or two in advance. If it's just a normal dance, then it's best to take it a few weeks in advance just to be safe.
Step 2. First send a familiar short message
Start a chat by sending a message like, "Hi, how are you?" or "Hey what are you doing?" Wait for her to respond before asking her out, and let the conversation flow naturally. If he doesn't have your number, tell him who you are and how you got his number; You don't want him to feel uncomfortable or ignore your messages because he doesn't know who it's from.
Step 3. Invite her to a dance
You can do this either by sending a direct message saying “Would you like to go to the dance with me?” or, first ask if he has any plans for the dance or not. If the other person says no, then say something like, “I would love for you to come with me,” or “I think it would be great if we went together.”
If you want, you can even joke about your dancing skills or say something like how he can show you how to rock the dance floor. You don't need to be too serious about this
Step 4. Make the necessary plans
If he says yes, congratulations! Now you have to arrange a time and place to meet up, agree on clothes, if necessary, and determine the transportation – the hardest part is done now and now you can just relax and enjoy.
- Let him know that you are excited to be going on a date with him and think that this date is going to be a great time. This will make him feel special and waiting to be able to go with you.
- If he says no, or already has plans, then let him know that there are no feelings of disappointment and end the conversation. Try to stay calm and say something like "It's okay, have fun."
