If you are a woman and a member of the LGBT community, asking other women out can be stressful. Although the fear of rejection persists, at least the picture of the beautiful relationship becomes more important.
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Part 1 of 3: Guessing His Interests
Step 1. Pay attention to his body language
Often times, a woman's level of attraction is very obvious if you can pay attention to her body language. Usually, girls will touch you or lean towards you when they talk when they are attracted to you. You can also catch his gaze from the corner of the room or make eye contact with you, even when you're not chatting. These things indicate that he likes you.
If you notice that he's shy or tends to be introverted when he's around other people, it's possible that his body language isn't an accurate indicator of attraction
Step 2. Talk to other friends who know the same
If you and your crush have mutual friends, there's a good chance he or she can give you an idea of how to ask him out and, above all, his level of attraction to you. If your friend has or often spends time with you and your crush, ask him to see if there are any "hints" from your crush that show his interest in you.
You can also ask your friend for advice on how to talk to him and ask him out
Step 3. Show your interest
He may not show any interest in you because you haven't shown any interest either. While guessing or measuring his attraction, you should show your own attraction to him gradually and slowly. Watch him when he is talking, always greet him when you meet him, and give him a smile.
Step 4. Find out about the relationship status
Before chasing someone, you should be able to determine their relationship status. Maybe your crush is your friend or someone you know. If he's in a relationship, it's a good idea not to try to ask him out as this is considered rude. If you don't know him that well, think about whether you can spend some time with him to find out if he's dating someone else.
Social media can provide help in this regard. Facebook offers relationship options that can indicate whether you are dating or not. It is possible that he has or has uploaded posts about his partner on other social media sites (if any)
Step 5. Find out his views on the LGBT community
Ask him what he thinks about gay rights, homophobia, and more. If he seems disgusted or uncomfortable about it, try listening to his reasons and sharing your thoughts on the topic. At this point, if he reacts negatively, it's best if you don't continue trying to ask him out because he probably won't open up to things like that.
- While not all women are lesbian or bisexual, there are plenty of other women out there. Don't get hung up on someone who isn't attracted to you.
- Take care of yourself. If he makes comments that are particularly scathing or insensitive to the gay community, be aware that you can end the conversation and leave.
Step 6. Find out if he is bisexual or lesbian, or has a romantic preference for women
Just because he doesn't hold negative views or is against the LGBT community, doesn't mean that he himself is a member of the LGBT community. Find out if he is attracted to women from mutual friends. You can also find out about this from social media posts if you can access their profile page.
You can also approach her and ask questions like, "Are you coming with your boyfriend?" If he is not in a relationship or is not heterosexual, he may open up about his sexual orientation and ask about yours
Part 2 of 3: Throwing Seductions at Him
Step 1. Make eye contact
Direct eye contact shows interest in what the other person has to say and reflects concern and a willingness to listen. Eye contact can also indicate a desire or interest in another person, especially when you smile while looking at them. Make sure you always maintain eye contact with your idol.
Don't stare at him for too long. This can make him feel uncomfortable
Step 2. Touch it occasionally
When the two of you are chatting, find a way to get closer and touch them a little. Don't give too much touch. Just touch or place your hand on his shoulder for a few seconds. Also, if he has dirt or something stuck to his face (eg dust on his eyelashes), you can help clean it up. However, make sure you always ask his permission first.
Step 3. Be confident
Women (and people in general) respond more positively to confident people. Do not let you speak stammering or while playing with your fingers when approaching him. Instead, walk calmly and boldly, then try talking to him.
- Take deep breaths to calm yourself down before approaching him if you feel nervous.
- Practice your approach in the mirror.
Step 4. Make him laugh
One of the easiest ways to talk to a girl is to make her laugh. Most people like a good joke or a humorous person. So try to share some funny stories or find something funny at the time to get his attention.
To make him laugh, you can laugh at something like lunch at the cafeteria or tell a joke about a funny thing your coworker did
Step 5. Give him a compliment
Women also tend to respond positively when complimented. Find a certain thing that you like about him and give him a compliment about it. While it's nice to get compliments on physical appearances, compliments on aspects of a character or piece of work can also be sweet.
You could say, for example, “I saw some of your work yesterday and it was phenomenal!”
Step 6. Get to know him
When you start flirting with her, make sure you're also actively trying to get to know her. Ask questions about him and his life to develop a better picture of who he really is.
- Make sure you don't ask questions that are too personal if you don't know them well.
- You might want to ask him what activities he does for fun, or his favorite books and movies.
- Questions like these will help you determine whether you are worthy to ask him out or not.
Part 3 of 3: Asking Her On a Date
Step 1. Ask for the phone number
Before asking him out, you need to find a way to contact him first. If you don't have his phone number, ask if you can get one so you can call or message him. If you rarely meet him in person, you can contact him via social media to ask for his phone number.
You could say, for example, “Oh yeah, maybe we can chat or text later. May I have your phone number?"
Step 2. Invite him directly
If possible, make sure you ask her out in person. Generally, such an invitation is better received and taken more seriously. In fact, this may seem more romantic than a phone call or text message. Try to find an appropriate time (eg when you are alone with him) and ask him out on a date at that time.
You can send messages like, “Hey! Do you have time today at 1 pm? There's something I want to ask you."
Step 3. Accept the response or result that appears
The response may be positive or negative. Whatever the outcome, you must try to accept it. If he accepts your date, congratulations! Struggle to plan a fun date for her. However, if he's not interested in dating, that's fine. Get up and think about other options.
Respect his privacy. He may be a member of an LGBT group, but may not want others to know about it. If he explains this to you, don't force him to date openly. Let him live things his way
Step 4. Explain your desire directly
Avoid invitations or statements like “Want to go for a walk?” This can be seen as a friendly invitation to spend time together, but not in a romantic setting. If you intend to date her, you should explain your desire more clearly.
Try saying, "I was wondering if I could take you out on a date this weekend to a new restaurant downtown."
Step 5. Plan a meaningful and exciting date
If he accepts your date, now you need to plan or finalize your date plans, especially those related to the place of the date. You can plan everything yourself, but try to find a way to consider and include the things he likes in your dating plans.
- Ask him if he has any specific dietary restrictions so you can decide which restaurants to go to (or not to).
- If you choose a place for dinner, give him the opportunity to choose a movie to watch in theaters.
Tips
- Try buying him coffee/tea. Ask him what his favorite drink is and buy him the drink.
- Try to keep the conversation light and casual until the time is right. Until the time comes, be sensitive, sweet, and caring. Try to show your humorous side. If he laughs and responds to your jokes, know that he can be himself when he's with you.
- Give him your presence when he needs you.
Warning
- If he is heterosexual, don't try to change him. There's no point in trying such a thing.
- Don't change yourself for him.
- If you are a lesbian or bisexual, and she has a very negative view of LGBT people, it may be a good idea to spend less time with her. Your feelings may be hurt and/or you may fall victim to stereotypes.
- If he doesn't want to be your lover, he really doesn't want to be your lover. Don't stick around and force him to accept you because this will only reduce your chances of getting closer to him.
