When you're just getting to know someone, texting can be a great way to break the deadlock and find out if you and he or she are interested in getting to know each other better. If you want to chat with a girl via text, but don't know where to start, this guide is for you.
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Part 1 of 2: Starting a Text Message Conversation
Step 1. Ask for the mobile number
Try to ask directly; receiving text messages from someone without knowing where he got your cell phone number from is a strange thing.
- An easy way is to share a funny video or photo and say, "I'll send you the video or photo. But wait, I don't have your cell phone number! Do you want to give it?" Say it casually, and don't need to be tense, and he will be more comfortable giving it.
- If you need further help getting a girl's cell phone number, read the article on how to get a girl's phone number.
- If he doesn't want to give out his cell phone number, don't try to ask for it from other places or people. Respect his decision. Maybe you can ask for one more time after getting to know him better.
Step 2. Greet him--but don't just "hi"
Messages that say "hi" alone are difficult to respond to, and may come across as lazy and boring. Ask something, even if it's just how he's been.
- Sending questions is a good choice, as there is a response expected to keep your conversation flowing. If you ask him about an English assignment, he can answer it, and you can ask another question to confirm it. This will keep the conversation flowing… Compare if you just sent him a "hi" and he doesn't know how to reply.
- Open-ended questions are usually better than regular "yes-no" questions, because there's more to say. For example, "Do you like watching comedy films?" Chances are you will only get a yes or no reply. Meanwhile if you send the question "What movies do you like?" chances are you'll get a longer, more specific reply, making it easier for you to continue this conversation.
Step 3. Tell me something new or about to happen
If you're trying to break the deadlock of a chat for the first time, you should be able to send an unimpressive message out of the blue, and for no apparent reason or trigger. Talk about something that you both enjoy, or that both affect you.
- For example, if there is a school event that night, you might ask "Are you coming to the game/show/dance party tonight?" You can even ask her to come with you (or with you and other friends, if you're too shy about asking her out right away).
- You can also share something that you both have experienced, such as "That's weird, huh? We met at Starbucks earlier!" or "Mr. Smith shouted really loud in English class today, didn't he?"
Step 4. Talk about things that interest her
If you know he likes a certain band, TV show, or movie, ask him about it! Ask him what he thinks about the latest episode, or if there's a song from the band that he suggests. This will show that you really care about his opinion, while also remembering what he likes and doesn't like.
- This topic is perfect because people can get really excited about their favorite band or show. He certainly loved talking about it, watching it, and wanting to know more about it. Meeting people who are interested in the same things as us is a very happy thing.
- If you disagree about something, don't panic! A fun little debate about "the best Beatles song" can help you get to know each other, as well as being funny and interesting. Just don't insult him or say anything that offends him during an argument.
Step 5. Add a smiley symbol
This symbol can be sweet and seductive, but also innocent enough that it won't come across as too bold or aggressive. Just slip the smiley symbol and he'll notice it;).
- If you're hesitant to use it, start by inserting a smile symbol at the end of the sentence. Like "Have you seen the latest episode of New Girl? That's great!:)"
- In general, flashing symbols are more seductive and have multiple meanings. Don't use the blinking symbol in messages that are usually sent with a smiley symbol, as this can seem awkward and confusing.
- Try not to overuse emoticons, as this can confuse them and come across as rude.
Step 6. Get on with your conversation
Once the conversation starts off well, make sure to continue it well too!
- Read the article on how to text your crush, if you need more ideas.
- When you're ready, send out an invitation to meet--whether it's a date, casual chat, or hanging out with friends. Texting is fun, but talking to him face-to-face is a way to take your relationship to a more serious level.
Part 2 of 2: Knowing When to Stop Texting
Step 1. Stop texting if he's not interested
If he doesn't seem interested (such as taking long, infrequent replies, or sending short, one-word replies), you might want to consider stopping texting, especially if he asks you directly, stop.
- You're just wasting time if he doesn't want to talk to you. Find other beautiful girls to message you.
- If you keep texting him, even though he has asked you to stop, you could be harassing or bothering him.
Step 2. Call or talk in person if you have something important to say
While texting is great for getting to know someone or reducing the tension of having a face-to-face conversation with someone you just met, there are a lot of conversations that shouldn't be done via text. This conversation includes:
- Ask him out on a date. If you want to ask someone out, do so in person or over the phone, but don't ask them via text, unless your event is very casual and not very important.
- Deciding on a girlfriend. If you want to end a relationship with someone, respect them and talk to them in person or over the phone, but don't use text messages to send this hurtful news. Such actions are cowardly and childish.
- Deliver advice or suggestions on serious issues. If he's recently lost a close family member, or is going through a difficult personal situation, a text message can be a way of conveying "I'll call you to talk about it later." But don't use text messages to replace your personal interactions in difficult times. A friend needs to hear your voice to know that you support them.
- When in doubt, ask yourself if it's really important or meaningful, or just casual and casual. Text messages are usually used to convey less important and/or more casual things than a face-to-face conversation or over the phone, so if you want someone to take you seriously, or know that what you have to say means a lot to you, avoid sending it through text messages..
Step 3. Carefully consider the message you are sending
Keep in mind that short messages are written and sometimes you can't delete the photographic archive. Never send something you don't want to be abused by an irresponsible person, whether the recipient of your message sent it to someone else, or spread your message because their phone was lost or stolen.
- Do not send sexual messages or nude pictures unless you are of legal age and the recipient of your message has permission to receive them. It is against the law to distribute child pornography and pornography, even if you are a minor. In addition, it is also against the law to ask a minor to send obscene messages. Sharing a naked picture of someone without their permission could result in a criminal libel charge.
- Never invite or discuss unlawful acts, because short message files can be evidence in court.
- Using text messages as a means of channeling anger towards your boss, parent, teacher, or anyone else who shouldn't see the content of your message is reckless. While you may trust the recipient of your message, you can't control what happens if their phone is lost or stolen, or if one of your friends snoops or sees their messages by mistake.
