No one ever said that asking a girl out was easy, especially at school, when their minds were fickle and unpredictable. However, that does not mean that it is impossible! If you have a good strategy, stay calm, and understand how to win her heart, then this girl will become your boyfriend in no time. If you want to know how to ask a girl out, check out the first steps here.
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing to Invite
Step 1. Be friends first
If you want to date a girl at school, you have to get to know each other first. You don't have to be his best friend all the time, it's even better if that doesn't happen because you don't want to end up in the “friend zone”. However, being friends does help because it allows you to be around him and makes him think you're a good guy. If he doesn't know you at all, or if he only knows you through gossip and guesswork, then the chances of getting a 'yes' answer from him are slim when you ask him out.
- Be friendly. Say hello to him and say his name to show if you think about him.
- If you're in a group, ask him how his day was or compliment him.
- Pay some attention to him. Wave if he walks past you in the corridor or if he sits next to you in class.
- Remember that you shouldn't overdo it to get his attention. In fact, you can go a little bit of a tug to get his attention.
Step 2. Tease him
If you want to date him, you have to build chemistry first. You should tease him a bit to see if the two of you can chat, joke, and have a real connection. You can compliment her new outfit, tease her a little (if she's not overly sensitive) or joke with her in a way that will make her realize how you feel.
If you're in a group, focus on him but don't monopolize his time. Make him want to flirt with you too instead of making him wait for you to start
Step 3. See if he likes you too
While there's no surefire way to know how he feels until you ask him out, you can watch for some signs that he likes you. Knowing if he might like you can boost your confidence when it's time to ask out:
- He might completely ignore you or focus his attention on you in the group
- He may smile or blush when he meets your gaze
- His friends will probably whisper or giggle when they walk past you
- You have a nice and seductive feeling when you talk to him
- Other people have teased you who like each other
- He always seems to find an excuse to talk to you
- See how often he touches you and see if he gives silly reasons for this. It doesn't mean he likes you if he touches you once or twice.
Step 4. Choose the right time and place to ask
If you want to ask her out, you don't have to pick the perfect time and place. However, it will be better if you choose a good opportunity to increase the odds. If he wants to date you, he will say yes under any circumstances. However, you can increase your chances of acceptance by choosing a place that is private enough without making him uncomfortable, and choosing a time when he is in a good mood and his mind is not easily distracted or stressed.
You don't have to wait too long to get the perfect moment. Girls at school can be very fickle, so when you think you have a good moment to ask her, do it instead of waiting for the perfect moment
Step 5. Think of things you can do together
When you ask her out, you may have to think of something to do together. This may seem obvious, but you may be so focused on the answer that you don't think about what will happen after you ask him. Even though at school some people just want to ask you out when they ask this question, it's always a good idea to think of something to do together, so that when he says 'yes', you can say, Great! What if we…” instead of saying, “Great! Um… uh… so, see you at school.” Here are some activities you can ask about:
- Going to the upcoming school dance
- Watching currently showing movies
- Watch the concert
- Go to the mall together
- Dropping him off after school
- Go to a birthday party together
Part 2 of 3: Asking Her On a Date
Step 1. Look for a little privacy
Make sure you're alone with her so her friends don't giggle and tease you, but aren't isolated so she doesn't feel safe. Choose a time and place such as after school, near the lockers, at a small party, or even after the school dance. Try not to ask before school hours because he may be thinking about what to do that day and this will distract him. Also, don't ask questions before exams or other important matters.
Pick a time when he's not stressed or sad and check to see if he's in a good mood when you approach him
Step 2. Radiate confidence
Confidence is half the battle in a match, but act a little nervous so you look like you really like it. Nonetheless, being a very confident person was pointless if he wasn't interested. Confidence will help if he is really interested in you. You just have to lift your head, smile, and remember to breathe and let your body relax. Even if you're sweating profusely or your stomach is churning, you need to be calm when you talk to him. After a while you will feel more confident!
You don't have to be arrogant. Simply acting like you're a cool guy can make the girl you're dating feel good about dating you. Make sure that you don't look weird and different from everyday life
Step 3. Small talk
You probably don't want to just say, "Hey, will you go on a date with me?" This will seem very sudden, even to most outspoken girls. While you don't want to make small talk too long, give both of you a minute or two to get comfortable so you feel ready to ask him out and he feels ready to answer your questions. Just say hello, ask how he's doing, and think of a thing or two to talk about before asking.
If it's pretty obvious that you're going to ask her out and you're always staring at the floor, this might be a good time to say something
Step 4. Ask him
You don't have to ask at length. Just say, “I really enjoyed spending time with you. Would you like to date me?” Or, “Will you be my girlfriend?” Make sure your sentences are short but sweet and watch his face to see how he feels. You don't need to list 20 reasons why you like him or convince him that you'd be the best girlfriend. Just give one or two sentences that can make you ask questions easily. After that, all you can do is wait for an answer.
Make eye contact when asking questions instead of looking down at the floor. He will be impressed by your confidence
Step 5. Give the correct reaction
After asking her out, she will have few choices but to accept or reject you. If he accepts, hug him, smile big, and tell him you can't wait to date him while dancing happily. Let him know that you're really looking forward to a date with him and you think he's a cool girl. Now go ahead and execute all your plans, you already know how it ends!
If he doesn't want to date you, don't be discouraged. Say thank you for talking to you and make a honorable ending. Don't be mean to him, kick the locker, or look like a coward. Remember that you want him to think you're cool even if he doesn't want to be your boyfriend. Don't forget, there are still a lot of fish in the sea, especially at school
Part 3 of 3: Another Way to Ask a Date
Step 1. Ask her out at the school dance
School dance parties are a great place to ask girls out. Wait for a slow song, ask him to dance, and ask him if he wants to be your girlfriend at the end of the song. You'll know if you have a chance or not when you look him in the eye while dancing. You can also use the dance as an excuse to ask her out. While this can be a bit more direct and a bit depressing, it's a good reason to ask her out!
The atmosphere of the school dance party is a little more romantic than the atmosphere of the school cafeteria at lunch time. So if you ask her out at the dance, chances are she's thinking about romance. However, the downside is that it may be very difficult to separate him from his friends
Step 2. Write him a message
If you think you're really good at writing, write a nice short letter that says you like her and want to be her boyfriend. This is a fun way to surprise him and release the heavy pressure of having to say it in person. Make sure you know if he gets your message, whether you give it in person or stick it in his book or in his locker.
Tell me to reply via mail. Either way, there's nothing to worry about because he won't see your reaction
Step 3. Have your friends talk to him
This is the last option. If you're super shy but want to ask her out and have a friend or two who are brave and have the charisma to talk to her (without getting her too excited), then you can get one of your friends to tell her. Make sure they really understand what to say and won't make you look like a coward or misunderstand your intentions.
If you want to get a trusted friend to ask the girl, you may want to coach your friend. This may sound silly, but you'll be grateful that you prepared your friend so well for this big step
Step 4. Call him
You can also ask her out on the phone if you prefer talking on the phone. Call him (make sure you have his number) and ask if he wants to date you. For this step, it's very important to think about what the two of you are going to do together so you don't just ask him out and then try to end the conversation weirdly. You can also ask a friend for her number if she's willing to give it. After that, he may have anticipated when you called.
Step 5. Give him a small gift
If you're already friends with her or know each other well and you know what she might like, you can give her beautiful but inexpensive jewelry, CDs, books, notebooks, or something she might like without confusing her or making her feel uncomfortable. convenient because your gift is too good. You can also ask her out on a date when you give her the gift, or even insert a message inside the gift so you can take off the heavy burden of having to ask her directly.
Step 6. Write in chalk
This maneuver would be quite surprising. If you really like him, write, "Would you like to date me, (name)?" outside using chalk and take him for a walk to show him. Sure, it would be embarrassing if he turned you down, but imagine how sweet it would be if he accepted you via message on chalk!
Step 7. Take him through the food
Buy her favorite cake or dessert and have someone write, "Would you like to date me?" with icing. This may sound cheesy, but if you manage to do it, he'll be impressed by your attention and creativity and won't be able to resist you. Just make sure your hands don't shake when writing messages and the rest will go well!
Tips
- Don't get too attached to him. This is very disturbing for the girls and will scare them.
- It might look tough, but don't stare at her body! This will make him think that you are a pervert and creepy.
- Don't act like a jerk if he rejects you. And don't flaunt yourself and your life, he'll think you're thinking too much about yourself.
- Act like an educated person. Don't swear or speak harshly. Maturity is an attractive quality.
- Don't make him really not want to date you. There are few things worse than not knowing if the girl you like likes you too. It's even better to know if he doesn't like you.
- Do not ask via text message or online. This will make the relationship unstable and will not last long.
- Make sure he knows you and don't tell anyone you like him until it's time to ask him out. If you tell a friend, make sure he's someone you can trust or at least threaten him with.
- Don't think that overly clingy girls are adorable. This could mean that he is desperate. Also, don't ask her out without seeing signs that she likes you. This may sound cruel, but you can make sure he sees you when he flirts with other girls. If he looks jealous, this is a good sign.
- If he refuses, don't ask another girl out right away. You have to wait.
- Don't worry about what other people say. Do what you and he want and forget what other people say.
Warning
- Whatever you do, don't ask her out via text. This will look really bad and can destroy his chances of accepting you. Talking to him shows that you really care about him and aren't playing games.
- Remember that he probably likes you too. All worth a try.
- Don't put yourself down, because it will make him feel awkward and reject you. You have to be confident when interacting with him.
- If you spend too much time around him, he may think you're creepy and make you less likely to be accepted. Spend time with your friends too.
- If he accepts you, don't kiss him or make sudden physical contact. This will frighten him.
- If he refuses, remember that you will still meet many girls during your school days.
- As much as possible avoid crying if he rejects you. Say something like, “Okay, there's no harm in trying. Let me know if you change your mind.”
