Selling hard is a great way to get a guy's attention and make him see that you're worth pursuing. However, you need to do it in a balanced way. You have to appear mysterious and playable, but not too cocky so that he doesn't think it's impossible to date you. So, how do you go on sale while still making a guy want you? Read this article to learn about it.
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Part 1 of 3: Make Him Want You
Step 1. Let him see that you are enjoying your time alone
Yes, right. You have to be a woman herself who has a full life while letting the man see your actions. Living alone is fun: you can meet lots of new people, have fun with female friends, and go out without knowing what the night will bring. Let the guy see you laugh, dance, and love life as a single person, instead of desperately trying to find a partner, or feeling sad that you don't have that special someone.
- If a guy sees you having fun on your own, he'll want to be a part of your life even more.
- You should enjoy the time you spend living alone. You won't have it for life.
Step 2. Flirt with him a little
If you want him to want you, you have to seduce him a little. If he thinks of you as a cold person, who doesn't want to spend a bit of his time, he'll soon lose interest. So, flirt a little when you see him, but don't do this for too long. All you have to do is make eye contact, smile and chat a bit before saying you should leave. Do not be rude; but don't be too enthusiastic either.
- Play with her hair while you talk to her.
- Laugh and look at the floor; let him see you blush a little.
- If you know each other well enough, give him a pat or a light touch on the arm. This really reflects the attitude of selling expensive.
Step 3. Seduce other men
If you want to sell high, then make sure that the guy you like doesn't think he's the only one who has a chance to win your heart. You have to seduce some other guys without playing them or being too obvious about it; Let the man you want see that you are the woman that many men want. This doesn't mean you have to do something or anything that makes you look cheap; just make sure he sees that you also enjoy talking to other guys.
Think of seducing other men as a way to keep some options
Step 4. Amaze him with your confidence
Men want women who are confident and believe in themselves at a healthy level. No guy wants to date a girl who seems self-conscious, just so he can help her deal with all her insecurities. This is actually natural, everyone is insecure in certain ways. However, the more you try to love yourself for who you are, how you look, and what you do, the more attractive you will become to a man.
- Make the guy think that you are great and he will only make you feel great; instead of making you feel whole.
- If you want to feel confident, then you have to appear confident. Walk with your head held high and your eyes straight ahead instead of staring at the floor, and smile at every opportunity.
Step 5. Be the center of attention at a party
This doesn't mean you have to dance at the table or laugh too hard just to get some guys noticed. This means that you should have fun wherever you are, act a little crazy, and really enjoy the time you're spending in life - whatever you're doing. Men are attracted to women who are fun magnets, and if you're the heartbeat of a party, the guy you want will want to be next to you more often.
And if you're in a bad mood or just not very excited, go home. It's better to do this when you're feeling bad, than to force yourself to have fun
Step 6. Don't give out your phone number the first time you meet him
If he asks for your phone number, be a little smart. Don't give it away right away; make him try to get it. Don't be rude, but don't act like you're ready to go out into the ocean of romance with him either.
Step 7. Don't agree to the first date he offers
If he asks you out on a Sunday, tell him you're busy. Give him another chance to ask you out.
Part 2 of 3: Staying Mysterious
Step 1. Don't be spoiled
If you want to sell high, you absolutely can't be spoiled. Yes, your third date may go very well, but that doesn't mean you have to start calling or texting the guy every hour to find out where he is and when you can date again. Even if you know he likes you, keep your distance, cut down on public intimacy, and let him see that you too are someone who has interests and schedules of his own.
- When you want to be around him 24 hours and 7 days a week, he will start to rethink your relationship.
- When you call him, don't call him just to find out how he's doing and what he's doing. Call him to make plans or talk about something concrete so you don't seem desperate.
- Make sure you give him some of what he wants. If he wants to see you every day, make sure you see him at least once or twice a week. Don't be afraid to spoil him because you never have enough time to spend with him.
Step 2. Don't be too available either
If you want to stay mysterious, don't always agree to spend time with him whenever he wants. If he asks what your plans are for the weekend on Tuesday or Wednesday, let him know that you have your own agenda, but you're free the following weekend night. If he texts one day and wants to see you in just a few hours, let him know you have plans; don't let him think that you will always be there for him so he can contact you anytime.
Make sure you create balance. Don't pretend you're so busy that you never spend time with him. Don't make yourself look like you're always unemployed
Step 3. Make him want even more
If you really want to sell high, don't open yourself up completely. You should go out with him, spend some time alone or do whatever you want, and come home while you're still having fun and enjoying each other's company. This doesn't mean you have to make excuses when you're making out, but it does mean that you should leave it when you feel attracted to each other, instead of waiting too long for both of you to get bored.
- If you're staying overnight, come home after a morning cuddle or breakfast session; don't stay until noon.
- One thing for sure: don't sleep with him right away. If you're just starting out, don't let him think that you're always ready to sleep with him anytime and anywhere.
Step 4. Do everything slowly
Don't rush into a relationship if you want it to last. If you start talking about the number of kids you want or force her to see your parents and closest friends after the third date, she'll walk away. Instead of doing this, start by seeing her only once a week, and don't rush into contacting her unless you really have to talk about something. Also, cut back on compliments or affection until you get to know each other better.
It's tempting to rush into a relationship that feels right. However, if you want to keep him interested, keep your distance from him -- up to a point
Step 5. Keep pursuing your own interests
If you want to stay mysterious, do things that make you happy besides spending time with him. This will show him that you are independent, confident in yourself and know what you are passionate about and that you are not afraid to pursue it. Don't cancel your weekly yoga or art classes just because they don't fit into the guy's schedule; in fact, tell him that you are going to do your own hobby, and he will like you more for it.
- Your schedule should be busy enough to give you time to do the things you enjoy, but not so busy that you only have time every three weeks for a date.
- Don't be afraid to talk about the things you love with him, even if they may be too general. This will only make him more attracted to you.
Step 6. Have fun with your girl friends
Keep up the good work by spending a night out on the town with your girlfriends. Don't spend all your time with the guy and forget all your single friends; keep on dancing, eating or doing whatever you like with your girl friends. And when you do, tell the guy. He may be a little jealous at the thought of what you and your friends would do without him.
- Even if you're just having fun, make him a little jealous so he realizes he actually likes you a lot more.
- Keeping in touch with female friends will also allow you to maintain a life outside your relationship and avoid the risk of being in an obsessive relationship.
Step 7. Keep your schedule mysterious
This doesn't mean you have to lie or completely cover up what you're going to be doing on the weekend. But hey, if you're busy next Saturday because you have plans to visit your grandma's birthday party, let her know you have plans of your own and make her wonder what you're up to; you're not lying, are you? If you tell him all the details of your plans and he knows exactly what you're up to each day of the week, he'll think he has complete control over you.
If you're having a busy week, don't tell him everything you're going to do. Just tell him you're busy
Step 8. Show him you're interested, but don't overdo it
Even when you're trying to stay mysterious, make sure the guy really knows that you like him. Compliment him, ask how he's doing, and publicly show that you care. If you want him to stay around you, make a little effort.
A simple compliment can go a long way. Try to give him at least one compliment every time you spend time with him
Part 3 of 3: Maintaining Relationships
Step 1. Don't forget to tell him how you feel
This can be a little tricky to do, but once you get the hang of it, you'll get used to it. Even though you may be determined to sell it hard and keep it mysterious, you still have to let the guy know how you feel if you want to keep it. You don't have to declare love right away or tell him about the qualities you like about him, but hey, if you do, be honest with him. Let him know that you enjoy dating him, spending time with him, liking his quirky sense of humor, or whatever. If you don't give him a reason to keep trying, he will soon lose interest.
And don't give him mixed signals either. Telling her that she's hot, in order to further distance herself from her, will only confuse her. This will not interest him
Step 2. Recognize that the approach is never ending
Even if you say "I love you" and prepare to say "I do," you can still be expensive to some degree. This means that, in all successful and long-lasting relationships, the flirting process never really ends. Both you and your partner need to keep each other happy and keep things interesting, fun, and flexible. Don't stop flirting, pretending to be shy, or making your partner want you anyway, as long as he does the same.
While the approach is never-ending, you don't have to sell out all the time once you're in a serious relationship. Try to reduce mind games while still keeping your guy attracted to you
Step 3. Maintain your independence
If you're getting a guy's attention for a big deal to start with, then you can't stop him from doing it and let him think that you'd give up everything that's important just to be with him. While you may have to adjust your schedule to make time for your loved one, you should also keep pursuing your interests, spending time with female friends, exercising, or doing whatever else you enjoy before meeting the guy.
If the two of you continue to spend time apart doing your own thing, you will maintain a mutual attraction. You'll be much happier when you meet him after being apart for a while
Step 4. Balance upsell and openness to love
If you really want to be serious in a relationship, stop being so mysterious and let love lead you. You should still let your partner see that you're wanted by a lot of men and that you're an interesting person with lots of activities, but you shouldn't make him feel like you like another guy, or that your heart isn't really in the relationship you're in.
Ultimately, you'll need to open up and spend more time if you're ready for a long-term relationship. But if you're not ready and still want to have fun, keep on selling high
Tips
- Don't avoid him at school, but don't follow him either. Act as normal as you normally are.
- Play with your hair a little, stare at a spot, or listen to the teacher in class. Act as if the man of your dreams isn't in the same place as you.
- Spend most of the time with your friends at parties and wait for them to approach you. Or, if you pass him, give him a sexy slow smile, then move away. If he approaches you, talk to him and let the conversation lead you. You can say casually, "I'm going to meet some friends. You can join me if you want."
- When dating, keep things casual, but make sure you still let him know that you want to improve your relationship. Flirt with him a little, but talk about casual things like school and friends. If you feel the time is right, tease him a little.
Warning
- Don't be cheap or desperate; this is the thing that loses interest.
- Don't always agree with everything he says: state your own opinion! Men don't like girls who are like robots!
- Don't make her too jealous by spending time with too many male friends; he will assume you are no longer interested in him.
- Do what feels natural. If you want to talk to him or seduce him, do so. If you feel like the situation is getting too overwhelming, stop and hang up on your relationship with him so he can come after you. There's no direct formula here, and you just have to use both your mind and your heart to do what feels right at any given moment.
- Don't tell your friends about it, unless your friends are trusted. Or, tell just one or two of your best friends. If a lot of people notice your attraction to him, chances are this will get to the guy, and he may lose interest.
- Don't act stupid around him! You can have fun, but guys like mature girls, so avoid being silly or deliberately stupid.
- Never be honest and tell him that you like him. He may lose interest. However, if he asks, answer "Yes, I like you." Look into his eyes, smile with your eyes, bite your lips, tilt your head to one side and tell him the truth.
- Know that not all men like girls who sell expensive. Also, if he loses interest, don't assume that he's lazy and doesn't like trying. This may be because he feels like he is the target of mind games and thinks everything you play is just hurting him. If this happens, approach him and give him what he wants if he's been trying to keep up with your game for a while.
