Showing a guy that you like him is hard enough. It can be tricky to strike a balance between being too bold or being too secretive that the guy won't even realize you like him. If you want to show a guy you like him, you have to take an interest in him by finding out about him, then giving him some hints by looking at him romantically. If you want to show a guy that you like him without looking desperate or by giving a variety of signals, follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Give Hints
Step 1. Pay attention to your appearance
Let him know you like him by trying to look good when you're with him. You do have to be who you are, but pay more attention to your hair, make-up and clothes so he will start to notice you. You don't have to wear a very tight dress or high heels when Ana is playing baseball with her, but let her know that you care about how you look when you're with her.
- Don't be afraid to be a little sexier. If you feel good about your body, then show it.
- If you're not comfortable with heavy make-up, then you don't need to follow other people just to impress them.
- Try wearing a little lip gloss, and use it when you're with him. This will make him pay more attention to your lips.
Step 2. Show your feelings through your body language
Your body language can show a guy that you have feelings for him as more than just a friend. When you are talking to him, turn your body towards him and look him in the eyes to show that he means a lot to you. Don't be distracted by turning your body the other way, looking around, or just checking your cellphone.
- Play with your hair while you are chatting with him. This will give the impression that you are a little nervous when you are around him.
- Release your eyes for a moment by staring at the floor. This will show him that you are being shy.
- Don't forget to smile. Smiling will show him that you appreciate him -- even if you have no reason to smile.
- Make sure your body stays pointed at him. If you're sitting, cross your legs toward him, not away from him. If you're standing, point your shoulders toward him.
Step 3. Flirt with him
The more you tease him, the more he will believe that you like him. You can start to tease him subtly and keep trying to make it more obvious. There are several ways to seduce a man:
- Speak in a soft voice when you're talking to him so that he leans more towards you when you're talking.
- Gently pat her on the arm, tease her, and form a fun and slightly flirty relationship to show that you really care.
- Laugh. Even if he's not as cute as you might think, laugh to make him understand how much fun you have when you're teasing him. #*Don't overdo it. Teasing him should be done gently.
Step 4. Pass the touch boundaries
As you get closer to the guy, don't be afraid to lightly hit him on the arm or shoulder when he's saying funny things. You can make physical contact if you're flirting with each other, or even give him a warm hug when you meet him. Breaking the boundaries of touch will make it easier for him to know that you want to be closer to him.
- Make sure he wants to touch you too and make sure you don't make him uncomfortable.
- If you're getting closer to him and have just finished a run or some other sport, offer to give him a massage. If he likes you, he will agree and he will start to feel how comfortable you are.
Step 5. Praise him
Complimenting a guy without having to make it clear that you like him can be tricky. You don't have to say "Wow, you're so cute" to let him know you like him. If he's gotten a haircut, or is obviously wearing a new shirt, tell him he looks cool. If he's good at something, be it Maths or making a good sandwich, compliment him.
You can make compliments more personal by complimenting aspects of their personality. You can say, "Did you know you're really funny?" Or, "You always know how to make me feel better."
Step 6. Ask him if he likes someone
This is the most subtle way to show you like it, but it can be a bit tricky. Just casually ask if he likes someone, or even talk about what he's looking for in a girlfriend. Let him open up and see if he likes someone or what he is looking for in a lover. Be careful -- let him assume you're asking him for your personal motives and not just as a talker for his love life.
Step 7. Tell him that you are open to having a girlfriend
Tell him casually that you're looking for someone to date and that you're really looking forward to having a girlfriend. Don't let it sound depressing – show him you've thought it through. You can be a little more clear about the qualities of a man you want in a boyfriend and make a list of the things that make him special in your eyes.
Step 8. Get him to take you out for a walk
You can try asking the guy to take you out for a walk as a way of showing him that you like him. Just casually talk about your upcoming plans or tell him your schedule, and see if he wants to do something if he knows you're not busy. You can tell him, "I may not know what I'm going to do tomorrow night, but I do know that I want to do something fun," and wait for his response.
You can take advantage of your common preferences now. Mention an upcoming sports game or say that your favorite band is having a concert in your city soon, and see if he wants to go see it
Method 2 of 3: Say You Like It
Step 1. Make sure that he likes you too
While you're not sure if he feels the same way as you, there are some signs that show how he feels for you. It's best to make sure that there's at least a chance that he likes you before you continue telling him how you feel. Here are some ways to see if he likes you more than just a friend:
- Watch what he says. Notice if he's always complimenting you, asking if you're in love with someone and if he's saying he wishes he had a girlfriend.
- Watch what he does. If he likes you, then he will find every reason to hang out with you, try to make physical contact with you, and maybe do sweet things for you like take you to lunch.
- Pay attention to his appearance. If he always pays more attention to his appearance when he knows you're going to be with him, then chances are he likes you too.
- See if he always asks you out with him. If he's always asking you to hang out, even if it's not a date, then chances are he likes you too.
Step 2. Tell him you like him
If showing him that you like him doesn't work, then maybe it's time to tell him how you feel. You should choose a time and place where you can be alone, free from stress, and just stay calm enough to tell him how you feel. Don't stress him or yourself and wait for his response.
Calm down. If he doesn't have feelings for you, at least you know that and you don't have to second guess his feelings. #*Keep smiling. Don't shower him with rushing words and saying 150 reasons why you like him so much
Step 3. Act appropriately
If he likes you, then you can give him a hug or show him how happy you are, and start talking about your next date and the continuation of your relationship. If he doesn't feel the same way as you, that's not a problem either -- you can show how mature you are by indirectly being disappointed, or getting angry because he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
- If he seems to like you, then you can laugh at the things you've done to show that you like him.
- If he doesn't like you, don't despair. You can be proud of yourself for having the courage to show your feelings and try to move on.
Method 3 of 3: Get to Know Him
Step 1. Use a friend approach
If your guy friends ask you to go out together, you've built a solid foundation for the relationship. However, if you're not very close with the guy yet, trying to be his best friend can make it easier for you to show him that you like him. If you don't know him at all and he doesn't know you much, then it's going to be harder for you to show him how you feel. Getting to know him as a friend will not only let you see if you two really get along or not, but you'll also have the opportunity to show him how awesome you are when you're relaxed.
- Start by being friendly. You don't need to take him out or tell him your deepest feelings right away. Remain calm and start building a relaxed and friendly relationship with him.
- Form friendships slowly. Don't overdo it by suddenly being around him a lot. You can slowly start spending time together.
- Do not enter the friend's area. You should try to be friends with him, but don't get too deep into a friendship that will end up feeling weird if you lead him on a romantic level.
Step 2. Use your general preferences as a starting point
If you want to get to know the guy, you can start talking about general things about yourself, from your family to your favorite sports team. If you don't have enough general likes, you can learn from him, and you can acquire some of his likes. And if you want to sound like you're interested in his favorite sports team, that's fine too.
- Most men like to talk about sports. If you both like the same sport or sports team, you can talk about it; if not, you can learn about his favorite team and casually discuss some facts.
- Use music as a binder together. See if you guys share a favorite band – if not, ask him for some suggestions of bands you might like. If you think you've deepened your friendship enough, you can even give him a CD of your favorite songs to get his attention.
- Talk about your family. Keep your conversation light and start talking about your siblings or any pets you have or have had in the past.
- See if you have the same food preferences. If he notices that you also like sushi, he's more likely to take you to a nearby sushi restaurant.
Step 3. Laugh at the same thing
Find common things that make you both laugh, whether it's friends you never get along with, or a scary poster pasted in math class. For whatever reason can make you both laugh, then you've built a deeper bond with him, while showing him how much fun you are.
- If you can find something that can make you two laugh together, then this will be a small joke that brings you closer to him.
- You can even find annoying pets to laugh with. If you both can't stand the same annoying teacher, or if you both hate a certain pop star, you can laugh about it together.
Step 4. Get to know his friends
The way to win a man's heart is to earn the respect of his friends. If you can get his friends to like you, he will be more likely to fall in love with you. Going out together and being nice to his friends will show him that you're an interesting person who can get along with anyone and this will also let him see that you're showing more interest in him. If you don't care about her, then you won't care about her friends either.
You do have to get to know his friends, but make sure that you don't stay by his side all the time, especially during men's events
Step 5. Offer friendly help
As you get to know him better, you can offer him a ride or pick him up for lunch, if it seems he needs it. If you can't do that, offer to carry the stuff. Even if it's just a casual friendship, he'll start to see that you care about him. However, make sure that he also provides assistance to you, so that your relationship does not become one-sided.
- If he misses class, offer to help take notes for him or to lend you yours.
- If you meet him while he's making coffee, you can ask him if he'd like some coffee too.
- But remember, don't overdo it. You're not his girlfriend yet, so you don't have to offer to do his laundry or grocery shopping for him.
Step 6. Ask for his mobile number
If you've been friends for a long time and hang out with him a lot, then it's natural to ask him for his cell phone number. You have to be good at playing it so it doesn't feel like you're asking her out on a date. Instead, ask for his cell phone number so you can text him when other friends are hanging out at the bar, sending out details about your upcoming party, or other things. If he's a nice guy, then he won't reject it or find it weird.
- Getting his cell phone number will increase the contact between you and him. Now you can start chatting via SMS and take your relationship to a new level.
- When you get his cell phone number, make sure you're not the only one texting him or calling him, make sure he does the same to you.
Tips
- Be yourself. A real man will love who you really are. If you're just pretending to be someone else and he likes you, someday you'll come back to your true self and he'll realize you've changed. Just stay who you are and act the same way you would when you were with your other friends.
- Don't pretend to be someone you're not
- Don't worry if you've done or said stupid things, because if he likes you, then he'll understand.
- Remember you don't have to have the same hobbies and interests as him. Men may like things that may be new to you, but you don't have to pretend to like them either. However, you can support the things that make them happy. (example: Different music likes)
- Smile at him, but don't be a cheater. By chatting with his friends you will become closer to him.
- Don't tease him too much. If you're going to tease him, tease him a little. Otherwise, the guy will realize you are flirting with him too much and will tarnish your name. You certainly don't want it.
- Calm down. If you like it, you may be able to keep talking or be completely silent. Try to talk a little, but not too much. Never interrupt the conversation!
- If you like him, go with him (but don't overdo it- don't make you a big flirt).
- Don't feel bad if you're too nervous to do all of this. Smile and/or wave your hand.
- Even if you have shown your feelings for him, it does not mean that you have given him permission to approach you sooner than you would like. Don't let any man use the excuse that you directed him first.
Don't be a stalker. If you know a few things about it you don't have to tell everyone or delve deeper into it. Study him as you know him.
- Flirt with him. If you're talking and hanging out with him and you have to leave, you can tell him: “I like you,” or “You're cute” and then walk away. This will give a mysterious impression. If he was really interested, he would talk about it again. Otherwise, he would not discuss it again.
- Try to increase your confidence before you talk to him. Of course this will be very helpful!
- Being mean is the scariest way to show that you are attracted to him. This is just a perception of the media. You might think this is a way to get his attention, but in the end he will think that you hate him.
- Being friends with his friends is a good thing, but don't put it too much, or your crush will start thinking that what you really like is his friend and/or just using him to get his friends. Be reasonable.
- Drama will turn a guy off, most guys don't like it.
- Don't try to hate him so he likes you. If he goes on a date with someone else, don't attack him or he'll hate you.
- Crying is something that often makes men back off
- Don't start a conversation about things that men don't understand; e.g. makeup, girl drama, or how fat you are.
- Remember some men may just be looking for a good friendship.
- If you look into each other, smile then look at something else. This shows the guy that you have him watching you and it's a way to say hi to him!
- If you don't want to tell him you like him, ask someone to tell him. Be careful of the person you turn to for help! Otherwise, things might get messy.
- Don't give it too much attention.
