Are people saying your voice is too loud? Does the high volume bother them or you? Are you inferior in your own voice? Everyone wants to be heard, but raising your voice isn't always the best approach. If you've ever been glared at in public for speaking too loudly, this article will be useful to you.
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Part 1 of 3: Communicating Effectively Without Raising Your Voice
Step 1. Try listening more than talking
Don't turn chat into a competition. For that, take the position of an active listener. Listen to what the other person is saying. Don't interrupt. Listen to their talking points instead of thinking about what you're going to say next. That way, you don't have to raise your voice to outshine their voices, but you can engage in balanced conversation.
Step 2. Take control of the environment
Try to change the environmental elements that cause you to increase the volume. If you can adjust your environment to make it ideal for listening, you won't feel the need to speak aloud.
- Block out noise from outside by closing windows and doors.
- Get closer to the other person. The further away you are from your listener, the greater the urge to raise your voice.
- Speak in the small room. The large space lets the volume spread out so you feel the need to speak louder. Choose a small room so you can communicate more quietly.
Step 3. Practice assertiveness with communication skills, not volume
Your opinion is valid and deserves to be heard. If you feel like the other person isn't listening, try the practice of communicating assertively without raising your voice.
- Understand the condition of the interlocutor. Try to find out what they're going through and say you understand by saying, "I know you've been under a lot of stress lately," or "I know you're busy, so I'll just hurry."
- Maintain a positive attitude when your words carry a negative charge. Even if you don't agree with someone, it doesn't necessarily mean you don't like them. You still have to respect him.
- Say no". Sometimes, you just need to learn to say "no". If there doesn't seem to be a solution, you can end the chat and walk away, instead of heating up the debate and raising your voice.
Step 4. Blend in the group
In a chat with a group of people, there is an urge to interrupt, outperform others, or dominate the conversation. When one person continues to make this mistake, the whole group will raise their volume.
- Wait for your chance to be heard, don't speak while the other person is still talking.
- Use body language to indicate that you want to talk. Try raising your finger, nodding, or shaking your head.
- When you finally get a chance to speak, make your point quickly before someone else interrupts you.
Part 2 of 3: Training the Voice
Step 1. Breathe from the diaphragm
Place one hand on the stomach and under the ribs. Inhale into the area and try to bring your hands up with the breath. This technique locates the breath precisely, instead of pushing the sound from the nose, chest, or mouth. Forcing sound out of all three places will result in a loud, loud volume.
As you breathe in your diaphragm, try to make a sound from where you put your hand
Step 2. Relax your throat
A tight neck will encourage you to force the sound out of your throat. Relax your throat to produce a sound that is also relaxing. Place one hand on the neck and speak normally to assess the tension in the throat.
- Drop your jaw as low as you can and yawn widely. Release the air slowly with a light murmur. Repeat several times until you feel your throat relax.
- Once your throat is relaxed, continue to lower your jaw, then exhale with a buzzing sound.
- If you feel your neck tighten, try a massage.
Step 3. Vary the volume
Varied volume helps you to be heard as well as hear your own voice. Talking at the same volume tends to make listeners stop paying attention. It's certainly frustrating and pushes you to speak even louder. So, try experimenting with different volumes.
- Volume variations allow you to be aware of the height of the sound and see the effect it has on the listener.
- Try talking almost like a whisper.
- Try to speak in a low voice until the listener asks you to increase the volume.
- Turn up the volume only in the words you want to emphasize, such as “The pizza there is the BEST!”
Step 4. Ask for help
Hearing your own voice is sometimes difficult. Ideally, you should work with a vocal coach who can also be a listener. The trainer can assess your volume and needs, then guide you in exercises that help control your voice. If a vocal coach isn't currently an accessible option, try asking your friends for feedback.
- Vocal trainers can guide breathing exercises, as well as practice various pitches and volumes of voices.
- If you're practicing alone, ask if your friend notices the difference. Ask them to point out where you started raising your voice. Don't get angry when you hear feedback. Remember that they are only trying to help.
Part 3 of 3: Identifying the Problem
Step 1. Listen to your voice when you speak
Sound reaches the inner ear in two ways, namely through air and bone. Usually, the sounds you hear while talking are a combination of the two. Some people are more sensitive to just one path.
- Listening to a recording eliminates bone-carrying sound because there is no vibration from the vocal cords to create the pathway. That's why your voice sounds different when you hear it from a recording.
- Try wearing earplugs to drown out airborne noise.
- Inner ear abnormalities can cause extra sensitivity in the bone that transfers sound to the point where you can hear the body's automatic systems, such as breathing and eye movements.
- See if removing any of these pathways will have a significant effect on your hearing.
Step 2. Test your hearing
Talking at a loud volume may be a sign of hearing loss. Signs of sensorineural hearing loss are difficulty hearing when there is a lot of background noise, and difficulty understanding what people are saying. If you experience these symptoms, see your doctor for a hearing test.
Step 3. Evaluate your competition
People in positions of power are usually trained to speak loudly and decisively, but that habit is also automatically acquired by those who are assigned or think of themselves in high positions.
- Where do you position yourself in power?
- What effect does it have on the people around you?
- Is there any benefit if you reduce the intensity of your vocals so you can communicate on the same level?
Step 4. Question your motives
Some people speak too loudly because they feel they are not being heard. The feeling of not being heard is also manifested by repeated speech. If you do this a lot, the reason you talk aloud may have something to do with the need to be heard.
