Do you feel the need to lie to protect other people's feelings, to run away from problems, or to simply manipulate someone? In fact, telling an effective lie isn't as easy as turning the palm of your hand, especially since the consequences are huge when your lie is finally exposed. Therefore, try to take the time to develop a detailed plan, train yourself regularly, and remember every detail that is presented so that you can become a good liar!
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Part 1 of 3: Plotting Lies
Step 1. Bending the truth
Lying actually requires a harder mental effort than telling the truth. To eliminate as much mental effort as you need to prepare, get to know your lie well before telling it. Then try to bend the truth instead of making up the whole story. In other words, make it easier for others to believe your lies by providing realistic details.
- For example, instead of claiming to be going to a party when you didn't, try to actually go to the party, but lie about details like who you went with and what you did there.
- If you're actually dining at a restaurant with your family, try lying by saying that you're eating with your date. However, don't lie about the food you eat.
Step 2. Tell a believable lie
Try to think, can you believe the lie yourself when you hear it? Otherwise, it's likely that other people will also have a hard time believing it. Therefore, try to put yourself in the other person's shoes, and think about all the questions they might ask. Doing so will help you to detect “holes” in your story.
- For example, admitting to going to a party would be unwise if the people closest to you already know that you rarely go to parties.
- Also consider the personality and characteristics of the person you are lying to. By doing so, you'll find out which types of lies are easier for them to believe. Remember, a trick that works for one person may not necessarily work for another, you know!
Step 3. Learn to tell lies
Stand in front of the mirror and practice your words. If you're not prepared well, you're more likely to be tempted to make up something unprepared when you lie. As a result, your lies will be more easily realized by the other person!
- Try recording your voice and/or picture when you're lying. Then, try to detect any pauses that sound awkward, or behaviors that could increase your risk of being caught.
- The more you practice, the more perfect the results will be. With regular practice, it should help you to tell lies smoothly and sound natural when the time comes.
Step 4. Don't involve other people
If possible, don't involve other people in your lies! The more people who find out about your lies, the more likely you are to be caught. If you really need someone else's help to protect you, just give them the information they need to know, and don't go into detail about your entire plan.
- For example, if you have to secretly leave the house to attend a party, don't share the details of your activities with your closest friends. Instead, simply say, "If someone asks me what I'm doing on Friday night, just say you don't know, okay?"
- If you want to lie about the identity of the person you're traveling with, share your location with close friends, but don't name the person you're traveling with. That way, they can confirm your location without leaking information about the identity of the person you're with.
Part 2 of 3: Telling Lies
Step 1. Tell a short lie
When lying, humans have a tendency to add unnecessary information and details, and which they don't usually do. As a result, the interlocutor will begin to question the oddity. After all, doing so will increase your risk of fabricating nonsensical information.
- For example, it's better to say, "I woke up late this morning," than, "I drank coffee last night because I had to stay up late to finish this project. In the end, I couldn't sleep. Once I was able to sleep, I had a hard time getting up this morning.”
- Make sure you only answer the questions that are asked.
Step 2. Show your confidence
If you can't believe a lie yourself, how can anyone else believe it? Therefore, be sure that you are able to deceive the desired target, especially because low self-confidence will definitely be seen in the way you deliver. As a result, your lies are prone to be caught by him!
- If anxiety begins to arise and the other person starts asking questions, don't forget to prepare the answers.
- For example, if the person asks about your condition or mentions your poor speech, try saying, "I'm sorry, I'm stressed because of school/work issues, here."
Step 3. Lie when your bladder is full
In contrast to natural honesty, lying actually requires you to control your natural will and access your inhibitory control (the body's ability to suppress responses to irrelevant stimuli). When the urge to urinate occurs, your body activates inhibitory control so you don't go to the toilet while you're talking. By practicing self-control in this area, you will find it easier to refrain from telling the truth. As a result, your lies will sound more convincing!
- Drink as much water as possible, at least 45 minutes before you plan to lie.
- This method will only work if the urge to urinate really arises. Be careful, exercising self-control early won't help your lies when the time comes. Most importantly, try not to smile or laugh when you lie!
Step 4. Move your body naturally
When speaking, humans tend to perform a variety of simple gestures. Therefore, do not sit or stand rigidly so that the other person does not pick up on your lies. If you've always been talking while gesticulating, don't forget to do it when you're lying.
Don't cover your mouth, throat, chest, head, or stomach when you lie. All of them indicate that you are not telling the truth
Step 5. Observe your facial expressions
Do not make excessive eye contact. Remember, humans will naturally avert their eyes and move their eyes in all directions when they are talking. That's why looking into the other person's eyes too intensely actually indicates that you may be lying.
Don't move your head awkwardly either. People tend to tilt their head to one side or lower them when they are lying
Part 3 of 3: Hiding Traces of Lies
Step 1. Write down the lies you tell
After lying, the next step you need to do is to "live" the lie. Of course, that step won't work if you don't remember the details, right? That's why it's best to write down the details of what you say on a piece of paper. Also write down the questions asked by the other person at that moment along with the responses you gave.
- Remember, the person you're talking to may come back to ask questions about the lie. When this situation occurs, make sure you provide the exact same information as before.
- Lying is very easy. Unfortunately, keeping these lies from being discovered is actually as difficult as moving mountains.
Step 2. Hide traces of your lies
Don't leave any evidence that could expose your lies! In particular, beware of social media! If you say A but your social media pages say otherwise, the lie will automatically get caught, right?
- Don't leave a trail of lies on your computer or phone. Both are very easy to track down and can increase your chances of getting caught.
- If you have written traces of lies on paper, cut the paper into small pieces and throw it away immediately.
Step 3. Don't tell another lie
Lying requires you to have a good memory. The more lies you tell, the harder it will be to manage them. If your brain has to manage more than one lie, you fear that sooner or later things will come to light.
- Therefore, do not lie to more than one person.
- Over time, it will help you to remember the lies that were told more easily.
Step 4. Don't get caught telling another lie
If caught lying, of course, other people will have a hard time believing you or even labeling you as a liar. As a result, they may also misunderstand your honesty as a lie in the future.
- Plan your lies and keep them to a minimum.
- Make sure you tell the truth more often than lie to gain more confidence from others.
Step 5. Know when it's time to give up
When caught lying, of course you have to cover it up with another lie, right? As a result, one lie can multiply into five to six lies, and you may have to lie a lot more than planned. If that's the case, it's better to end your series of lies with an honest confession.
- If you want to admit a lie, you can say, “I've been dishonest about _. I'm really sorry, huh."
- If guilt starts to creep in, admitting it will definitely make you feel better.
Tips
- Try not to laugh or smile when you lie so others don't notice.
- Don't look away or keep moving your body. Be as relaxed as possible!
- Tell lies and truth with the same emotion.
- Don't stutter or mumble so that your lie doesn't get caught by the other person.
- Try adding embarrassing details because someone who is lying is almost impossible to slip in a story that makes their image look bad.
- If you have trouble looking the other person in the eye, try looking at a spot on their forehead.
- Emphasize each intonation that is spoken to give the impression that you just want the matter to end quickly. By doing so, the other person will realize that their attempts to upset you are futile.
- Breathe normally. Don't change your breathing pattern or rhythm while lying!
