Sending naughty messages, or sexting, is a great way to stimulate your crush and take your relationship to the next level -- as long as you're sending it to the right person at the right time. If you want to know how to send a naughty message that will tickle your partner's cravings when you send the "message" button, follow these steps.
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Part 1 of 3: Starting a Sexy Message Session
Step 1. Check the waves
Even if you've been dating this girl or boy for months, sexting may not be comfortable for him. Therefore, it is important that you check the waves before you send them naughty messages and make them lose interest. Start with a simple greeting like, "hey, honey" or "hey, sexy," and try to see how he responds.
- If you're not very obvious in your initial message, you can evade and say you weren't trying to send a naughty message if your partner is angry and accuses you of trying to start something.
- Start with a cryptic naughty message. If you just say, "How are you?" it will be more difficult to make the transition to a sexier message. It's a good idea to send messages that are slightly directional so that the person you're sending the message to understands your point.
- You can also say, "I'm a little bored. I think I need something exciting in my life."
- Say something like: "I saw a girl who looked exactly like you in the movie I was watching. She's really hot--but you're way sexier."
Step 2. Wait for him to respond with a sexy message
When he responds to the message in your favor, it's time to play. If you feel that he is also playing games, you can increase the level of mischief in the messages you send, but do it little by little. Try to be patient while waiting for a reply from him. If you wait too long, you may lose interest and you could have another day of fun.
- Don't keep sending naughty messages if there's no response. If he checked his cell phone and found so many naughty messages, he would be confused.
- If he's not interested, don't force it. Hurry up and apologize and get on with your day, there's no need to dramatize the situation.
Part 2 of 3: Continue the Game
Step 1. Improve the game
Keep sending naughty messages and make them more visible. You can also send a message indicating that you will stop by his place to realize the naughty words you sent him. If the girl you're texting says she's taking sex lessons, you can ask if you can come practice with her. Here are some other things that could be said to improve the game:
- "Wait a minute, I want to get dressed first."
- "It's so hot in here. I'm going to take my shirt off, ah."
- "What are you wearing on this hot night?"
- "How about I show you what I mean?"
- "Can you guess what color my panties are?"
Step 2. If he responds as expected, step up the game again
If you see that the person likes the naughty messages they send and perhaps wants more, you can make the conversation more vivid. You could mention meeting him in person, or about touching yourself or undressing. Here are some things you can say:
- "I just took off all my clothes, and now I'm lying under the covers."
- "I was going to text you, but I guess it's better if you close your eyes and imagine you're here."
- "What would you do if you were beside me now?"
- "It's cold in here. How about you come here so you can warm me up?"
- "Sorry, long reply. My hands are a little busy."
Step 3. Get creative
If you and your partner are really into naughty texts, you can keep texting each other until you start touching yourself or making plans to meet up. Whatever will happen, use imagination and creativity in sending messages so that he doesn't feel bored. Try to send as detailed a message as possible with the best possible description, and try to respond quickly so that he knows that you give him your full attention. Here are some things you can say:
- "If you were here, I would have stroked your hair. But after that I must have stroked the others too…"
- "I'm so excited I can barely text you."
- "I'm wearing a tight shirt. Want me to take it off?"
- "I took off your belt because I wanted to whip you with it…"
- "I just finished taking a shower so my hair is soaking wet. Do you have a towel?"
Part 3 of 3: Finishing Strongly
Step 1. Have fun while masturbating together
If the naughty messages are pointing you both in the right direction, you and your partner can start undressing slowly and start touching yourself. If both of you really want it, this can be a fun activity. Tell each other what is being done to each other, what is being done to yourself, and what would be done if you and the other person were really together.
- Don't hold yourself back and keep talking naughty until you both reach orgasm.
- You can say, "I want my [verb] [body part]." This message can make this sexy experience feel more real.
- Tell him how your body feels when the two of you exchange naughty messages. Describe every little sensation you feel, even what you're feeling in your toes.
Step 2. Meet the person you are messaging
Masturbating together is fun, but doing it right away is also fun. If your conversation is in that direction, you can ask him if he'd like you to come, or you can invite him over to your place. If these naughty messages are clearly pointing that way, you can suggest him to come to your place, and do it plainly. Here are some things you can say:
- "I'm trying to imagine how hot you are, but I'd rather see you in person."
- "How about you climb into bed beside me? I want to see if it will be as sexy as my shadow or not."
- "I'm trying to guess the color of your panties. How am I supposed to know I'm right, huh?"
- "How about we continue this in person? I'm tired of using both my hands to just send messages."
- "How about I go over there? I'm near where you are too. That's if you want, though."
Step 3. End this message exchange
Whether you ended the exchange because you went to his place or because you both got what you wanted, it's best to end it politely. You can also end the message because you both have had fun with the naughty text exchange and it's time to end it. For whatever reason, you have to be subtle and end it with a sexy feel.
- Don't end the message by saying, "Bye!" or "See you!" Try saying, "I can't wait to text you again." Or, "I'll text you later, when I'm lonely on a hot night." Stimulate the person's desire to hear from you.
- Don't divert the conversation to an unsexy topic at the end of the conversation. Don't say, "By the way, are you going to Kelley's birthday party tomorrow, aren't you?" Save that question for another time.
- If you're ending the conversation because you're about to meet the person, say, "I can't wait to get on with this when we meet" and head straight for the place to take this naughty exchange of messages to the next level, physically.
Tips
- Women generally like to hear/read things that are sensual/romantic. Men usually like it when a woman takes control and tells her what you're going to do with her.
- Get to know the person you're messaging. It's best not to text a girl you just met or someone whose phone number you just got the night before. Not everyone likes naughty messages and almost nobody likes naughty messages at the start of a relationship, so make sure you're texting someone who is comfortable with this type of communication and won't be shocked when they receive a message like this from you. You can send this message to someone you're already dating, or to someone who's quite sexually open and willing to do anything.
- Choose the right time. Even if you know he likes naughty messages, it's a good idea to send them when you know he's not busy. If he is working or taking an exam, he may not respond well. And if you want these naughty messages to physically reach your contact, it's best to make sure the person doesn't have anything important to do within an hour of you sending the message. Usually the best time to send a sexy message is at night, when he is alone, bored, and thinking about you. Night is also a sexier time.
- Since you're exchanging messages, it's impossible to tell the tone of your voice when you say something. So, if your message doesn't get a good response, you can just dodge and say you're just kidding.
- To be able to send both normal and naughty messages, try changing what you're doing to sound naughty. Like, "I'm sucking on a squishy pink lollipop, here. What are you doing?"
Warning
- Start slowly and don't be a scary person. Always find out his mood.
- Remember that sent messages can be stored and used to blackmail you. Don't send flirty messages to people you don't like, because people can read messages on your phone that you just left and you don't want to take the risk if that person doesn't really interest you.
- Be careful. Cell phones can fall into anyone's hands, and the person may find it funny when they trick you by sending you naughty messages that happen to be in the contacts without the owner of the phone knowing. So if a very beautiful girl or a very handsome boy sends you a naughty message, chances are that you are being pranked.
