A lot of people think it's silly to talk naughty, but with a little experimentation with the types of naughty chats that are right for you and your husband, talking naughty can be fun. This exact conversation really depends on your age, experience, personal taste, and the nature of your relationship.
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Part 1 of 3: Building a Naughty Atmosphere
Step 1. Imagine your husband's personality
How comfortable is he with physical expressions of love or romantic touch? How would he react if he saw you acting naughty? Is he conservative, or does he just like trying new things? What style of language does he use on a daily basis? Can he accept the use of profanity?
- What words you say when you talk naughty really depends on your husband's personality type. If he's very conservative and/or doesn't like profanity, you need to be gentle.
- For example, instead of saying, "You're so hot this time, I can't wait to be alone with you," you could say, "Handsome!" then kiss her lips flirtatiously briefly, or if she doesn't like expressing love in front of other people, just kiss her on the cheek.
Step 2. Experiment first
Find out how open he is to dirty chatter over things that aren't too vulgar at first. Talking naughty doesn't mean you have to use vulgar words. This could be done in a "safe" form, such as sending an affectionate text message like, "I can't stop thinking about you after last night;)" the day after the two of you made out.
You can even start by complimenting him more often, for example by saying "That shirt looks great on you" or "I love your dimples, you look so cute when you smile."
Step 3. Touch him more often
Many couples do not express love physically outside the bedroom. By touching him more often, you may be successful in making his desire increase and he will feel more comfortable with you, so he will be more open to trying new things.
Step 4. Talk things over about making out with him
If your husband is open enough, try talking about naughty things you'd like to try while making out. Keep the response in mind as you speak. The important thing is never to talk about these things right after you're done making out, as this could cause him to associate physical intimacy with serious talk.
- For example: “I love being alone with you, and I want to feel more connected to you. Maybe we can experiment a bit by trying to talk naughty to each other.”
- You can also do it more relaxed, and say, for example, "What do you think about naughty chatter?" You can say this while doing the dishes together, cooking dinner together, going out for a walk together, or anywhere and anytime, as long as it's NOT in the bedroom right after the two of you are done making out!
Step 5. Read guidebooks on naughty talk
If you're having a really hard time getting started with naughty talk, you might consider buying a guidebook and marking certain sections in it. You can even tell your husband that you are embarrassed to talk about it, so you can just show what you want to talk about in the form of a manual.
Step 6. Practice talking naughty alone
This may sound ridiculous, but practicing the words you want your husband to say will make you feel more comfortable when you actually say them to him later.
If you don't feel comfortable talking naughty alone, you can also practice being more direct and expressive in your daily life, for example, while enjoying a really delicious meal, let out delicious sighs; or when he kisses you, make a happy mumble (“mmm…”)
Step 7. Adjust the chat material to the situation
The words you say and how you pronounce them depend on the outcome you want.
- If the two of you are separated by distance, say each one is at school or at work, and you want to tease him a little, just send him a text like "I can't stop thinking about how handsome you were this morning/last night/etc."
- If you're both making out and he's doing something you enjoy, you can say, "I love it when you do that."
Step 8. Always make sure that you are sincere
Whether you're complimenting him, texting him, or talking naughty in bed, make sure you're being sincere with what you're saying. If done right, naughty talk can increase intimacy and strengthen the relationship between the two of you. Being insincere will actually have the opposite effect.
Part 2 of 3: Sending Naughty Texts and Emails
Step 1. Chat casually
Don't immediately send vulgar messages in the middle of a chat about family, a recently deceased dog, or other inappropriate topics. If you want to start talking naughty, do it in a graceful way. Start with something like "I wish you were here with me" or "I wish I was with you right now."
The key is to give him a chance to respond to what you have to say before this conversation gets into more naughty topics
Step 2. Don't use abbreviations
Of course this is modern times, but a messy style of language is still not something sexy (eg “Q wants you…”). If you really want to say something, take a few more seconds to send your message completely and correctly.
Step 3. Make your point clear
As soon as you're sure that he's open to talking naughty, you can talk naughtier and more vulgar. If you're still unsure about his level of acceptance of this, just take small steps and match what he does/says.
- One of the things that are commonly done in sending naughty messages is the ending / closing of the message in the form of an image of a flirtatious blinking eye (;)).
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If he doesn't respond in a similar way to your text messages, maybe he's not picking up on your naughty signals, or he just doesn't want to talk naughty. You need to judge this response based on your recognition of him. It's also possible, he pretended not to understand because he was joking. For example:
- You: “I can't wait to have dinner together, but I also want to just enjoy the 'dessert menu'!;)”
- He: “Indeed! That restaurant is famous for its delicious chocolate ice cream!”
- You: “Hehehe, yeah, I want to try that menu too, but I meant the other 'cover menu':P” or if you're really not sure, just answer with “:P”, which is pretty vague so that he understands that you mean something else, without you having to explain what you mean (so as not to make him feel uncomfortable).
Step 4. Submit tantalizing photos
The photo you send will depend on the level of your relationship with the person, and this could be a photo of your smiling face or a photo of you in slightly revealing clothes.
Try sending a “striptease” photo: post a first photo of you posing in a mischievous expression but fully clothed, then a second photo of only one of your pieces of clothing (tops, trousers, etc.) that you've taken off. Don't send him a nude photo of you, but let him imagine it himself
Step 5. Be careful when submitting photos
Don't ever think that these private photos will remain unspread. If you're worried that other people will see your photo in a risky pose, don't take any photos in that pose at all. Or at least, take pictures without showing your face at all.
- Contrary to popular belief, social media “Snapchat” is NOT a safe way to post sexy photos. Use another special application program to permanently delete “Snapchat” photos.
- While you may really trust your husband and believe that this relationship will last forever, understand that if anything were to happen to this relationship, you would not be able to get the photos back, and you would have no control over who sees them.. It was possible that he would show the photos to other people. It's not fair, and it's not really your fault, but it's a reality you need to accept.
Step 6. Do not send emails of a sexual nature (“sexting”) using a computer at your workplace
Not only are you at risk of getting caught while having fun, it's also totally inappropriate to do so. Always keep in mind that some companies also use typewriter programs or other monitoring methods to monitor business productivity.
Part 3 of 3: Naughty Talking in Bed
Step 1. Build a relaxed atmosphere
At the beginning of the process, it might feel weird to talk naughty all of a sudden. If you haven't already started, try moaning and moaning more often to show the pleasure you feel because of the things he does.
If you find it uncomfortable to moan or you don't like the sound of it, just remember the sounds you usually make. For example, there may be frequent sounds, “Mmm…” or moans of pleasure when enjoying a truly delicious meal. You can also use these voices in intimate situations
Step 2. Start with just one word first
If you're usually calm when it comes to making out, you may not feel like you're ready to say one naughty sentence right away. Just start with a word or two to show him that you're enjoying this intimate moment.
For example: “yes”, “mmm, how delicious…” “oh my goodness” (if you feel comfortable with words that are a little religious, you can also say “oh my God”)
Step 3. Watch how you pronounce the words
The way you pronounce these words is just as important as the words Anca says. For example, if you say “I really like that one” in a bored, monotonous voice, this will sound insincere to your husband. Speaking in a deep, slightly lower tone can make you sound sexier. Whispering in his ear would be a lot of fun too!
- You don't have to be vulgar or dirty when you talk naughty. So, if you really feel uncomfortable with dirty/vulgar words, don't say them! “#@$*!, you are hot!” as effective as “You are so hot!”.
- If you're speaking in a lower tone, make sure it's not too low, so you don't sound like someone in a trance!
Step 4. Combine touch with words
Don't just say "Do you like it when I do…?" or “You want me to do…?”, but do “that thing” and then ask if he enjoys it.
Step 5. Show him if he does something you enjoy
Men tend to have a certain prestige in terms of making out activities. If he's doing something in bed and you really enjoy it, just say so. This will not only make him feel comfortable, but also encourage his passion to do it again the next time.
- Example: “yes, I see”, “mmm… that tastes really good”
- If you want him to do something but you don't have the courage to ask him outright, just say "I love it when you do …"
Step 6. Express how much he excites you
Knowing that you're enjoying these intimate moments makes him enjoy it even more. Here are examples of how to express it:
- "I've been looking forward to this moment all day."
- "Duh, I'm really crazy about you."
Step 7. Use the words “magic”
You want to make him drunk? In a study conducted by "Cosmo" magazine, men chose the words that worked best to excite them in bed, namely "I'm almost at the peak of pleasure" (information that the woman will soon have an orgasm). Men like to hear this because, a) it greatly increases their pride; b) they will be more aroused when they know you are on the way to the peak of pleasure; and c) they will understand that they don't have to hold on to their passion any longer and they can reach the peak of that pleasure together with you.
Make sure you're really at this stage before saying it. If you say it but it's not, you're not only lying to him, but if he has an orgasm because of what you say, you should stop (or at least pause) from making out
Step 8. Don't overdo this
If moaning seems strange to you, you may be tempted to pretend that you're feeling pleasure (when you really aren't), and this will seem exaggerated. You don't have to scream or pretend to be gasping for air or do any other act to appear excited, as these will only make you look and sound like you're pretending.
Step 9. Pay close attention to the things he likes
If he enjoys what you're doing, he may groan or shake a little, or even take a moment to cool off before continuing to make out with you.
- If your husband isn't comfortable with what you're saying, he may stop, but for other reasons, and this will be evident in his body language (e.g., distancing himself from you, not smiling, or his penis no longer having an erection).
- If the two of you have been able to communicate easily, he will probably tell you right away that he doesn't like what you're saying.
Step 10. Be patient
Understanding exactly what words to say when speaking mischievously to your husband takes time. As you try to pronounce the next words, you will find out which ones are correct and which ones are not.
- Moaning, moaning, and words such as "oh my God" or "yes, I see" are usually acceptable, while more vulgar words (i.e. containing profanity or explicitly mentioning things of a sexual nature) are acceptable. so it made him feel uncomfortable.
- With open communication and attention to each other's body language, both of you will understand the proper naughty chatter!
Tips
- Keep your speech varied, so you don't become a husband who is too predictable. At times, you may say things that are more sexually explicit (“I can't wait to be alone with you tonight and do some naughty things”); but other times, say things more subtly (“Mmm… those are the jeans I like the most for you to wear!”).
- Making out should be a fun activity. If time is ticking and you're still having a hard time talking naughty, and neither of you are really enjoying it, then maybe naughty talk isn't right for either of you. If that's the case, don't be discouraged, just do other things that are more appropriate for both of you (for example, various games or sex toys).
- If you and your husband have a goofy sense of humor, this can be used in your naughty chatter. It's better to send a silly but sexy text message than to act silly while making out in bed. But what's important is finding what's right for both of you!
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